Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I saw the title of your post, I thought “hard no“ but when I actually read what you had to say, I think that sounds like a wonderful gift

Your relative is wrong if doesn’t love it!!!! But don’t waste your own time if you think she/he is more a “um, this wasn’t on my registry” bride/groom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would give it to my dog and let him play with it until it got a hole. Then it would go in the trash.

I think the poster who used the crochet holes to hold the cats legs while she trimmed the nails had the best off label usage.

Seriously though, I would hate this gift.

[Anonymous]

Great idea, OP!

[Anonymous]

I would love this gift.

[Anonymous]

It's NOT about the specific gift, Op. For some the problem is the expectation that the gift should be a keepsake, because it is homemade -- with love -- be appreciated more than a traditional gift -- well, that's a slight burden.

[Anonymous]

Give it if it bring you joy. It may or may not bring them joy. That is not something you can anticipate. Once given, have you should have no opinion about what happens to it.

As pp said, it is not about the particular gift.

[Anonymous]

If they live in a house, yes it's a great idea. We lived in a tiny one bedroom condo when we got married. I would have been stressed by that type of gift because I would have had nowhere to put it. Our wedding colors did match our living room. I probably would have just dealt with the mis-match, and we did buy a house where your gift would get used plenty, but just keep that in mind.

[Anonymous]

No,no,no! A wedding is one of the few times that you are able and honestly really obligated to BUY OFF the REGISTRY. Do not get crafty or cutesy. Harness your inner Martha Stewart and Pinterest Pals for another holiday down the road.

You are close to the brides mother not the bride. Even if you don’t pressure the poor bride to cherish the crappy blanket and drag that ratty thing out often, chances are her new MIL will! Don’t do this to the poor couple.

[Anonymous]

Instead, make it a gift for your friend, the Mother Of The Bride in the wedding colors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Instead, make it a gift for your friend, the Mother Of The Bride in the wedding colors.

This would work. Old women love this stuff and it will help soothe her feelings of no longer being the center of attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Instead, make it a gift for your friend, the Mother Of The Bride in the wedding colors.

This would work. Old women love this stuff and it will help soothe her feelings of no longer being the center of attention.

I'm that age and would hate for a relative or friend to gift me a nonconsumable item like a blanket. I have enough of my own and focused on decluttering and downsizing my belongings. A lot of people my age feel the same. Knit for charities that solicit these donations.

[Anonymous]

I’m a quilter with a loved one getting married and I’ve decided to do a check plus a quilt (and for the quilt I will share a Pinterest board and have them show me which styles they like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Instead, make it a gift for your friend, the Mother Of The Bride in the wedding colors.

This would work. Old women love this stuff and it will help soothe her feelings of no longer being the center of attention.

As someone who was Mother of the bride 2 years also (and I'm middle aged, not old thank you lol) a- I never thought I was center of attention and never had any desire to be so and b-I don't want a blanket in my kid's wedding colors. But I think the kid might love it because it is their wedding colors!

[Anonymous]

Yes! The best, most memorable gifts that I remember from my wedding almost 30 years ago were special, different, homemade. Go for it! They will love it.

[Anonymous]

My wedding colors were pink and gray . My SIL's had mauve and lime. Neither of us have homes decorated in those colors. Colors are usually tied to contemporary styles and thus become dated. If you must do a throw, pick a neutral.