Is it cultural appropriation for my (white) DD to wear beads in her hair?

[Anonymous]

Why not ask the friends' mothers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point that these braids won't stay in her hair at all if she has straight hair. Just explain to her that her black friends have a different hair texture, and the tight braids both help protect their hair from getting too dry, and they also stay in the tight braids because their hair is a different texture. Her hair won't stay in small tight braids because it's smooth and would slip out of the braid. But you can thread a few beads into a few single braids in her hair, or do braided pig tails with beaded hair ties so she looks a little more like her friends.

Maybe I missed it, but do we know the OP’s daughter’s hair texture? You know white people don’t all have the same hair, right?

(Also agree that your point is irrelevant anyway.)

White people can have coarse hair.

<returns to picking out knots>

you know black hair isn't coarse, right?

[Anonymous]

As black woman of a black daughter who regularly wears braids and beads, it is fine. It's a hairstyle. I do have a couple of friends who consider it appropriation, but I roll my eyes at them. It isn't. They're gatekeeping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point that these braids won't stay in her hair at all if she has straight hair. Just explain to her that her black friends have a different hair texture, and the tight braids both help protect their hair from getting too dry, and they also stay in the tight braids because their hair is a different texture. Her hair won't stay in small tight braids because it's smooth and would slip out of the braid. But you can thread a few beads into a few single braids in her hair, or do braided pig tails with beaded hair ties so she looks a little more like her friends.

Maybe I missed it, but do we know the OP’s daughter’s hair texture? You know white people don’t all have the same hair, right?

(Also agree that your point is irrelevant anyway.)

White people can have coarse hair.

<returns to picking out knots>

you know black hair isn't coarse, right?

This is such an annoying way to phrase a response. And yes it generally is.

Signed,
A Black woman

[Anonymous]

it's fine.

to be honest to the extent it is not it is bc of the person. you seem nice. but that is too hard to explain

[Anonymous]

Get a recommendation from a black family on where to have it done on the cheap. We were robbed on vacation. Only to find out by daughter's black friends grandma would do her hair for free. It's kind of an in-style. My kid received nothing but compliments, mostly from the black folks we knew and ran into.

[Anonymous]

Cultural appropriation is not a thing.