Are marriages worse today?

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Anonymous wrote:You’re kidding me. We KNOW women were trapped in marriages. They didn’t have the ability to get a credit card or even checking account without a husband. Forget earning power to survive alone. I’m flabbergasted how you don’t know recent history.

I’m not trying to be pedantic, but you cannot believe that 47% of marriages were between women and horrific abusers who beat them and they couldn’t leave. I’m trying to understand realistically if people were generally better spouses to each other or if half of marriages were as bad as they are today, but women could not leave them.

There can be bad marriages without horrific abusers who beat their wives — probably the precent of modern marriages like that is closer to your 2.3% of people who were willing to go through the effort to divorce when it was much harder. Now divorce is easier so people who don’t suit or have bad but not abusive marriages divorce. Back then they were stuck with each other due to the prohibitive social and financial cost of divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re kidding me. We KNOW women were trapped in marriages. They didn’t have the ability to get a credit card or even checking account without a husband. Forget earning power to survive alone. I’m flabbergasted how you don’t know recent history.

I’m not trying to be pedantic, but you cannot believe that 47% of marriages were between women and horrific abusers who beat them and they couldn’t leave. I’m trying to understand realistically if people were generally better spouses to each other or if half of marriages were as bad as they are today, but women could not leave them.

There can be bad marriages without horrific abusers who beat their wives — probably the precent of modern marriages like that is closer to your 2.3% of people who were willing to go through the effort to divorce when it was much harder. Now divorce is easier so people who don’t suit or have bad but not abusive marriages divorce. Back then they were stuck with each other due to the prohibitive social and financial cost of divorce.

+1 My XDH wasn't abusive but had untreated depression/anxiety. It was a bad marriage because of that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no, marriages are not worse. Women just have options. I think it's very telling that the only way to keep marriages together in the past was by removing all the power and rights from women so they would be forced to stay. Doesn't say much about marriage as an institution does it?

But marriages where both people are educated and slightly older than average have a lower divorce rate. So there are marriages that survive in modern times even when the women are very capable of leaving.

[Anonymous]

The Taliban are right about women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Taliban are right about women.

<sigh> Troll fail.