How much sex do you think you averaged per week in 2025

[Anonymous]

Until 2025 I'd say we had sex 6 times a month. It dropped to 3 or 4 times a month in 2025 for a whole variety of reasons. We're 60 and 62.

[Anonymous]

Zero
Times

50

His choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Less than once a week. Almost zero. The high point was a vacation where we had sex every morning. That was about all the sex for the year. That, plus maybe 2 other days. So if I think about it, I think we had sex 7 times this year. I'm 50, she's late 40s

Are you okay with this? Why not make time for more.

Not really. I can admit that I'm not good at initiating. We have kids in the 6 to 13 range. She keeps busy with lots of things. I also have things that keep me busy, too. She hasn't seemed bothered by our lack of sex. I was surprised when she brought it up on vacation

You're not really okay with the lack of sex but you don't initiate? Why? I admit that one of the drivers of my divorce was that my husband claimed he wanted us to have a better sex life but he didn't initiate and he didn't really want sex or intimacy like I did. He's emotional avoidant and low T.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Zero
Times

50

His choice.

Is he rich or do you have young kids? Why are you together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do so many people know this? Do they keep a calendar?
I can see how you know if it’s zero or literally every single night, but I couldn’t tell you if the average was once a week or three times a week.

This kind of reminds me of discussions with women where they can tell you the exact number of calories they eat every day and expect that everyone else keeps track of this information too. I don’t know. I eat when I’m hungry and then I stop when I’m full. I usually eat at mealtimes, but if I’m not hungry or I’m busy with something else at that time, then I don’t.

You must have a partner willing and able to have sex when you are. That's not the case with a lot of people. My husband would rather drink and watch tv, and 2025 is the year I stopped trying so hard, so we dropped to once every week or ten days. He's just not a very sexual person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why do avoidant partners do that? To gain power, sympathy, control or they like the chase? Not good for the relationship if they want to be with a partner long term, then why do it to begin with.

I look at it slightly differently. I ended up with an avoidant husband because my previous relationships had been so high intensity and I wanted something for the long run. Didn't really understand that a guy who could be convinced to have sex every 5 days at age 35 would be fine with no sex for two weeks at a time at age 55. Live and learn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:40 and DH is 42. Every day. Sometimes multiple times a day.

You guys both not working and no kids?

[Anonymous]

Zero.

Yes sadly that is the god honest truth.

But I am single. 🤭

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Zero
Times

50

His choice.

Is he rich or do you have young kids? Why are you together?

Nope. Elementary. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Less than once a week. Almost zero. The high point was a vacation where we had sex every morning. That was about all the sex for the year. That, plus maybe 2 other days. So if I think about it, I think we had sex 7 times this year. I'm 50, she's late 40s

Are you okay with this? Why not make time for more.

Not really. I can admit that I'm not good at initiating. We have kids in the 6 to 13 range. She keeps busy with lots of things. I also have things that keep me busy, too. She hasn't seemed bothered by our lack of sex. I was surprised when she brought it up on vacation

You're not really okay with the lack of sex but you don't initiate? Why? I admit that one of the drivers of my divorce was that my husband claimed he wanted us to have a better sex life but he didn't initiate and he didn't really want sex or intimacy like I did. He's emotional avoidant and low T.

I can admit that some of my shortcomings are:
- not good at flirting
- I haven't planned date nights
- i've always been shy about talking about sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Based on this month: once with spouse. Once with someone else. Hoping January isn’t so dry.

😩

[Anonymous]

On average five times a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced. 4 times this year. 100% better than when I was married, which was 0 for almost a decade (Married age 32-42).

No sex for a decade in between the age of 32-42? Wow!!! That's crazy. I have to ask - what happened?

+1 Agree.
Do share what happened.

[Anonymous]

0 times, his choice. Mid 40s. Jealous of others who have it but not to the point where I'd ever step out. I just accept it for what it is.

[Anonymous]

Averaging 2x/month. We are late 40s with young teens in a small house. Would love to do it more, but schedules have worked out this year such that DH and I are almost never home alone together.