I deserve better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea, this is your fault. It's your birthday and you didn't look at your phone for hours to see if you'd hear from your boyfriend? That's odd.

It does sound passive aggressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. he should’ve just made advance plans with me like a normal person does. I even initiated the conversation to make plans and articulated my desires, so as not to expect him to mind read. I didn’t ask for a ton here, I don’t think? Just hey honey..reminder it’s my birthday and I wanna spend it with you.

Birthdays are childish and overrated but if it is important to you, it matters.

[Anonymous]

Grown women making birthday a big deal is absurd, grown men making video games a big deal is equally absurd. Lack of communication and care from both sides are red flags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grown women making birthday a big deal is absurd, grown men making video games a big deal is equally absurd. Lack of communication and care from both sides are red flags.

There was no lack of communication. She clearly told him a week before that she wanted to be with him on her birthday. Mr. Cool wanted to have his options open until the last minute and then conveniently made other plans when he didn't hear from her for a couple of hours. I would drop him like a hot potato.

[Anonymous]

How’s it childish? All that was asked was for quality time in the weekend. I mean heck a lot of people in relationships just ask for that on a typical Saturday.

[Anonymous]

Honestly the flag here is that he's an adult gamer. Dump him.

[Anonymous]

He’s not interested in you. He didn’t plan anything out. If he had- you would have been asked earlier. At least he would have texted you and called a few times if he had some steaks marinating. You were an option for the moment. Time to move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, this is your fault. It's your birthday and you didn't look at your phone for hours to see if you'd hear from your boyfriend? That's odd.

It does sound passive aggressive.

This could be true. OP: Do you like to play games? Set up scenarios in order to test people around you? Have you given this some thought?

It’s not a capital offense. It is a learned behavior.

There is a chance that the other person recognized this pattern —and decided to send his /her own purposeful message (by his non verbal response!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, this is your fault. It's your birthday and you didn't look at your phone for hours to see if you'd hear from your boyfriend? That's odd.

It does sound passive aggressive.

This could be true. OP: Do you like to play games? Set up scenarios in order to test people around you? Have you given this some thought?

It’s not a capital offense. It is a learned behavior.

There is a chance that the other person recognized this pattern —and decided to send his /her own purposeful message (by his non verbal response!).

What is passive aggressive about telling your partner you want to spend time together on your birthday? I swear some of you people just accept any kind of treatment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. he should’ve just made advance plans with me like a normal person does. I even initiated the conversation to make plans and articulated my desires, so as not to expect him to mind read. I didn’t ask for a ton here, I don’t think? Just hey honey..reminder it’s my birthday and I wanna spend it with you.

Birthdays are childish and overrated but if it is important to you, it matters.

Who are you people who keep repeating this drivel? Birthdays are neither childish not overrated. It's one day a day to celebrate someone special in your life. If your most intimate partner can't summon the energy to spend a few hours with you, then who can? Stop repeating this dumb nonsense.

[Anonymous]

You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.

Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.

Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH

He did try to make a plan. And OP was MIA. Did you miss that part?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.

Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH

Then why did she say OK hours after it was sent?

[Anonymous]

Well it def sounds like you guys aren’t a good fit. Worth it to do a little introspection to figure out what you need to feel love and how you can communicate that to your next partner instead of just waiting and hoping they will figure it out. You may think it’s obvious but everyone has very different needs.

Also, time to be brutally honest with yourself about the immaturity and ineffectiveness of the silent treatment. It’s manipulative and gross. You need to outgrow it.