Did your 99th percentile kid stay tall?

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Anonymous wrote:My five year old daughter is 99.75 percentile height. People comment on it CONSTANTLY. In front of her. I really don’t know what to do about it because on the one hand, I want to treat it like a compliment because I want her to see it as a positive or neutral. But on the other hand, I’m so angry at them for calling out her body.

So from a tall mom of a tall kid, please hear my plea: you don’t need to tell me she’s tall. I already know! You might be shocked to discover, I can see her. Thank you.

Tall person with tall kids. This will never end. People don’t care and are rude and will tell you you’re over sensitive. If people walked around openly discussing weight the way they discuss height it would get interesting quick.

You’re both nuts. And (deliberately) over sensitive. People comment on tall kids the way they comment on beautiful kids. If you’re offended or angered by it it’s an excellent indication that you have absolutely zero real problems in your life and are craving drama.

Signed - mom of two off the charts tall kids

This is the response you get PP which is why I’m telling you to just let it go and don’t expect much. Your feelings aren’t valid according to these people. These are the same people that go around touching peoples hair, asking obtusely and insistently where people are from but no really, commenting on pregnant women. All of it. You’re not going to convince them so don’t try. Just take note and avoid them.

Well I hate to tell you this, but sometimes feelings don’t match reality. I understand you were raised to believe that feelings > facts, but the fact is, sometimes you’re wrong.

Thanks for proving my point that you’re a drama queen, though.

What is reality and the facts in this scenario? I am confused.

Fact is the kid is tall. Reality is a person commenting on the objective tallness is not an insult and no reason for mommy to get her panties in wad, and if she does it is a HER problem.

My son was always in the 50th percentile. He always blended in with his classmates. If it was just me and him some people would say isn’t he tall! I’d just say yeah instead of correcting them because who really cares. He ended up 6’ which I think might be around the 70th% at 19.

Exactly. It would be like getting angry or getting into an argument over someone’s completely innocuous comment about the weather.

Totally agree. Other facts are things like:

You look lyou have gained weight. Wow you are fat.
You have a big nose.
You are not really a blonde. I can see your roots.

Who really cares. All facts.

No one on Planet Earth considers being tall a bad thing, nor is saying someone is tall ever intended as an insult.

You have not seen some of the threads on this site about tall women. People do sometimes treat very tall people like side shows at the circus. (I am not super tall but people in my extended family are.) I agree with you it's never a bad thing for a guy probably other than they probably get sick of the comments.

I don't get the doubling down insistence that you know how it lands for all tall people on the planet. Maybe just go with wow, I never thought of it that way and consider other people's point of view and maybe let it impact things you say moving forward?

Listen, I am a tall woman. My daughter is a tall girl. Some of you are just too GD sensitive to function in society. It’s a massive character flaw to CHOOSE to take harmless comments as insults. You need to work on that instead of trying to control every other human being in the world.

I will continue to converse with other people like a mature, functioning adult. If someone chooses to be offended by benign chitchat that’s their problem and I won’t lose a wink of sleep over it.

Great way to go about life. Center yourself and your feelings and your experiences as the universal truth. Carry on.

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Anonymous wrote:My five year old daughter is 99.75 percentile height. People comment on it CONSTANTLY. In front of her. I really don’t know what to do about it because on the one hand, I want to treat it like a compliment because I want her to see it as a positive or neutral. But on the other hand, I’m so angry at them for calling out her body.

So from a tall mom of a tall kid, please hear my plea: you don’t need to tell me she’s tall. I already know! You might be shocked to discover, I can see her. Thank you.

Tall person with tall kids. This will never end. People don’t care and are rude and will tell you you’re over sensitive. If people walked around openly discussing weight the way they discuss height it would get interesting quick.

You’re both nuts. And (deliberately) over sensitive. People comment on tall kids the way they comment on beautiful kids. If you’re offended or angered by it it’s an excellent indication that you have absolutely zero real problems in your life and are craving drama.

Signed - mom of two off the charts tall kids

This is the response you get PP which is why I’m telling you to just let it go and don’t expect much. Your feelings aren’t valid according to these people. These are the same people that go around touching peoples hair, asking obtusely and insistently where people are from but no really, commenting on pregnant women. All of it. You’re not going to convince them so don’t try. Just take note and avoid them.

Well I hate to tell you this, but sometimes feelings don’t match reality. I understand you were raised to believe that feelings > facts, but the fact is, sometimes you’re wrong.

Thanks for proving my point that you’re a drama queen, though.

What is reality and the facts in this scenario? I am confused.

Fact is the kid is tall. Reality is a person commenting on the objective tallness is not an insult and no reason for mommy to get her panties in wad, and if she does it is a HER problem.

My son was always in the 50th percentile. He always blended in with his classmates. If it was just me and him some people would say isn’t he tall! I’d just say yeah instead of correcting them because who really cares. He ended up 6’ which I think might be around the 70th% at 19.

Exactly. It would be like getting angry or getting into an argument over someone’s completely innocuous comment about the weather.

Totally agree. Other facts are things like:

You look lyou have gained weight. Wow you are fat.
You have a big nose.
You are not really a blonde. I can see your roots.

Who really cares. All facts.

No one on Planet Earth considers being tall a bad thing, nor is saying someone is tall ever intended as an insult.

You have not seen some of the threads on this site about tall women. People do sometimes treat very tall people like side shows at the circus. (I am not super tall but people in my extended family are.) I agree with you it's never a bad thing for a guy probably other than they probably get sick of the comments.

I don't get the doubling down insistence that you know how it lands for all tall people on the planet. Maybe just go with wow, I never thought of it that way and consider other people's point of view and maybe let it impact things you say moving forward?

Listen, I am a tall woman. My daughter is a tall girl. Some of you are just too GD sensitive to function in society. It’s a massive character flaw to CHOOSE to take harmless comments as insults. You need to work on that instead of trying to control every other human being in the world.

I will continue to converse with other people like a mature, functioning adult. If someone chooses to be offended by benign chitchat that’s their problem and I won’t lose a wink of sleep over it.

Great way to go about life. Center yourself and your feelings and your experiences as the universal truth. Carry on.

Better than going through life as a sniveling drama queen. People like you are exhausting.

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Anonymous wrote:My five year old daughter is 99.75 percentile height. People comment on it CONSTANTLY. In front of her. I really don’t know what to do about it because on the one hand, I want to treat it like a compliment because I want her to see it as a positive or neutral. But on the other hand, I’m so angry at them for calling out her body.

So from a tall mom of a tall kid, please hear my plea: you don’t need to tell me she’s tall. I already know! You might be shocked to discover, I can see her. Thank you.

Tall person with tall kids. This will never end. People don’t care and are rude and will tell you you’re over sensitive. If people walked around openly discussing weight the way they discuss height it would get interesting quick.

You’re both nuts. And (deliberately) over sensitive. People comment on tall kids the way they comment on beautiful kids. If you’re offended or angered by it it’s an excellent indication that you have absolutely zero real problems in your life and are craving drama.

Signed - mom of two off the charts tall kids

This is the response you get PP which is why I’m telling you to just let it go and don’t expect much. Your feelings aren’t valid according to these people. These are the same people that go around touching peoples hair, asking obtusely and insistently where people are from but no really, commenting on pregnant women. All of it. You’re not going to convince them so don’t try. Just take note and avoid them.

Well I hate to tell you this, but sometimes feelings don’t match reality. I understand you were raised to believe that feelings > facts, but the fact is, sometimes you’re wrong.

Thanks for proving my point that you’re a drama queen, though.

What is reality and the facts in this scenario? I am confused.

Fact is the kid is tall. Reality is a person commenting on the objective tallness is not an insult and no reason for mommy to get her panties in wad, and if she does it is a HER problem.

My son was always in the 50th percentile. He always blended in with his classmates. If it was just me and him some people would say isn’t he tall! I’d just say yeah instead of correcting them because who really cares. He ended up 6’ which I think might be around the 70th% at 19.

Exactly. It would be like getting angry or getting into an argument over someone’s completely innocuous comment about the weather.

Totally agree. Other facts are things like:

You look lyou have gained weight. Wow you are fat.
You have a big nose.
You are not really a blonde. I can see your roots.

Who really cares. All facts.

No one on Planet Earth considers being tall a bad thing, nor is saying someone is tall ever intended as an insult.

You have not seen some of the threads on this site about tall women. People do sometimes treat very tall people like side shows at the circus. (I am not super tall but people in my extended family are.) I agree with you it's never a bad thing for a guy probably other than they probably get sick of the comments.

I don't get the doubling down insistence that you know how it lands for all tall people on the planet. Maybe just go with wow, I never thought of it that way and consider other people's point of view and maybe let it impact things you say moving forward?

I think this makes sense. I think it also makes sense that people generally “think” they are giving a compliment, even if it isn’t received that way. Some people genuinely do think that being tall for a girl is a good thing, and are giving a compliment. My teen DD is tallish would love to be truly tall. She is envious of her very tall friend. I don’t comment on kids’ heights but from what I have seen, times are changing (sports maybe? not sure why) and height is often considered an asset for women too.

That said, I have never heard anyone tell a shorter boy “oh wow are you short!” because nearly everyone would consider that to be very rude.

Tall woman chiming in here. It’s not all compliments or intended to be compliments. Do you play basketball? No, what a waste of height. How’s the weather up there? Damn, how tall are you???? No really how tall are you, you must be at least 6-2 (said from all the men who are 5-10 or 5-11 and have been rounding up their whole lives). These are not one offs. This is typical stuff.

I am a person who doesn’t care and thinks you have to let it go. Harmless? Sure. But also some people are pretty clueless they are making other people uncomfortable or I suppose just don’t care.

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Anonymous wrote:My five year old daughter is 99.75 percentile height. People comment on it CONSTANTLY. In front of her. I really don’t know what to do about it because on the one hand, I want to treat it like a compliment because I want her to see it as a positive or neutral. But on the other hand, I’m so angry at them for calling out her body.

So from a tall mom of a tall kid, please hear my plea: you don’t need to tell me she’s tall. I already know! You might be shocked to discover, I can see her. Thank you.

Tall person with tall kids. This will never end. People don’t care and are rude and will tell you you’re over sensitive. If people walked around openly discussing weight the way they discuss height it would get interesting quick.

You’re both nuts. And (deliberately) over sensitive. People comment on tall kids the way they comment on beautiful kids. If you’re offended or angered by it it’s an excellent indication that you have absolutely zero real problems in your life and are craving drama.

Signed - mom of two off the charts tall kids

This is the response you get PP which is why I’m telling you to just let it go and don’t expect much. Your feelings aren’t valid according to these people. These are the same people that go around touching peoples hair, asking obtusely and insistently where people are from but no really, commenting on pregnant women. All of it. You’re not going to convince them so don’t try. Just take note and avoid them.

Well I hate to tell you this, but sometimes feelings don’t match reality. I understand you were raised to believe that feelings > facts, but the fact is, sometimes you’re wrong.

Thanks for proving my point that you’re a drama queen, though.

What is reality and the facts in this scenario? I am confused.

Fact is the kid is tall. Reality is a person commenting on the objective tallness is not an insult and no reason for mommy to get her panties in wad, and if she does it is a HER problem.

My son was always in the 50th percentile. He always blended in with his classmates. If it was just me and him some people would say isn’t he tall! I’d just say yeah instead of correcting them because who really cares. He ended up 6’ which I think might be around the 70th% at 19.

Exactly. It would be like getting angry or getting into an argument over someone’s completely innocuous comment about the weather.

Totally agree. Other facts are things like:

You look lyou have gained weight. Wow you are fat.
You have a big nose.
You are not really a blonde. I can see your roots.

Who really cares. All facts.

No one on Planet Earth considers being tall a bad thing, nor is saying someone is tall ever intended as an insult.

If you’re a tall woman who is big boned or overweight there is plenty of ridicule. SNL would sometimes do skits on Julia Child, famous chef, they always had a man play her.

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Anonymous wrote:My five year old daughter is 99.75 percentile height. People comment on it CONSTANTLY. In front of her. I really don’t know what to do about it because on the one hand, I want to treat it like a compliment because I want her to see it as a positive or neutral. But on the other hand, I’m so angry at them for calling out her body.

So from a tall mom of a tall kid, please hear my plea: you don’t need to tell me she’s tall. I already know! You might be shocked to discover, I can see her. Thank you.

Tall person with tall kids. This will never end. People don’t care and are rude and will tell you you’re over sensitive. If people walked around openly discussing weight the way they discuss height it would get interesting quick.

You’re both nuts. And (deliberately) over sensitive. People comment on tall kids the way they comment on beautiful kids. If you’re offended or angered by it it’s an excellent indication that you have absolutely zero real problems in your life and are craving drama.

Signed - mom of two off the charts tall kids

This is the response you get PP which is why I’m telling you to just let it go and don’t expect much. Your feelings aren’t valid according to these people. These are the same people that go around touching peoples hair, asking obtusely and insistently where people are from but no really, commenting on pregnant women. All of it. You’re not going to convince them so don’t try. Just take note and avoid them.

Well I hate to tell you this, but sometimes feelings don’t match reality. I understand you were raised to believe that feelings > facts, but the fact is, sometimes you’re wrong.

Thanks for proving my point that you’re a drama queen, though.

What is reality and the facts in this scenario? I am confused.

Fact is the kid is tall. Reality is a person commenting on the objective tallness is not an insult and no reason for mommy to get her panties in wad, and if she does it is a HER problem.

My son was always in the 50th percentile. He always blended in with his classmates. If it was just me and him some people would say isn’t he tall! I’d just say yeah instead of correcting them because who really cares. He ended up 6’ which I think might be around the 70th% at 19.

Exactly. It would be like getting angry or getting into an argument over someone’s completely innocuous comment about the weather.

Totally agree. Other facts are things like:

You look lyou have gained weight. Wow you are fat.
You have a big nose.
You are not really a blonde. I can see your roots.

Who really cares. All facts.

No one on Planet Earth considers being tall a bad thing, nor is saying someone is tall ever intended as an insult.

If you’re a tall woman who is big boned or overweight there is plenty of ridicule. SNL would sometimes do skits on Julia Child, famous chef, they always had a man play her.

Deliberately making fun of someone’s appearance is NOT the same as saying, “wow! She’s so tall!” Which is what the unhinged mother of a tall five year old was enraged about.

Are some of you really this dumb, or are you being deliberately obtuse?

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Anonymous wrote:My five year old daughter is 99.75 percentile height. People comment on it CONSTANTLY. In front of her. I really don’t know what to do about it because on the one hand, I want to treat it like a compliment because I want her to see it as a positive or neutral. But on the other hand, I’m so angry at them for calling out her body.

So from a tall mom of a tall kid, please hear my plea: you don’t need to tell me she’s tall. I already know! You might be shocked to discover, I can see her. Thank you.

Tall person with tall kids. This will never end. People don’t care and are rude and will tell you you’re over sensitive. If people walked around openly discussing weight the way they discuss height it would get interesting quick.

You’re both nuts. And (deliberately) over sensitive. People comment on tall kids the way they comment on beautiful kids. If you’re offended or angered by it it’s an excellent indication that you have absolutely zero real problems in your life and are craving drama.

Signed - mom of two off the charts tall kids

This is the response you get PP which is why I’m telling you to just let it go and don’t expect much. Your feelings aren’t valid according to these people. These are the same people that go around touching peoples hair, asking obtusely and insistently where people are from but no really, commenting on pregnant women. All of it. You’re not going to convince them so don’t try. Just take note and avoid them.

Well I hate to tell you this, but sometimes feelings don’t match reality. I understand you were raised to believe that feelings > facts, but the fact is, sometimes you’re wrong.

Thanks for proving my point that you’re a drama queen, though.

What is reality and the facts in this scenario? I am confused.

Fact is the kid is tall. Reality is a person commenting on the objective tallness is not an insult and no reason for mommy to get her panties in wad, and if she does it is a HER problem.

My son was always in the 50th percentile. He always blended in with his classmates. If it was just me and him some people would say isn’t he tall! I’d just say yeah instead of correcting them because who really cares. He ended up 6’ which I think might be around the 70th% at 19.

Exactly. It would be like getting angry or getting into an argument over someone’s completely innocuous comment about the weather.

Totally agree. Other facts are things like:

You look lyou have gained weight. Wow you are fat.
You have a big nose.
You are not really a blonde. I can see your roots.

Who really cares. All facts.

No one on Planet Earth considers being tall a bad thing, nor is saying someone is tall ever intended as an insult.

If you’re a tall woman who is big boned or overweight there is plenty of ridicule. SNL would sometimes do skits on Julia Child, famous chef, they always had a man play her.

Deliberately making fun of someone’s appearance is NOT the same as saying, “wow! She’s so tall!” Which is what the unhinged mother of a tall five year old was enraged about.

Are some of you really this dumb, or are you being deliberately obtuse?

There’s a few to topics here. This wasn’t in reference to the five year old. It’s about what was quoted that said no one considers being tall a bad thing. Being an outlier in anything including extremely tall or extremely short can be tough.

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There are nuances in how kids grow that are not captured in the growth curves, which are just a collection of points. For example, kids who go through early puberty, on average attain shorter adult height than kids who go through puberty at an average age, and kids who go through puberty later than average, achieve more the most adult height. So a kid who is 95% for height at age 10.5 due to early puberty has a different trajectory to a kid who is 95% for height at age 10 when puberty is 3-4 years away.

That is why scientists have come up with puberty adjusted growth curves, but they are not as simple to look at as the traditional CDC curves.

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I just looked in their books:
DD1 was 98th percentile and is 5'3" as a young adult
DD2 was 83rd percentile and is 5'9" as a young adult