How much sex do you think you averaged per week in 2025

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why do avoidant partners do that? To gain power, sympathy, control or they like the chase? Not good for the relationship if they want to be with a partner long term, then why do it to begin with.

I look at it slightly differently. I ended up with an avoidant husband because my previous relationships had been so high intensity and I wanted something for the long run. Didn't really understand that a guy who could be convinced to have sex every 5 days at age 35 would be fine with no sex for two weeks at a time at age 55. Live and learn.

Is he emotionally avoidant or sexually? The dismissive avoidant are people that run away from relationships and never commit to it for whatever reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do so many people know this? Do they keep a calendar?
I can see how you know if it’s zero or literally every single night, but I couldn’t tell you if the average was once a week or three times a week.

This kind of reminds me of discussions with women where they can tell you the exact number of calories they eat every day and expect that everyone else keeps track of this information too. I don’t know. I eat when I’m hungry and then I stop when I’m full. I usually eat at mealtimes, but if I’m not hungry or I’m busy with something else at that time, then I don’t.

We schedule it in the calendar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:0 times, his choice. Mid 40s. Jealous of others who have it but not to the point where I'd ever step out. I just accept it for what it is.

why he don't want to do sex? That's strange for his age.

[Anonymous]

30s. Once a month?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:0 times, his choice. Mid 40s. Jealous of others who have it but not to the point where I'd ever step out. I just accept it for what it is.

why he don't want to do sex? That's strange for his age.

She got fat.

[Anonymous]

She got fat.

In all fairness, so did he.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

She got fat.

In all fairness, so did he.

LOL! I have met plenty of fat girls and some of them are very horny and willing to do a lot of things in bed to keep their partners involved. Fat is not always the reason people don't want to do sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why do avoidant partners do that? To gain power, sympathy, control or they like the chase? Not good for the relationship if they want to be with a partner long term, then why do it to begin with.

I look at it slightly differently. I ended up with an avoidant husband because my previous relationships had been so high intensity and I wanted something for the long run. Didn't really understand that a guy who could be convinced to have sex every 5 days at age 35 would be fine with no sex for two weeks at a time at age 55. Live and learn.

Is he emotionally avoidant or sexually? The dismissive avoidant are people that run away from relationships and never commit to it for whatever reasons.

Both. More sexually though

[Anonymous]

Probably around 2x a week. Both 39 with 2 school aged kids and two very demanding jobs so it is hard to get it in more often than that (although we both want to)

[Anonymous]

for the people in their 50's who are having it twice a week. I'm fascinated and impressed. That seems like a lot ... how long have you been married? or are you dating? are the kids gone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:0 times, his choice. Mid 40s. Jealous of others who have it but not to the point where I'd ever step out. I just accept it for what it is.

why he don't want to do sex? That's strange for his age.

She got fat.

Nah, 56 120 lbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:0 times, his choice. Mid 40s. Jealous of others who have it but not to the point where I'd ever step out. I just accept it for what it is.

why he don't want to do sex? That's strange for his age.

She got fat.

Nah, 56 120 lbs.

5'6

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:for the people in their 50's who are having it twice a week. I'm fascinated and impressed. That seems like a lot ... how long have you been married? or are you dating? are the kids gone?

55F and 58M, married 31 years and together for 36 years. One young adult child out of the home and one teen in college. Our libidos have not always been in sync and it hasn't always been 2-3 times a week like it is now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Zero.

Yes sadly that is the god honest truth.

But I am single. 🤭

Zero also!
Widowed and just not motivated to add a romantic relationship to my plate on top of solo parenting/kid activities, assisting with an aging parent. Accepting this stage of life and figure when the youngest heads to college I'll have the bandwidth.
Have sometimes thought I should find a FWB, but not sure it's worth it...