would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ED school is a regular destination for this private. EA school is TBD but kid plans to break ED choice if admitted.
Income/aid is not a factor (HHI high). This is making kids who are interested in both the ED and EA schools upset.

At our HS if you signed the ED agreement they will not send additional info or final transcripts to another school unless you show good cause. Might want to keep that in mind.

[Anonymous]

No. It’s none of my business.

[Anonymous]

How can you report something that hasn't happened yet, that's not good, but also none of your business? It may affect kids younger with certain kinds of ED black listing, but it won't affect kids in the kid's grade. This is not for you to report.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Report to whom? The high school counselor?

This should be reported to the colleges.

It would be HIGHLY unethical to report something you suspect about another kid/family to a college when it has not happened. That is so out of bounds it takes my breath away.

[Anonymous]

This should be reported to the colleges.

What are you actually reporting? He said she said? Any primary source facts that are admissible in a court of law rather than court of gossip, speculation, and public opinion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our school has an accomplished student who got into their top choice school in non-binding early action and now he is waiting until all their decisions come in to commit to thE #1 choice EA school. So annoying because they are going to gobble up the spots at these other schools that their classmates really want to go to. Yes, this kid is exceptional in stats/ECs and will most definitely get in over the other kids.

And yet, if your kid were as exceptional or lucky it would be well within their right to do the same. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Our school has an accomplished student who got into their top choice school in non-binding early action and now he is waiting until all their decisions come in to commit to thE #1 choice EA school. So annoying because they are going to gobble up the spots at these other schools that their classmates really want to go to. Yes, this kid is exceptional in stats/ECs and will most definitely get in over the other kids.


Where is your evidence for the above? What proof do you have before you dribble and drool away? Facts not I heard, she said, he said. Just the facts mam or simple get out my court.

[Anonymous]

…beware of being held in contempt without facts instead of blaspheme!

[Anonymous]

People who are saying "the school will take care of it" aren't thinking about how the process works at a lot of schools. Kid might have written all the schools into SCOIR and, once it's in the system, the counselor doesn't look at it again. It could be an entirely different person like the registrar who sends transcripts or midyear reports.

I probably wouldn't report because I would hate to accuse someone who might not be guilty but this move would be very dishonest - to get the benefits of the ED without the responsibility - and extremely selfish. It could very well hurt future students at the school. If the ED school is Tulane and OP is the parent of a Junior whose first choice is Tulane, then she has every reason to be concerned. Tulane officially punished four schools this year because a student did not enroll after ED and never notified them with the reason. I recently heard a podcast about this issue and one of the college admissions people said that Tulane's decision is a surprise only because it was out in the open. Unofficially, colleges blacklist schools when students do this.

If OP tells anyone, it should be the high school counselor. They are in the position to prevent the EA from happening if that is their next step and will be the ones punished of the student goes through with the plan.

[Anonymous]

As a Director of Admission if a family sent me false and unsubstantiated gossip about another applicant it instantaneously triggers potentially dubious concerns about their child — who unknowingly will garner more inspection under our microscope of evaluation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Report to whom? The high school counselor?

Start there. The ultimate option is reporting to the college.

I'd think twice about reporting it to the college. First off, you have no idea whether it is true or not, high school kids talk crap about each other all of the time. In addition doing so will not benefit your own kid if anything it will harm them and their peers. Colleges generally shut out students from high schools that breach ED, either officially or unofficially so all you will be doing is making harder for your own kid. If you must stick your nose into this situation report it to your high school counseling staff, who frankly as others have pointed out, will have to send transcripts and won't unless there is something that you don't know because it is none of your business.

This.

[Anonymous]

TL: DR of course! A high school just got national attention and blackballed for allowing this. The parents and counselor sign an agreement. There is no equivocation here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you report something that hasn't happened yet, that's not good, but also none of your business? It may affect kids younger with certain kinds of ED black listing, but it won't affect kids in the kid's grade. This is not for you to report.

1. If what OP is saying is true (aka kid got in to their ED) then it *has* in fact happened because no other apps should be out anymore. They should’ve been pulled.

2. People saying report to colleges are unhinged. If it’s reported to anyone it’s to the school college counselors and let them manage the situation. They will decide next best course of action because if this student breaks their ED, it could affect schools future applicants.

Report anon and no one is the wiser. Why is this so hard?

[eastcoastmom]

Anonymous wrote:This is highly unethical.

Seen a lot of kids EA MIT, at the same time ED an ivy (Penn or Cornell), on top of that, EA Chicago, EA USC. EA MIT is considered a grey area, a loop hole.

Even worse, some kids REA one of HYPS, then ED/EA to an ivy plus at the same time.

In my opinion, their acceptance(s) should be rescinded, both EA/REA and ED acceptance.

You are allowed to apply ED and EA (as long as it is not restrictive EA). I also can't imagine being this involved or concerned about another student's college list.

[Anonymous]

eastcoastmom wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is highly unethical.

Seen a lot of kids EA MIT, at the same time ED an ivy (Penn or Cornell), on top of that, EA Chicago, EA USC. EA MIT is considered a grey area, a loop hole.

Even worse, some kids REA one of HYPS, then ED/EA to an ivy plus at the same time.

In my opinion, their acceptance(s) should be rescinded, both EA/REA and ED acceptance.

You are allowed to apply ED and EA (as long as it is not restrictive EA). I also can't imagine being this involved or concerned about another student's college list.

I don’t think OPs kid or anyone else at their school (and therefore this thread) would be involved if the kid in question wasn’t running around openly talking about it/bragging about it so… what’s the saying about FA and finding out?