If your kid is not interested in Ivys or top 20

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Anonymous wrote:To those of you who say - my kid is 17-18, I let them make their own choices - you are out of your mind. Their judgement doesnt fully develop until thier mid 20's. Do they have experience and life skills to know what the real world is really like? To know how hard it is to get a high paying job or into graduate school? No? Of course they want to have fun and take it easy. When they pay for it, they can decide. Until then, they are children.

So you decide where tour kid can attend college? Your kids have no input since you are paying? I'm "out of my mind" for letting my kids find the best fit for them?

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Anonymous wrote:To those of you who say - my kid is 17-18, I let them make their own choices - you are out of your mind. Their judgement doesnt fully develop until thier mid 20's. Do they have experience and life skills to know what the real world is really like? To know how hard it is to get a high paying job or into graduate school? No? Of course they want to have fun and take it easy. When they pay for it, they can decide. Until then, they are children.

Lady, you are the one who’s out of your mind. You just can’t let go. It’s your kids life, not yours. Your poor kids.

I'm really sorry for your kids. I'm equally sorry for you. The "real world" is something we all must deal with and come to understand through experience.

You seem to know the secret to the "real world" and "high paying job". Please let us know your secrets!

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Anonymous wrote:To those of you who say - my kid is 17-18, I let them make their own choices - you are out of your mind. Their judgement doesnt fully develop until thier mid 20's. Do they have experience and life skills to know what the real world is really like? To know how hard it is to get a high paying job or into graduate school? No? Of course they want to have fun and take it easy. When they pay for it, they can decide. Until then, they are children.

Lady, you are the one who’s out of your mind. You just can’t let go. It’s your kids life, not yours. Your poor kids.

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Anonymous wrote:To those of you who say - my kid is 17-18, I let them make their own choices - you are out of your mind. Their judgement doesnt fully develop until thier mid 20's. Do they have experience and life skills to know what the real world is really like? To know how hard it is to get a high paying job or into graduate school? No? Of course they want to have fun and take it easy. When they pay for it, they can decide. Until then, they are children.

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Anonymous wrote:To those of you who say - my kid is 17-18, I let them make their own choices - you are out of your mind. Their judgement doesnt fully develop until thier mid 20's. Do they have experience and life skills to know what the real world is really like? To know how hard it is to get a high paying job or into graduate school? No? Of course they want to have fun and take it easy. When they pay for it, they can decide. Until then, they are children.

This is funny to me. I'm "out of my mind " to let my kid pick the right university for them? Do you lay out your kids clothing in the morning because their "judgement doesn't fully develop until their mid 20's"? Do you make them pay for their clothes as well?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a defense mechanism. If I reject these schools first, they can’t reject me. I have seen parents say all kinds of cra@p when their kid had zero chance or the stats for a T10 or even T20.

DD has an uw 4.0, as many APs as her school will permit, and a 1500+ SAT. She has zero chance at a T10/T20 because she’s a white girl from the DMV, full-pay but not donor class, non-athlete, non-legacy. The door was closed before she was born by forces over which she has no control. Sure it’s a defense mechanism. I am attempting to defend my child against the belief, prevalent in Ivy admissions offices, that her race, gender, class, and hometown make her worthless.

Hm. My white cisgender son had slightly worse GPA, no APs (none offered) and was handily admitted two cycles ago to a T15 with no hooks from one of the DMV's better zips. No, that year wasn't 'easier' - it was the absolute worst year for the TO nonsense and scattershot applications.

Maybe just try to be optimistic and less Eeyore for her sake! Your pisspoor attitude is bound to impact her