Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?

[Anonymous]

Op, do something handmade -only- if you: are able to NOT care if they never use it, know they might pass it on to someone else or donate it, show no special appreciation for it. Do not expect anything from this act. Do not expect that your project gets shown off to others. Do not expect it to become a keepsake or be special to them.

Because you just can't know. If there is something special you'd like to make them, sure. Just be cautious and have expectations.

They may love it! But if Op, can't read the above without anger or disappointment, she should not be giving them something she made.

[Anonymous]

It's a gift. Why don't you ask the couple what they think?
If it's awkward to ask directly, ask through their parents if you are closer with them.
As you can see here, people have vastly differing tastes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a gift. Why don't you ask the couple what they think?
If it's awkward to ask directly, ask through their parents if you are closer with them.
As you can see here, people have vastly differing tastes.

alternatively, it's a gift. It should always be received with appreciation and graciousness, because someone was thoughtful enough to give it to you.

[Anonymous]

OP I think you are getting an inaccurate view of whether this is a good idea. My guess is that there is one or two posters posting multiple times. This type of gift is really personal. As you are questioning whether you should do it, you don’t know them well enough to know if they would like it.

Out of the 10 marriage age adults that I know pretty well in our family, only 1 is the ooh I will cherish a cuddly blanket type. This one though is also really picky about color tones and would likely not like bold colors from her wedding. She’s a bit of a hoarder so it would never be thrown out but add to clutter.

There is a lot that can wrong with this gift and this is assuming that you are a master knitter with a modern design aesthetic using the highest quality yarn. Most of the home made knitted blankets I’ve seen look like they belong in a mid to lower income mid western home filled with ceramic chickens or kittens.

1. May not like a blanket.
2. May not like the homemade look.
3. May not like pattern.
4. May not like using the wedding colors in their home decor.

[Anonymous]

No, no, no. Just give them money. Knitting may be your love language but you don’t know that it’s theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a gift. Why don't you ask the couple what they think?
If it's awkward to ask directly, ask through their parents if you are closer with them.
As you can see here, people have vastly differing tastes.

alternatively, it's a gift. It should always be received with appreciation and graciousness, because someone was thoughtful enough to give it to you.

Yes, of course. But then possibly donated to Goodwill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a gift. Why don't you ask the couple what they think?
If it's awkward to ask directly, ask through their parents if you are closer with them.
As you can see here, people have vastly differing tastes.

alternatively, it's a gift. It should always be received with appreciation and graciousness, because someone was thoughtful enough to give it to you.

That's not what OP was asking. She was asking if she should givr it as a wedding gift that they would want not whether they should accept it graciously regardless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please help me know if I should do this or not.
A close family member's adult child is getting married. Everyone involved is well off (me, the least relatively speaking but this isn't really about $$) My idea would be more about time and effort vs $$.
I could give a nice check but I really want to knit a fun throw blanket using the wedding colors which are bold and striking. I will do a nice job, use good yarn, and wrap it beautifully.
Is this tacky? Too crafty? Weird?
I am known for knitting family gifts: hats, scarves, wraps, etc.
I am a really good knitter.
Fire away. Thanks!

If you, yourself, who is a knitting enthusiast needs to ask is it weird, tacky, too crafty..then there is a 99% chance it is tacky, weird and too crafty. Always trust your first instinct.

[Anonymous]

I received three hand knit/crocheted blankets for my wedding. I kept them a little while because I loved the people that made them, but I thought they were ugly and were not in colors I preferred for my home, but I was much younger and not as picky (or able to decorate as well) as I am now. The crocheted one had lots of deliberate spaces in it which turned out to be very useful for wrapping my cat so I could pull one leg through at a time to trim his nails.

My wedding colors are definitely not the colors I want around my home every day. If you decide to move ahead with the project, why not make something not just functional but which would also go with their home decor vs wedding colors?

I would mainly not want to receive something handmade as a gift, but if it could look like the beachy or chalet throws I see in Serena & Lily, Restoration Hardware, etc. (and if it was not made of something itchy) then I would like and use it. I just can't do clutter for the sake of clutter/not hurting people's feelings anymore.

[Anonymous]

It’s very thoughtful, but never ever ask them if they’ve been using it, where it is in their house, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I received three hand knit/crocheted blankets for my wedding. I kept them a little while because I loved the people that made them, but I thought they were ugly and were not in colors I preferred for my home, but I was much younger and not as picky (or able to decorate as well) as I am now. The crocheted one had lots of deliberate spaces in it which turned out to be very useful for wrapping my cat so I could pull one leg through at a time to trim his nails.

My wedding colors are definitely not the colors I want around my home every day. If you decide to move ahead with the project, why not make something not just functional but which would also go with their home decor vs wedding colors?

I would mainly not want to receive something handmade as a gift, but if it could look like the beachy or chalet throws I see in Serena & Lily, Restoration Hardware, etc. (and if it was not made of something itchy) then I would like and use it. I just can't do clutter for the sake of clutter/not hurting people's feelings anymore.

This. I feel like neutral colors would be better than the wedding colors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please help me know if I should do this or not.
A close family member's adult child is getting married. Everyone involved is well off (me, the least relatively speaking but this isn't really about $$) My idea would be more about time and effort vs $$.
I could give a nice check but I really want to knit a fun throw blanket using the wedding colors which are bold and striking. I will do a nice job, use good yarn, and wrap it beautifully.
Is this tacky? Too crafty? Weird?
I am known for knitting family gifts: hats, scarves, wraps, etc.
I am a really good knitter.
Fire away. Thanks!

I got a few off registry gifts one being a huge painting of a cat by the guest. While the artist was talented, it is not something I would have bought or picked out and felt impersonal - we are not cat people, the guest liked painting cats. Unless you know they love knit throws and would actually use it and enjoy it, I wouldn't do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not for me. I'd drape it on the couch, take a pic of me and DH sitting near it, and then donate it. I see that as "handmade crap" even if it's good quality and all.

I'm 48 and in all my years of randomly knowing people who knit or whatever, have only known ONE person who is actually amazing at it to the point I'd wear/use what she makes.

Haute couture items are all hand made.

A few years ago I saw somebody in a knitting shop working on a sweater combining fern green and gamma pink yarns. I would never have picked either yarn because they were so dull. However the combination was gorgeous and sophisticated, like something out of a Chanel catalog. I bought the same yarns and knitted a scarf for a young cellist and she loved it LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not for me. I'd drape it on the couch, take a pic of me and DH sitting near it, and then donate it. I see that as "handmade crap" even if it's good quality and all.

I'm 48 and in all my years of randomly knowing people who knit or whatever, have only known ONE person who is actually amazing at it to the point I'd wear/use what she makes.

Yeah the Chinese crap for sale is much better.

Check is best.

Most people have plenty of money already.

[Anonymous]

I think it would be a great gift as well!