Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rather than potentially waste your time, I would email them and ask. If you’re not close enough for that, then I wouldn’t knit for them.

This makes no sense! What bride in her right mind would ever say, “Nah, we’re good.” She would HAVE to say yes.

I posted earlier that I like the baby blankets and quilts that have been handed down to us, but I didn’t realize that you are not actually friends with the bride. I assumed that as her friend, you would at least have an idea as to whether this would be well-received or not.

I would ask the MOB to tell her daughter that one of her friends (doesn’t need to know who) is thinking of making her a blanket as a wedding present, and ask whether that’s something she would like. This gives the bride space to be honest and say no if that’s how she feels.

Except it really doesn’t. 50/50 the mother or mother in law will feel obligated to say yes and then be a pain in the ass to the couple about the stupid blanket. Why OP do you feel the need to do this? From your post it sounds like you are insecure about not having as much money as the other relatives. You want to do something that makes you stand out or justify sending a small check. Just don’t! They do not care if you send a small or large gift or check. They aren’t keeping score and there is not an electronic ticker at the wedding announcing that Jane gave the smallest amount . So just drop the blanket nonsense, give a gift off the registry small is fine, and let them be.

[Anonymous]

Do you have pictures to share of other blankets you have made?

[Anonymous]

This would be lovely. Please do it.