Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
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Anonymous
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DD is a senior in hs and recently had a birthday.
She’s been dating her boyfriend for about three months. First time being in a relationship for both of them. He seems nice enough. I don’t know him well. She showed me the gift he gave her, a water bottle. Then she opened it to find it had remnants of liquid inside. It was used and he hadn’t even cleaned it out. I didn’t say anything but it does make me question him. I understand not having a lot of money, but being thoughtful is key. DD doesn’t seem bothered by the gift. She’s not materialistic at all. As her mother should I say something or ask any questions. I don’t want to make her feel bad but this gift does make me question him. I realize some people are terrible gift givers, but this gift really seems to lack effort. What does DCUM say? |
Anonymous
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Stay out of it other than to make sure she washes that bottle very well inside and out before using.
Yes, of COURSE a used water bottle is a terrible gift! But if she doesn't care, then she doesn't care. Of COURSE you should keep your mouth shut. |
Anonymous
| I don’t think it’s a bad gift. Could he perhaps have rinsed it out as a courtesy before giving it to her? |
Anonymous
| He probably washed it out before giving it to her. It could be new. You never know. MYOB. |
Anonymous
| He may have just rinsed it out. Assuming the worst of someone isn’t a great quality you have yourself OP. |
Anonymous
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He wasn't even obligated to give her a gift at all!
And obviously he rinsed out the bottle. Is this a troll? No one can be this entitled and dumb. |
Anonymous
| Extra! Extra! Teen boys may still be learning about being in relationships and giving gifts their girlfriend's mother will approve of! |
Anonymous
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Is it one of those $30-$40 type cups?
I think this is odd but I would give benefit of the doubt. If it was a store item or new regift, maybe it had gotten dusty. My h.s. boyfriend gave me new Mary Kay makeup his mom couldn't sell as a Mary Kay trainee. I knew why. It didn't bother me. |
Anonymous
| 3 months of dating is not cause for roses and jewelry. You are way too judgmental. |
Anonymous
Seriously, this. I mean kids have to learn to be good gift givers. And sounds like he’s doing great if he gave one and that your DD liked it. You are not the recipient. And why would you ruin the moment for your DD by suggesting it was a bad gift. |
Anonymous
| Isn’t this a troll? How can you possibly care? |
Anonymous
| MYOB. 3 months?? What do you suggest - caviar and jewelry?!!! |
Anonymous
This. Careful, or you’ll raise a princess. |
Anonymous
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OP, MYOB.
This is how you turn your DD into a materialistic, judgmental person. He gave a gift and she liked it. That makes you question him (twice!)? Butt out. |
Anonymous
| Who would you say anything to? What are you trying to accomplish? You seem like a nightmare honestly. |