Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a quilter with a loved one getting married and I’ve decided to do a check plus a quilt (and for the quilt I will share a Pinterest board and have them show me which styles they like.

You are on the right track.

[Anonymous]

Am I only one who didn't *have* wedding colors?

(Which, when I hear about mint and mauve, seems lucky)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I only one who didn't *have* wedding colors?

(Which, when I hear about mint and mauve, seems lucky)

Usually they mean the colors of the bridesmaid dresses, bouquets, tablecloth colors, etc.

[Anonymous]

Isn’t there an etiquette rule that says you should avoid giving anything that is non returnable and strongly liked or disliked when you don’t know the recipient?

OP you have zero idea whether the couple are into chic minimalism or future cat hoarders who want a scratchy blanket. Avoid this embarrassing mistake and just buy off the registry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No,no,no! A wedding is one of the few times that you are able and honestly really obligated to BUY OFF the REGISTRY. Do not get crafty or cutesy. Harness your inner Martha Stewart and Pinterest Pals for another holiday down the road.

You are close to the brides mother not the bride. Even if you don’t pressure the poor bride to cherish the crappy blanket and drag that ratty thing out often, chances are her new MIL will! Don’t do this to the poor couple.

WTH is wrong with you? You sound like a miserable shrew, clearly nobody will ever want to do anything nice for you. People like you really suck.

[Anonymous]

I love this idea. We got a personalized items for our wedding (not handmade but like Etsy) and I have loved them. Much more interesting than the stuff on our registry. One item is on our wall and another we use for entertaining. It's nice to associate it with the person and the memory.

I also like handmade baby blankets - we have a few. Didn't really use for babies but the kids have loved them as toddlers. And again the thought means a lot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No,no,no! A wedding is one of the few times that you are able and honestly really obligated to BUY OFF the REGISTRY. Do not get crafty or cutesy. Harness your inner Martha Stewart and Pinterest Pals for another holiday down the road.

You are close to the brides mother not the bride. Even if you don’t pressure the poor bride to cherish the crappy blanket and drag that ratty thing out often, chances are her new MIL will! Don’t do this to the poor couple.

WTH is wrong with you? You sound like a miserable shrew, clearly nobody will ever want to do anything nice for you. People like you really suck.

Hmm triggered a cat hoarder who wants to give smelly homemade blankets rather than appropriate gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t there an etiquette rule that says you should avoid giving anything that is non returnable and strongly liked or disliked when you don’t know the recipient?

OP you have zero idea whether the couple are into chic minimalism or future cat hoarders who want a scratchy blanket. Avoid this embarrassing mistake and just buy off the registry.

OP should check the registry. It usually gives a good indication of the couple’s priorities and tastes. I definitely notice the preference towards modernism and minimalism continues.

[Anonymous]

We got one as a shower gift and still use it 16 years later. One of my favorite presents. It is one though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t there an etiquette rule that says you should avoid giving anything that is non returnable and strongly liked or disliked when you don’t know the recipient?

OP you have zero idea whether the couple are into chic minimalism or future cat hoarders who want a scratchy blanket. Avoid this embarrassing mistake and just buy off the registry.

OP should check the registry. It usually gives a good indication of the couple’s priorities and tastes. I definitely notice the preference towards modernism and minimalism continues.

The paradox of "minimalism" with having a wedding registry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t there an etiquette rule that says you should avoid giving anything that is non returnable and strongly liked or disliked when you don’t know the recipient?

OP you have zero idea whether the couple are into chic minimalism or future cat hoarders who want a scratchy blanket. Avoid this embarrassing mistake and just buy off the registry.

OP should check the registry. It usually gives a good indication of the couple’s priorities and tastes. I definitely notice the preference towards modernism and minimalism continues.

The paradox of "minimalism" with having a wedding registry.

Not really. If people want to give you gifts, it makes sense to tell them what you want rather than waste their time and money. Most of the minimalist registries request contributions toward travel or a mortgage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t there an etiquette rule that says you should avoid giving anything that is non returnable and strongly liked or disliked when you don’t know the recipient?

OP you have zero idea whether the couple are into chic minimalism or future cat hoarders who want a scratchy blanket. Avoid this embarrassing mistake and just buy off the registry.

OP should check the registry. It usually gives a good indication of the couple’s priorities and tastes. I definitely notice the preference towards modernism and minimalism continues.

The paradox of "minimalism" with having a wedding registry.

Most registries have about 10 items these days, with the unspoken understanding that gift cards and cash are always welcome. I’m happy to give cash! I hope they spend it on travel or feather their nest egg or use it for the ubiquitous Target runs.

[Anonymous]

I went to a shower once and there were three handmade blankets. The bride ended up keeping only the one her grandmother made and the rest disappeared.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rather than potentially waste your time, I would email them and ask. If you’re not close enough for that, then I wouldn’t knit for them.

This makes no sense! What bride in her right mind would ever say, “Nah, we’re good.” She would HAVE to say yes.

I posted earlier that I like the baby blankets and quilts that have been handed down to us, but I didn’t realize that you are not actually friends with the bride. I assumed that as her friend, you would at least have an idea as to whether this would be well-received or not.

I would ask the MOB to tell her daughter that one of her friends (doesn’t need to know who) is thinking of making her a blanket as a wedding present, and ask whether that’s something she would like. This gives the bride space to be honest and say no if that’s how she feels.

[Anonymous]

I HATE heavy homemade knitted things. Baby blankets and “clothes” made out of heavy-ass wool? NO THANKS.