His credit card gave me the ick

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Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

You don't deserve this guy. Anyone carrying this card is making bank.

+ 1
DH and I both use this card for everything.

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Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really prettyi card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

The card is feminine, that's really not up for dispute, is it? I posted a photo of it above. However, I'm not saying that's what actually bothers me. I honestly think his embarrassment of it and failure to own it bothered me more. Or maybe a little of both. I'm not proud to say this, obviously. It's shallow, I guess.

It's a credit card, OP. It's not masculine or feminine. You made a comment about his card and he was defensive. You and the waitress were commenting on his "pretty" card and that sounds an awful lot like shaming him for not choosing something "masculine" as though that's even a thing for a credit card.

You also titled this post "His credit card gave me the ick" - if you meant "his refusal to be proud that he ordered the flower card instead of a different one gave me the ick" you should have titled the thread that instead.

You are not getting the responses you wanted and are trying to re-write the story to make you look less shallow. It's not working.

Pretty is not charged or passive-aggressive language. It is a pretty, eye-catching card! The waitress did not hear me call it pretty, she too said it was pretty when she dropped the card and receipts back at our table. You're suggesting the waitress was shaming him, too, when neither of us were.

You wrote his credit card gave you the ick. Of course you are shaming him. Now you want to pretend your reaction was to something different

It is in fact a feminine design, clearly marketed at women. And it is in fact a pretty card. That's not to say straight men can't carry it without giving women they're dating the ick. I am honestly not sure if the card itself bothered me as much or even at all. I think it was much more his insecurity about it, blaming the company for sending it to him, and defensive posture at two harmless, genuine compliments that it was a pretty card.

If you aren’t a troll, please get yourself into therapy. Stat.

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Anonymous wrote:I like very masculine men, and this would not bother me at all. It wouldn't even register with me to have a response either way.

You have to go out of your way to request these unique Amex platinum cards, they’re not the default. It would also take no more than 24 hours to have the card replaced with the default card via overnight delivery. It would be masculine to admit he ordered that specific card and kept it because he too likes it and thank the ladies for the compliment. Instead he got red-faced, defensive and blamed Amex for sending it to him, which is deceptive, effeminate and weak.

OMG. You need therapy too. Stat!

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.businesswire.com/news/home/20211202005583/en/American-Express-Unveils-New-U.S.-Consumer-Platinum-Card-Designs-by-World-Renowned-Artists-Julie-Mehretu-and-Kehinde-Wiley

I guess you want the spiritual one?
It's a nice card.

I knew I recognized those flowers from somewhere. It's the Obama portrait artist.

OMG I always thought that was a meme but it's real!

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Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

What is the card number, expiration date, and 3 digit code please?

You forgot the zip code and last 4 digits of SS number, plus mother's maiden name.

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Anonymous wrote:I like very masculine men, and this would not bother me at all. It wouldn't even register with me to have a response either way.

You have to go out of your way to request these unique Amex platinum cards, they’re not the default. It would also take no more than 24 hours to have the card replaced with the default card via overnight delivery. It would be masculine to admit he ordered that specific card and kept it because he too likes it and thank the ladies for the compliment. Instead he got red-faced, defensive and blamed Amex for sending it to him, which is deceptive, effeminate and weak.

Him (calling): Hi credit card company. My card is lost, can you please send a new one?

Them: Of course sir, would you like one of our new design options?

Him (not caring): What? Um, sure.

Them: mails card, any card, because they are all credit cards.

Him: Hey, my card is here.

(later) You: OH, loOk aT yOUr PrETty CaRd! It'S sO PrEttY!

Him (thinking): I can't believe I'm back here again, having these boring, inane first date conversations.

Him (speaking): Yes, it's the replacement card they sent me.

*end scene*

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Anonymous wrote:I like very masculine men, and this would not bother me at all. It wouldn't even register with me to have a response either way.

You have to go out of your way to request these unique Amex platinum cards, they’re not the default. It would also take no more than 24 hours to have the card replaced with the default card via overnight delivery. It would be masculine to admit he ordered that specific card and kept it because he too likes it and thank the ladies for the compliment. Instead he got red-faced, defensive and blamed Amex for sending it to him, which is deceptive, effeminate and weak.

Him (calling): Hi credit card company. My card is lost, can you please send a new one?

Them: Of course sir, would you like one of our new design options?

Him (not caring): What? Um, sure.

Them: mails card, any card, because they are all credit cards.

Him: Hey, my card is here.

(later) You: OH, loOk aT yOUr PrETty CaRd! It'S sO PrEttY!

Him (thinking): I can't believe I'm back here again, having these boring, inane first date conversations.

Him (speaking): Yes, it's the replacement card they sent me.

*end scene*

Clap clap clap clap "Bravo!" "Bravo!"

What's in store for Act 1 Scene 2? I miss theatre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

lol I think he was embarrassed for you because you didn’t realize it was an Amex Platinum. They don’t hand these out to everyone. The annual fee is $700.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

lol I think he was embarrassed for you because you didn’t realize it was an Amex Platinum. They don’t hand these out to everyone. The annual fee is $700.

That's just crazy. What is the advantage of that? Do you get more cash back or something? If so it's a push unless you use it a lot.
Many places don't like taking Amex either cause they have to pay higher fees as vendors.

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Anonymous wrote:This feels like a Curb Your Enthusiasm storyline.

Just admit you ordered the girly flowery card, Larry!

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Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

Ewwwwwww!

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Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

The card is feminine, that's really not up for dispute, is it? I posted a photo of it above. However, I'm not saying that's what actually bothers me. I honestly think his embarrassment of it and failure to own it bothered me more. Or maybe a little of both. I'm not proud to say this, obviously. It's shallow, I guess.

It's a credit card, OP. It's not masculine or feminine. You made a comment about his card and he was defensive. You and the waitress were commenting on his "pretty" card and that sounds an awful lot like shaming him for not choosing something "masculine" as though that's even a thing for a credit card.

You also titled this post "His credit card gave me the ick" - if you meant "his refusal to be proud that he ordered the flower card instead of a different one gave me the ick" you should have titled the thread that instead.

You are not getting the responses you wanted and are trying to re-write the story to make you look less shallow. It's not working.

Pretty is not charged or passive-aggressive language. It is a pretty, eye-catching card! The waitress did not hear me call it pretty, she too said it was pretty when she dropped the card and receipts back at our table. You're suggesting the waitress was shaming him, too, when neither of us were.

You wrote his credit card gave you the ick. Of course you are shaming him. Now you want to pretend your reaction was to something different

It is in fact a feminine design, clearly marketed at women. And it is in fact a pretty card. That's not to say straight men can't carry it without giving women they're dating the ick. I am honestly not sure if the card itself bothered me as much or even at all. I think it was much more his insecurity about it, blaming the company for sending it to him, and defensive posture at two harmless, genuine compliments that it was a pretty card.

The only ick you should have gotten is because he was too lazy to ask the credit card company to correct the mistake of sending him a weird card.

While flowers are considered feminine, that's not a very attractive design. I doubt that he picked it. As a woman who occasionally picks girly things, that card is not particularly stylish.

My husband would have been too lazy to get it fixed but might have been fine with rocking a totally random card. Because it's a little funny.

Oohh...maybe his wife picked it!!!

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Anonymous wrote:He could have a my little pony prepaid visa, i don't care as long as the payment clears and its actually his name on it so there is no fraud LOL!!

Where can I sign up for a My Little Pony prepaid Visa? I am so down for that.

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I would never have guessed that was Kehinde Wiley artwork looking at the actual flowers on the card.

I think Kehinde Wiley is very talented and I have seen the Obama portrait in person.

Don't like the card. Looks like Hallmark. Does not go with the centurion.

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I want this one. My current Platinum AMEX is plain ugly.