The End of Feminism? Young Men Prefer Traditional Gender Roles

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The unpopular but true opinion is that being a housewife is an amazing job. You don't have a boss. You can wakeup whenever you want most days. The lions share of chores are a cinch. Wow, throw in laundry and go run on the treadmill for an hour. Throw in dryer and stream Netflix vids.

Why would you want a stressful professional job that kills you and makes you die early?

Gen Z women have figure out that the working world is overrated and for suckers.

Tell me you have never been a stay home parent without telling me. In fact, tell me you never had kids and live in mother’s basement. You cannot wake up whenever you want. Lol. You get up when your kids get up. You get up when they have early morning lacrosse camps and when your three year old doesn’t sleep past 5:30 AM. I have been a SAHM mom for 20 years. Husband has a demanding high net worth job. It is lonely and boring. Though still the right choice for our family as a whole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. The link does not say what OP claims, but to the extent this is true, it’s a reflection of the larger political schism between young men and young women, which is unprecedented in recent history.

Oh please do you read this forum? Many of the post are about only dating men who support traditionally gender - paying for the date, asking the woman out, etc, etc.

Remember this one https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1221994.page

Gullible isn't in the dictionary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The unpopular but true opinion is that being a housewife is an amazing job. You don't have a boss. You can wakeup whenever you want most days. The lions share of chores are a cinch. Wow, throw in laundry and go run on the treadmill for an hour. Throw in dryer and stream Netflix vids.

Why would you want a stressful professional job that kills you and makes you die early?

Gen Z women have figure out that the working world is overrated and for suckers.

Tell me you have never been a stay home parent without telling me. In fact, tell me you never had kids and live in mother’s basement. You cannot wake up whenever you want. Lol. You get up when your kids get up. You get up when they have early morning lacrosse camps and when your three year old doesn’t sleep past 5:30 AM. I have been a SAHM mom for 20 years. Husband has a demanding high net worth job. It is lonely and boring. Though still the right choice for our family as a whole.

+1 SAHM and ever since having kids I have never been able to sleep past 6.30 am. My children won’t let me. I had to wake up at 5.30 am this summer to send my older child to a specialized summer camp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The unpopular but true opinion is that being a housewife is an amazing job. You don't have a boss. You can wakeup whenever you want most days. The lions share of chores are a cinch. Wow, throw in laundry and go run on the treadmill for an hour. Throw in dryer and stream Netflix vids.

Why would you want a stressful professional job that kills you and makes you die early?

Gen Z women have figure out that the working world is overrated and for suckers.

It kills your brain cells, and dealing with children all day, even your own, can wear on you. Most people, women and men, don't absolutely love being with kids all day.

I've done it all - wohm, wfh, PT, FT, sahm. Yes, the stress went down when I became a sahm, but I also found my brain was atrophying. PT was the best of both worlds. However, once the kids hit MS, and they don't need you as much, you get bored. One can only do so much laundry and cleaning.

My sister is a care taker. Always has been. She desperately wanted to be a sahm with a small house. Didn't work that way for her. She divorced her deadbeat husband and became a single mom who had to work, starting from scratch because she had given up her career when she married her deadbeat husband.

Hyperbolic nonsense. My grandmother was one of the smartest persons I've ever met. She was stay at home wife. She read the news paper everyday and did crossword puzzles. She read books. She read national geographic. She'd meet up with local wives for games of bridge.

Working as a stay at home wife kills your brain cells only if you choose poorly, like virtually everything else in life. Dealing with kids is nothing compared to a soul sucking corporate job with stress levels through the roof. It literally kills you and makes you die early from heart attacks and stroke.

Many of us are not working corporate jobs. I am teacher. Love my job. A lot of women experience more stress dealing with their husbands than they do at work.

[Anonymous]

Seems like something that would CAUSE feminism.

[Anonymous]

My brother and his wife have the opposite. They both work full time and make about the same. His salary goes entirely to the family / expenses and hers adds to the family pot as needed and the rest she saves to do ( mostly unnecessary) home renovations. My SIL has among commute and works out of the house so she is gone 10-11 hours a day. She does almost nothing related to the kids or cleaning. My brother WFH and does 98% of kid related stuff plus meals and laundry and routine home maintenance. The cleaning is shared by everyone in the family and done on weekends.

My brother got tired of doing pretty much everything but it was the kids that picked up what he stopped doing, not his wife. The kids now make meals and do their own laundry and get their own breakfast and lunch and help out a lot. (They are tweens).

I think they also represent a more modern family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The unpopular but true opinion is that being a housewife is an amazing job. You don't have a boss. You can wakeup whenever you want most days. The lions share of chores are a cinch. Wow, throw in laundry and go run on the treadmill for an hour. Throw in dryer and stream Netflix vids.

Why would you want a stressful professional job that kills you and makes you die early?

Gen Z women have figure out that the working world is overrated and for suckers.

Tell me you have never been a stay home parent without telling me. In fact, tell me you never had kids and live in mother’s basement. You cannot wake up whenever you want. Lol. You get up when your kids get up. You get up when they have early morning lacrosse camps and when your three year old doesn’t sleep past 5:30 AM. I have been a SAHM mom for 20 years. Husband has a demanding high net worth job. It is lonely and boring. Though still the right choice for our family as a whole.

Not PP but I get up whenever I want. After 3rd grade DH took over morning duties and has always done 95% of drop offs and pick ups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The unpopular but true opinion is that being a housewife is an amazing job. You don't have a boss. You can wakeup whenever you want most days. The lions share of chores are a cinch. Wow, throw in laundry and go run on the treadmill for an hour. Throw in dryer and stream Netflix vids.

Why would you want a stressful professional job that kills you and makes you die early?

Gen Z women have figure out that the working world is overrated and for suckers.

Tell me you have never been a stay home parent without telling me. In fact, tell me you never had kids and live in mother’s basement. You cannot wake up whenever you want. Lol. You get up when your kids get up. You get up when they have early morning lacrosse camps and when your three year old doesn’t sleep past 5:30 AM. I have been a SAHM mom for 20 years. Husband has a demanding high net worth job. It is lonely and boring. Though still the right choice for our family as a whole.

Not PP but I get up whenever I want. After 3rd grade DH took over morning duties and has always done 95% of drop offs and pick ups.

I’m PP. I do everything in our house because I don’t have a job. And my husband works long stressful hours. You sound really lazy. You can’t pull yourself out of bed to take care of your kids and take a responsibility off your husband’s plate? Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The unpopular but true opinion is that being a housewife is an amazing job. You don't have a boss. You can wakeup whenever you want most days. The lions share of chores are a cinch. Wow, throw in laundry and go run on the treadmill for an hour. Throw in dryer and stream Netflix vids.

Why would you want a stressful professional job that kills you and makes you die early?

Gen Z women have figure out that the working world is overrated and for suckers.

Tell me you have never been a stay home parent without telling me. In fact, tell me you never had kids and live in mother’s basement. You cannot wake up whenever you want. Lol. You get up when your kids get up. You get up when they have early morning lacrosse camps and when your three year old doesn’t sleep past 5:30 AM. I have been a SAHM mom for 20 years. Husband has a demanding high net worth job. It is lonely and boring. Though still the right choice for our family as a whole.

Right there with you, sister. It is relentless and boring, intensely meaningful and mundane, and my iq points are only called upon periodically. But we have a great family with thriving kids, and husband makes a lot of money in high octane career. Certainly it's been a sacrifice and hurt my ego, but I can't imagine making a different choice if I had to do it over again. And I have a cleaning team. And I had babysitters. So I think having money to "outsouce your problems" certainly makes it easier to be a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a working woman with a husband who does 50/50 at home and is supportive of my career.

However if I could do it all over again I would look for a more traditional marriage with gender roles.

The vast majority of women seemed to get screwed over working a man’s job and also being a wife and mom. Now there is an expectation that a woman has a demanding career and do everything at home.

Grass is always greener. Had you been a sahm, you would've resented not having a career. I've done it all -- sahm, wohm, PT, FT, wfh.

The best is to have a career where you aren't bringing the work home, but that goes for both a man and woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems like feminism and the patriarchy might be on their way out with the younger generation. Recent trends show Millennial men and even Gen Z are increasingly looking for traditional relationships where women stay at home, and men take on the role of the primary breadwinner. What are your thoughts on this shift? Are we seeing a return to old-school gender dynamics?

https://www.newsweek.com/millennial-men-more-likely-gen-z-want-partner-higher-income-1939433

LOL LOL LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The unpopular but true opinion is that being a housewife is an amazing job. You don't have a boss. You can wakeup whenever you want most days. The lions share of chores are a cinch. Wow, throw in laundry and go run on the treadmill for an hour. Throw in dryer and stream Netflix vids.

Why would you want a stressful professional job that kills you and makes you die early?

Gen Z women have figure out that the working world is overrated and for suckers.

Tell me you have never been a stay home parent without telling me. In fact, tell me you never had kids and live in mother’s basement. You cannot wake up whenever you want. Lol. You get up when your kids get up. You get up when they have early morning lacrosse camps and when your three year old doesn’t sleep past 5:30 AM. I have been a SAHM mom for 20 years. Husband has a demanding high net worth job. It is lonely and boring. Though still the right choice for our family as a whole.

That’s only for a few years though. Stay at home parent is the gravy train once kids get into middle school and beyond because they’re largely self sufficient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The unpopular but true opinion is that being a housewife is an amazing job. You don't have a boss. You can wakeup whenever you want most days. The lions share of chores are a cinch. Wow, throw in laundry and go run on the treadmill for an hour. Throw in dryer and stream Netflix vids.

Why would you want a stressful professional job that kills you and makes you die early?

Gen Z women have figure out that the working world is overrated and for suckers.

That's the thing, though -- most actually suck at domestic skills and also expect their moneyed men to contribute 50-50. And when they have children, they think basically their job is limited to intensive motherhood, not homemaking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The unpopular but true opinion is that being a housewife is an amazing job. You don't have a boss. You can wakeup whenever you want most days. The lions share of chores are a cinch. Wow, throw in laundry and go run on the treadmill for an hour. Throw in dryer and stream Netflix vids.

Why would you want a stressful professional job that kills you and makes you die early?

Gen Z women have figure out that the working world is overrated and for suckers.

Tell me you have never been a stay home parent without telling me. In fact, tell me you never had kids and live in mother’s basement. You cannot wake up whenever you want. Lol. You get up when your kids get up. You get up when they have early morning lacrosse camps and when your three year old doesn’t sleep past 5:30 AM. I have been a SAHM mom for 20 years. Husband has a demanding high net worth job. It is lonely and boring. Though still the right choice for our family as a whole.

That’s only for a few years though. Stay at home parent is the gravy train once kids get into middle school and beyond because they’re largely self sufficient.

I guess it depends on your parenting. I value my time with my kids. That means I wake up with them, make them breakfast, drive them to private school and all their extracurricular activities. I’m not sleeping in or making my husband do drop offs and pick ups because I’m too lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The unpopular but true opinion is that being a housewife is an amazing job. You don't have a boss. You can wakeup whenever you want most days. The lions share of chores are a cinch. Wow, throw in laundry and go run on the treadmill for an hour. Throw in dryer and stream Netflix vids.

Why would you want a stressful professional job that kills you and makes you die early?

Gen Z women have figure out that the working world is overrated and for suckers.

That's the thing, though -- most actually suck at domestic skills and also expect their moneyed men to contribute 50-50. And when they have children, they think basically their job is limited to intensive motherhood, not homemaking.

Their “job” is whatever they and their partner decide.

No one wants to be a “homemaker” which is why so much of it gets outsourced.