Did your 99th percentile kid stay tall?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. DD is 5’11” at 16.

80% percentile

For a girl? No.

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Anonymous wrote:My five year old daughter is 99.75 percentile height. People comment on it CONSTANTLY. In front of her. I really don’t know what to do about it because on the one hand, I want to treat it like a compliment because I want her to see it as a positive or neutral. But on the other hand, I’m so angry at them for calling out her body.

So from a tall mom of a tall kid, please hear my plea: you don’t need to tell me she’s tall. I already know! You might be shocked to discover, I can see her. Thank you.

Sorry, this is completely unhinged.

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Anonymous wrote:Usually 99th percentile is from GD so totally unrelated to actual size

Citation?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My five year old daughter is 99.75 percentile height. People comment on it CONSTANTLY. In front of her. I really don’t know what to do about it because on the one hand, I want to treat it like a compliment because I want her to see it as a positive or neutral. But on the other hand, I’m so angry at them for calling out her body.

So from a tall mom of a tall kid, please hear my plea: you don’t need to tell me she’s tall. I already know! You might be shocked to discover, I can see her. Thank you.

Tall person with tall kids. This will never end. People don’t care and are rude and will tell you you’re over sensitive. If people walked around openly discussing weight the way they discuss height it would get interesting quick.

You’re both nuts. And (deliberately) over sensitive. People comment on tall kids the way they comment on beautiful kids. If you’re offended or angered by it it’s an excellent indication that you have absolutely zero real problems in your life and are craving drama.

Signed - mom of two off the charts tall kids

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The biggest issue with having a tall child is that they expect your child to be older than she is and act that way. When your 8 year old is more than 5 feet tall, they get looks and even comments when they are playing with age appropriate toys or reading a children's book because they expect her to be in middle school. My DD who is 6 ft at 14 is expected to act like she's in high school all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:The biggest issue with having a tall child is that they expect your child to be older than she is and act that way. When your 8 year old is more than 5 feet tall, they get looks and even comments when they are playing with age appropriate toys or reading a children's book because they expect her to be in middle school. My DD who is 6 ft at 14 is expected to act like she's in high school all the time.

I hear you. I have one tall DD (5'9") at 15 and a very short DD (10th% at 8, skipped a grade, so extremely short for class). The flip is true for the short one. When she was 3 she looked like 18 months and spoke like a 4 year old. I got comments about her "genius" all the time. I used to correct people and say, she's only a little advanced. Then it got so old I would just smile and say thanks.

OP, my older DD was 99th% until puberty and while she grew some kids grew taller. I think she's 70-something% now, tall, not super tall.

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I am 5'4" and DH is 5'10", but my father is tall, and DH is much the shortest of his siblings (BILs are 6'3" and 6'4" and SIL is 5'10").

My DS1 was above the 97th percentile at birth (the CDC height chart that the pediatrician gave me doesn't have a 99th curve on it) and remained there until age 8, when he was 56" tall. Then he began a slow decline down to the 75th percentile at age 14.5 (5'8"). After that, his height percentile started to climb, back to the 95th at age 19. He's 6'2".

My DS2 was around the 60th percentile at birth and stayed between the 50th and 75th until age 4, then he stayed at 75th until age 14.5 (5'8", just like DS1). And then, just like DS1, DS2's height percentile started to increase. At 16, he was 90th percentile (6'0"), and at 19, he too was 95th percentile, 6'2" like his brother.

Probably relevant? Both my kids were late to puberty, especially DS2.

(Not sure of these percentiles are the same as current ones-- my kids' growth charts are CDC charts from 2000.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My five year old daughter is 99.75 percentile height. People comment on it CONSTANTLY. In front of her. I really don’t know what to do about it because on the one hand, I want to treat it like a compliment because I want her to see it as a positive or neutral. But on the other hand, I’m so angry at them for calling out her body.

So from a tall mom of a tall kid, please hear my plea: you don’t need to tell me she’s tall. I already know! You might be shocked to discover, I can see her. Thank you.

Tall person with tall kids. This will never end. People don’t care and are rude and will tell you you’re over sensitive. If people walked around openly discussing weight the way they discuss height it would get interesting quick.

You’re both nuts. And (deliberately) over sensitive. People comment on tall kids the way they comment on beautiful kids. If you’re offended or angered by it it’s an excellent indication that you have absolutely zero real problems in your life and are craving drama.

Signed - mom of two off the charts tall kids

This is the response you get PP which is why I’m telling you to just let it go and don’t expect much. Your feelings aren’t valid according to these people. These are the same people that go around touching peoples hair, asking obtusely and insistently where people are from but no really, commenting on pregnant women. All of it. You’re not going to convince them so don’t try. Just take note and avoid them.

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Anonymous wrote:The biggest issue with having a tall child is that they expect your child to be older than she is and act that way. When your 8 year old is more than 5 feet tall, they get looks and even comments when they are playing with age appropriate toys or reading a children's book because they expect her to be in middle school. My DD who is 6 ft at 14 is expected to act like she's in high school all the time.

Is your 14 year old daughter NOT in high school? I don’t think mistaking a relatively old 8th grader for a high school kid is particularly egregious…

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Anonymous wrote:My five year old daughter is 99.75 percentile height. People comment on it CONSTANTLY. In front of her. I really don’t know what to do about it because on the one hand, I want to treat it like a compliment because I want her to see it as a positive or neutral. But on the other hand, I’m so angry at them for calling out her body.

So from a tall mom of a tall kid, please hear my plea: you don’t need to tell me she’s tall. I already know! You might be shocked to discover, I can see her. Thank you.

Tall person with tall kids. This will never end. People don’t care and are rude and will tell you you’re over sensitive. If people walked around openly discussing weight the way they discuss height it would get interesting quick.

You’re both nuts. And (deliberately) over sensitive. People comment on tall kids the way they comment on beautiful kids. If you’re offended or angered by it it’s an excellent indication that you have absolutely zero real problems in your life and are craving drama.

Signed - mom of two off the charts tall kids

This is the response you get PP which is why I’m telling you to just let it go and don’t expect much. Your feelings aren’t valid according to these people. These are the same people that go around touching peoples hair, asking obtusely and insistently where people are from but no really, commenting on pregnant women. All of it. You’re not going to convince them so don’t try. Just take note and avoid them.

Well I hate to tell you this, but sometimes feelings don’t match reality. I understand you were raised to believe that feelings > facts, but the fact is, sometimes you’re wrong.

Thanks for proving my point that you’re a drama queen, though.

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Anonymous wrote:yes. my daughter is 6ft tall at 14.

Now that is weird

You must not get out often.

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Anonymous wrote:The biggest issue with having a tall child is that they expect your child to be older than she is and act that way. When your 8 year old is more than 5 feet tall, they get looks and even comments when they are playing with age appropriate toys or reading a children's book because they expect her to be in middle school. My DD who is 6 ft at 14 is expected to act like she's in high school all the time.

I hear you. I have one tall DD (5'9") at 15 and a very short DD (10th% at 8, skipped a grade, so extremely short for class). The flip is true for the short one. When she was 3 she looked like 18 months and spoke like a 4 year old. I got comments about her "genius" all the time. I used to correct people and say, she's only a little advanced. Then it got so old I would just smile and say thanks.

OP, my older DD was 99th% until puberty and while she grew some kids grew taller. I think she's 70-something% now, tall, not super tall.

If your DD is 5’9” tall she’s around 95th percentile for all women and girls in the US. No clue where you got 70th?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are people so obsessed with how big their kids are? I never think about this. Weird.

Height is helpful in life. I don't know what to tell you. People want their kid to have every possible advantage.

That’s like saying have blue eyes with pale skin is helpful in life. It’s not true.

Those are not analogous. Height is helpful in life for males in particular and for men and women in many sports. This is evidence based. No reason to get your knickers in a twist about it.

What type of build you have can give you an advantage in sports. . But you didn’t explain how height is helpful. And yes blues eyes and fair skin beat out dark skin and dark eyes, it’s called racism, for a very long time. Probably still does in some areas. Tall vs short is a different form of prejudice. And apparently still ok.

You need it explained why height is helpful in many sports? Don’t know what to say. Open your eyes. This is prejudice?

Lots of studies of height impacting earning potential, presidents are tall, etc.

Read the first sentence again slowly this time. It’s not a question.

If people are stupid enough to take height into account when choosing a president then they get the president they deserve. And some of us are stuck with that bad choice. And we’re missing out in a lot of good people.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are people so obsessed with how big their kids are? I never think about this. Weird.

Height is helpful in life. I don't know what to tell you. People want their kid to have every possible advantage.

That’s like saying have blue eyes with pale skin is helpful in life. It’s not true.

Those are not analogous. Height is helpful in life for males in particular and for men and women in many sports. This is evidence based. No reason to get your knickers in a twist about it.

What type of build you have can give you an advantage in sports. . But you didn’t explain how height is helpful. And yes blues eyes and fair skin beat out dark skin and dark eyes, it’s called racism, for a very long time. Probably still does in some areas. Tall vs short is a different form of prejudice. And apparently still ok.

I will help. A lot of it is either literally closer to the target in the game or ability to jump higher. And also physics of being taller and swing motions.

Basketball. Closer to the hoop.
Football. Throw above peoples heads, jump higher to catch, larger and taller people to block and tackle.
Tennis. Physics of the serve it helps to be tall.
Volleyball. Taller helps to block. physics of the swing of a longer arm.
Golf. Physics of the swing it helps to be tall.
Swimming. Longer wingspan helps.

Water polo. Pitchers in baseball. Goalies.

On and on.

Thank you. The first sentence is a statement that says “what type of build you have CAN give you an advantage in sports”. It wasn’t a question. That is true for most.

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Anonymous wrote:yes. my daughter is 6ft tall at 14.

That’s tough. Is she done growing?

How is that tough? My daughter would kill to be that tall. You must not have any basketball or volleyball players.

Really? That’s what you think of ? Being honest it’s just as tough being overly tall girl as being an overly Short boy. It’s not tragic but it’s easier not being an outlier.

As for sports my tall niece played middle school and varsity high school basketball because her mother insisted on one activity. No clubs and she didn’t like it all that much. But she was tall so she was put on the varsity team. Sports my family play are football, lacrosse, tennis and the toughest activity two of them are serious about is ballet.

The tallest nephew I have is 6’5”. He did not play basketball. Zero interest. Now he’s a college graduate and people constantly talk to him about his height. Gotta be annoying.

Most girls like being tall these days. I think you are projecting your gen x views on later generations and that’s just not a thing.

It’s not a thing because most girls aren’t over 6 feet. Most teens aren’t under 5’ tall either. But it’s tough on the girls who are. At least until they are adults.