Boyfriend gave terrible gift.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything. BUT, giving someone a used water bottle as a gift is gross. I highly doubt he rinsed it out before giving it to her, if it were in fact new.

Maybe it was new but it was a "return" at the store and he did not open it and checked.

So, I would tell my DD to let him know so this can be returned at the store.

Maybe DD can tell him gently and privately - that they should not exchange gifts in the future.

I disagree that your DD should keep her mouth shut. Why should she be a doormat and passive in her relationship? What a stupid advice.

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No need to raise girls to be quiet little church mice who should be grateful for whatever crumbs are thrown her way.

Why not respect the girl’s feelings about this? Why tell her that her feelings are not valid and she should feeling the way her mom thinks she should?

Sure, so if he starts hitting her and she says she "doesnt mind", should we just let it continue? Or teach her to have standards and self respect? Where is your line on teaching children unacceptable behavior from others?

You aren’t good at nuance, are you?

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Anonymous wrote:He didn't even clean it. OP says it was colored liquid inside. That's disgusting.

Colored? Where?

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It will end up in a boyfriend bonfire soon enough.

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Anonymous wrote:He didn't even clean it. OP says it was colored liquid inside. That's disgusting.

Colored? Where?

OP clarified in a later post that the liquid wasn't water. She said it was like juice.

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My BIL gave my sister a regift for their first gift and didn’t take off the tag. It was really bad, think if something like a gift from his Aunt. And he made a speech about how special she was and how he picked it out for her and she found the tag later.

She didn’t break up with him and we are all still teasing him about it and laughing 20 years later. He’s actually a great guy and was just young and stupid then.

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Anonymous wrote:maybe she had noticed one and liked it, maybe it was his moms and he asked if he could give it to her etc. Who knows.

I think jumping to the conclusion of bad intent or bad character is a pretty sexist view. That males shouldn't be understood or given the benefit of the doubt - but should just be assumed to be bad people with bad intentions without even exploring the situation.

If OPs daughter had seen something used that she thought her boyfriend had really liked and gave it to him, I doubt the thread would be people accusing her immediately of being a horrible person with bad intent.

Thank you! It's mind-boggling how many grown women are bashing a 17 year old boy with zero knowledge of his character or intent.

Uh it was a dirty used water bottle. What kind of knowledge of character or intent is needed?

He should have given his 17 year old GF of three months a diamond studs, OBVIOUSLY!!!! Come on!!! Raise your boys right.

Yeah those are the only two options and any woman who has an issue with a dirty used gift is a gold digger.

Having an issue with any gift is a character flaw.

Exactly. Especially if the giver is a boy who probably has no money of his own.

This is not a no money issue, are you clueless? It’s a water bottle, used, that literally had the remnant of someone else’s beverage still in it! This is beyond rude and gross. I would be hoping my daughter dumps him asap. If not for the blatant disrespect, for being too stupid to realize that it.

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Anonymous wrote:He didn't even clean it. OP says it was colored liquid inside. That's disgusting.

Colored? Where?

OP said it looked like tea or juice

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Anonymous wrote:My BIL gave my sister a regift for their first gift and didn’t take off the tag. It was really bad, think if something like a gift from his Aunt. And he made a speech about how special she was and how he picked it out for her and she found the tag later.

She didn’t break up with him and we are all still teasing him about it and laughing 20 years later. He’s actually a great guy and was just young and stupid then.

Not nearly as bad. At least it was new. A comparison would be if he gave her a partially used tube of lipstick.

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You’re. Piece of shit OP

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Anonymous wrote:He didn't even clean it. OP says it was colored liquid inside. That's disgusting.

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Ewwww

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Was it returned to the store used and placed back for sale?

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Anonymous wrote:My BIL gave my sister a regift for their first gift and didn’t take off the tag. It was really bad, think if something like a gift from his Aunt. And he made a speech about how special she was and how he picked it out for her and she found the tag later.

She didn’t break up with him and we are all still teasing him about it and laughing 20 years later. He’s actually a great guy and was just young and stupid then.

Not nearly as bad. At least it was new. A comparison would be if he gave her a partially used tube of lipstick.

It was food and he had opened it and resealed. I should have mentioned that.

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So what does OP think of gift of BF sweaty t-shirt? Better or worse than water bottle?

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Anonymous wrote:So what does OP think of gift of BF sweaty t-shirt? Better or worse than water bottle?

Sexy time!

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My 9th grade "boyfriend" gave me a Dead Kennedys album that was essentially unlistenable. My mom did not get involved.