Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?

[Anonymous]

I think that a lovely idea and will be passed down as a treasured heirloom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not for me. I'd drape it on the couch, take a pic of me and DH sitting near it, and then donate it. I see that as "handmade crap" even if it's good quality and all.

I'm 48 and in all my years of randomly knowing people who knit or whatever, have only known ONE person who is actually amazing at it to the point I'd wear/use what she makes.

Yeah the Chinese crap for sale is much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not for me. I'd drape it on the couch, take a pic of me and DH sitting near it, and then donate it. I see that as "handmade crap" even if it's good quality and all.

I'm 48 and in all my years of randomly knowing people who knit or whatever, have only known ONE person who is actually amazing at it to the point I'd wear/use what she makes.

You sound dreadful.

[Anonymous]

I was also going to say hard NO. But after reading, go for it. Full size, enough to decoratively lay at the foot of a king bed.

Do think about how/when you’re going to give it.

[Anonymous]

I like blankets, but people gave us handmade blankets for baby births and while they're beautiful, I don't really have a use for them (weird size, can't be washed). You should go into it knowing it might get attic-boxed or donated. Only put in the time if you're fine with that.

Somebody gave us hand painted decorative plates with our names and wedding date on them, and I have no idea what to do with them: can't donate because of our names, but can't use them for anything. I would honestly rather they gave us nothing, ungrateful as that sounds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like blankets, but people gave us handmade blankets for baby births and while they're beautiful, I don't really have a use for them (weird size, can't be washed). You should go into it knowing it might get attic-boxed or donated. Only put in the time if you're fine with that.

Somebody gave us hand painted decorative plates with our names and wedding date on them, and I have no idea what to do with them: can't donate because of our names, but can't use them for anything. I would honestly rather they gave us nothing, ungrateful as that sounds.

I have plates like those. We actually use them as birthday plates for everyone in our house. We all eat our birthday donut on the plate with a candle and sing.

I do agree that handmade things are hard to use. I don’t like that I can’t wash knit things but I do appreciate quilts. My in laws got a quilt for their wedding. Never used it. Their granddaughter is obsessed with it and sleeps with it nightly. So you never know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was also going to say hard NO. But after reading, go for it. Full size, enough to decoratively lay at the foot of a king bed.

Do think about how/when you’re going to give it.

No, you do not know whether it will go with the newlyweds linens. Unless you know exactly the taste of the couple, you are asking to have your gift relegated to a donation pile or in the back of a closet because it cannot be returned. Don't put the couple in this position.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not for me. I'd drape it on the couch, take a pic of me and DH sitting near it, and then donate it. I see that as "handmade crap" even if it's good quality and all.

I'm 48 and in all my years of randomly knowing people who knit or whatever, have only known ONE person who is actually amazing at it to the point I'd wear/use what she makes.

Yeah the Chinese crap for sale is much better.

Check is best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that a lovely idea and will be passed down as a treasured heirloom.

No, it won't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not for me. I'd drape it on the couch, take a pic of me and DH sitting near it, and then donate it. I see that as "handmade crap" even if it's good quality and all.

I'm 48 and in all my years of randomly knowing people who knit or whatever, have only known ONE person who is actually amazing at it to the point I'd wear/use what she makes.

Yeah the Chinese crap for sale is much better.

Lol, it's not, but at least I keep my things a long time. I'm about to replace my blanket that's been on my bed for 24 years. I take good care of my things, but want to like what I have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not for me. I'd drape it on the couch, take a pic of me and DH sitting near it, and then donate it. I see that as "handmade crap" even if it's good quality and all.

I'm 48 and in all my years of randomly knowing people who knit or whatever, have only known ONE person who is actually amazing at it to the point I'd wear/use what she makes.

You sound dreadful.

I also hate cats and love air conditioning. In some ways, sure, I'm an awful person. I've volunteered at the same place once a week consistently for over 15 years, have been checking in monthly with a coworker whose husband died over a year ago, and last week spent an hour on the phone chatting with my senior citizen aunt. So in some ways, I'm a great person. In sum, I'm just like everyone else, except here I'm being honest about my preferences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that a lovely idea and will be passed down as a treasured heirloom.

It will end up at Goodwill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I saw the title of your post, I thought “hard no“ but when I actually read what you had to say, I think that sounds like a wonderful gift

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not for me. I'd drape it on the couch, take a pic of me and DH sitting near it, and then donate it. I see that as "handmade crap" even if it's good quality and all.

I'm 48 and in all my years of randomly knowing people who knit or whatever, have only known ONE person who is actually amazing at it to the point I'd wear/use what she makes.

Yeah the Chinese crap for sale is much better.

But it was bought at a store!

[Anonymous]

I think that it's a lovely idea and would be thrilled to see it.

BUT I would only do this if I knew the couple well. How close are you with the bride/groom? If they are *your* type of people, it'd be a great idea. If not too close with them, maybe something a bit more generic - plates or something.