would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?

[Anonymous]

I can tell not many responses are from private school families because if there is one defining characteristic of such families, it is willingness to complain about pretty much anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ED school is a regular destination for this private. EA school is TBD but kid plans to break ED choice if admitted.
Income/aid is not a factor (HHI high). This is making kids who are interested in both the ED and EA schools upset.

MYOB

Your kid didn’t lose a slot

You are just jealous maga

So very angry. Why?

[Anonymous]

The need to legitimize cheating by some parents here are appalling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Planning on breaking isn't the same as actually breaking. May happen or not. I would report to the counselor if they do actually break it but not based on talk of a vague plan.

+1 it's hearsay.

Plus, kids don't often tell the truth to their friends. It is very common for a kid to tell friends they were admitted ED when they were not, or be admitted but then have a financial issue causing them to seek to be released from the agreement. Plenty of motivation to lie or not tell the whole truth.

The counselor can figure that out after a complaint is made.

I would keep in mind that the counselor will be writing Mid Year Reports for all students, including The Whiner's child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can see the interest that schools families would have in pressuring this family into not breaking the ED contract, so that future applicants from this school do not suffer consequences from this college.

But how is this conversation going to go, exactly? "Hi, I'm Larlo's Mom, and heard Larlito was planning on abandoning his ED pick and going to another college?" I mean, that makes you look crazy, OP. Your reputation is on the line if this is not true.

How about “the kids are all worked up because they’ve heard Larlito plans on not rescinding their app to USC even though they got in ED to Penn. I’m sure it’s likely just a rumor, but would be great if you could look into it.”

PP you replied to. It's still naming a young person who might be innocent. I would go as far as to inquire formally, in writing, for the school to confirm policy regarding ED decisions, and is expected to enforce ED commitments. Who at school is responsible for making sure that the student withdraws from other colleges once they receive an ED acceptance?

That should alert them that they need to supervise this year's acceptances...

[Anonymous]

^ sorry, garbled my sentence above. You get the gist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can see the interest that schools families would have in pressuring this family into not breaking the ED contract, so that future applicants from this school do not suffer consequences from this college.

But how is this conversation going to go, exactly? "Hi, I'm Larlo's Mom, and heard Larlito was planning on abandoning his ED pick and going to another college?" I mean, that makes you look crazy, OP. Your reputation is on the line if this is not true.

How about “the kids are all worked up because they’ve heard Larlito plans on not rescinding their app to USC even though they got in ED to Penn. I’m sure it’s likely just a rumor, but would be great if you could look into it.”

PP you replied to. It's still naming a young person who might be innocent. I would go as far as to inquire formally, in writing, for the school to confirm policy regarding ED decisions, and is expected to enforce ED commitments. Who at school is responsible for making sure that the student withdraws from other colleges once they receive an ED acceptance?

That should alert them that they need to supervise this year's acceptances...

Well if they're innocent, they're innocent. How is this bad for the kid?

[Anonymous]

I would notify the EA school anonymously that the student already has been accepted ED to the other. school. Include high school counselor contact info so the EA school can verify it. They will reject the application, and the student will then attend the ED school.

This about protecting your school’s rep with the ED school so that future students don’t pay an awful price for this one student/family’s ugly behavior. It is not about getting this kid punished. If that happens, they brought it on themself. But it should not be the goal.

[Anonymous]

I would contact the school’s college counselor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Planning on breaking isn't the same as actually breaking. May happen or not. I would report to the counselor if they do actually break it but not based on talk of a vague plan.

+1 it's hearsay.

Plus, kids don't often tell the truth to their friends. It is very common for a kid to tell friends they were admitted ED when they were not, or be admitted but then have a financial issue causing them to seek to be released from the agreement. Plenty of motivation to lie or not tell the whole truth.

The counselor can figure that out after a complaint is made.

I would keep in mind that the counselor will be writing Mid Year Reports for all students, including The Whiner's child.

Who writes mid year reports on all the kids? Our school does not and most colleges do not want anything formal from the kid, let alone the high school. A mid-year report is a relic of private school college admissions in 1995.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would notify the EA school anonymously that the student already has been accepted ED to the other. school. Include high school counselor contact info so the EA school can verify it. They will reject the application, and the student will then attend the ED school.

This about protecting your school’s rep with the ED school so that future students don’t pay an awful price for this one student/family’s ugly behavior. It is not about getting this kid punished. If that happens, they brought it on themself. But it should not be the goal.

I think this email would be ignored, same as any other snitching on applicants by anonymous parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Planning on breaking isn't the same as actually breaking. May happen or not. I would report to the counselor if they do actually break it but not based on talk of a vague plan.

+1 it's hearsay.

Plus, kids don't often tell the truth to their friends. It is very common for a kid to tell friends they were admitted ED when they were not, or be admitted but then have a financial issue causing them to seek to be released from the agreement. Plenty of motivation to lie or not tell the whole truth.

The counselor can figure that out after a complaint is made.

I would keep in mind that the counselor will be writing Mid Year Reports for all students, including The Whiner's child.

Who writes mid year reports on all the kids? Our school does not and most colleges do not want anything formal from the kid, let alone the high school. A mid-year report is a relic of private school college admissions in 1995.

Relic? Many, perhaps most, colleges require a Mid Year Report per Common App, including ED1 schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Planning on breaking isn't the same as actually breaking. May happen or not. I would report to the counselor if they do actually break it but not based on talk of a vague plan.

+1 it's hearsay.

Plus, kids don't often tell the truth to their friends. It is very common for a kid to tell friends they were admitted ED when they were not, or be admitted but then have a financial issue causing them to seek to be released from the agreement. Plenty of motivation to lie or not tell the whole truth.

The counselor can figure that out after a complaint is made.

I would keep in mind that the counselor will be writing Mid Year Reports for all students, including The Whiner's child.

Who writes mid year reports on all the kids? Our school does not and most colleges do not want anything formal from the kid, let alone the high school. A mid-year report is a relic of private school college admissions in 1995.

No, the Mid Year Report is still required by most schools. It's submitted electronically along with fall senior year grades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Planning on breaking isn't the same as actually breaking. May happen or not. I would report to the counselor if they do actually break it but not based on talk of a vague plan.

+1 it's hearsay.

Plus, kids don't often tell the truth to their friends. It is very common for a kid to tell friends they were admitted ED when they were not, or be admitted but then have a financial issue causing them to seek to be released from the agreement. Plenty of motivation to lie or not tell the whole truth.

The counselor can figure that out after a complaint is made.

I would keep in mind that the counselor will be writing Mid Year Reports for all students, including The Whiner's child.

Who writes mid year reports on all the kids? Our school does not and most colleges do not want anything formal from the kid, let alone the high school. A mid-year report is a relic of private school college admissions in 1995.

Relic? Many, perhaps most, colleges require a Mid Year Report per Common App, including ED1 schools.

A "mid year report" is Common App speak for TRANSCRIPT, not an essay from the counselor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would notify the EA school anonymously that the student already has been accepted ED to the other. school. Include high school counselor contact info so the EA school can verify it. They will reject the application, and the student will then attend the ED school.

This about protecting your school’s rep with the ED school so that future students don’t pay an awful price for this one student/family’s ugly behavior. It is not about getting this kid punished. If that happens, they brought it on themself. But it should not be the goal.

I think this email would be ignored, same as any other snitching on applicants by anonymous parties.

Only one way to find out.