I deserve better

[Anonymous]

Today’s my birthday. I told my boyfriend a week in advance I’d like him to come over today and spend time at my place for my bday. he said he didn’t know if he was free.

I was disappointed and have been taking space this week assuming we won’t see each other. he texted this afternoon asking if I could come over because he wanted to cook me a nice bday dinner.
I didn’t see it til a few hours later and said ok.

Then he says he hadn’t heard from me all day so now he made plans to play video games with his friends. I deserve better.

[Anonymous]

Dump him. He doesn’t like you. Sorry. Been there.

[Anonymous]

So if you responded in a timely manner, you'd be over at his house right now having a romantic dinner.

Do you really want to break up because you were so slow to respond?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So if you responded in a timely manner, you'd be over at his house right now having a romantic dinner.

Do you really want to break up because you were so slow to respond?

She wants to be prioritized; not an option.

[Anonymous]

Yea, this is your fault. It's your birthday and you didn't look at your phone for hours to see if you'd hear from your boyfriend? That's odd.

[Anonymous]

If you are still at the part of your relationship where you are making dates, then he needs to confirm them at least two days in advance.
You should have made other plans for your birthday. Telling him “okay” to a birthday dinner at the last minute sounds like you have no life outside of him.

[Anonymous]

OP here. he should’ve just made advance plans with me like a normal person does. I even initiated the conversation to make plans and articulated my desires, so as not to expect him to mind read. I didn’t ask for a ton here, I don’t think? Just hey honey..reminder it’s my birthday and I wanna spend it with you.

[Anonymous]

OP, how old are you? Is this bf a teenager? If he is 16, this behavior seems normal but if he is 40, it's wildly inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today’s my birthday. I told my boyfriend a week in advance I’d like him to come over today and spend time at my place for my bday. he said he didn’t know if he was free.

I was disappointed and have been taking space this week assuming we won’t see each other. he texted this afternoon asking if I could come over because he wanted to cook me a nice bday dinner.
I didn’t see it til a few hours later and said ok.

Then he says he hadn’t heard from me all day so now he made plans to play video games with his friends. I deserve better.

Why do you think that?
It's your fault you didn't check your messages on your own Bday. Who does that?

Sounds like you are not mature enough for an adult relationship.
Also why are you dating man-children who play video games?

Let us guess, he is close to your own age and not at least 10 years older huh? That's what you get for dating children.

[Anonymous]

And he planned out a romantic dinner, invited you.. and you didn't respond in a timely manner.

Sure, break up with him. Plenty of other men out there who will be better planners, and meet all your other requirements, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea, this is your fault. It's your birthday and you didn't look at your phone for hours to see if you'd hear from your boyfriend? That's odd.

No. It's his fault. She communicated, a week ago, that she'd like to spend time. He didn't make it a priority. He waited until the day of, probably to see if something better would come along. He's 100% treating her like he could take it/leave it.

Leave him, OP. He sucks, and you do deserve better. Don't settle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, this is your fault. It's your birthday and you didn't look at your phone for hours to see if you'd hear from your boyfriend? That's odd.

No. It's his fault. She communicated, a week ago, that she'd like to spend time. He didn't make it a priority. He waited until the day of, probably to see if something better would come along. He's 100% treating her like he could take it/leave it.

Leave him, OP. He sucks, and you do deserve better. Don't settle.

That's how one becomes a bitter old cat lady yelling at kids on their lawn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Today’s my birthday. I told my boyfriend a week in advance I’d like him to come over today and spend time at my place for my bday. he said he didn’t know if he was free.

I was disappointed and have been taking space this week assuming we won’t see each other. he texted this afternoon asking if I could come over because he wanted to cook me a nice bday dinner.
I didn’t see it til a few hours later and said ok.

Then he says he hadn’t heard from me all day so now he made plans to play video games with his friends. I deserve better.

Why do you think that?
It's your fault you didn't check your messages on your own Bday. Who does that?

Sounds like you are not mature enough for an adult relationship.
Also why are you dating man-children who play video games?

Let us guess, he is close to your own age and not at least 10 years older huh? That's what you get for dating children.

Eww. Grown men are, by definition, not children, and shouldn't need even the basic level of handholding OP provided. Someone who cared wouldn't need to be told to make plans for her birthday. He would've asked, at a minimum.

Quit excusing mediocrity from "men". Guys, you need to grow up!

[Anonymous]

Dump him, unless you want to spend the rest of your life with him like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, this is your fault. It's your birthday and you didn't look at your phone for hours to see if you'd hear from your boyfriend? That's odd.

No. It's his fault. She communicated, a week ago, that she'd like to spend time. He didn't make it a priority. He waited until the day of, probably to see if something better would come along. He's 100% treating her like he could take it/leave it.

Leave him, OP. He sucks, and you do deserve better. Don't settle.

That's how one becomes a bitter old cat lady yelling at kids on their lawn.

Better than being a trope-spewing basement dweller regurgitating incel culture nonsense on a mommy board. *shrug*