Is it cultural appropriation for my (white) DD to wear beads in her hair?

[Anonymous]

Don’t try and fashion her hair in braids with beads like her black friends (it both won’t work/look good and is cultural appropriation) but you can get her beaded hair-ties and other fun hair ornaments she and her friends can experiment with.

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My son wants to paint his nails like the girls at school do. Is that gender appropriation and therefore unacceptable?

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Anonymous wrote:My son wants to paint his nails like the girls at school do. Is that gender appropriation and therefore unacceptable?

Nice try!!! Don't conflate things.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For god’s sake it’s fine. Stop making race the end all be all of everything. We’re confusing the hell out of our kids by constantly talking out both sides of our mouths here.

You're not confusing anyone; we can see you're a racist.

And you are a troll.

Not a troll, just someone who can see the writing on the digital wall

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Anonymous wrote:For god’s sake it’s fine. Stop making race the end all be all of everything. We’re confusing the hell out of our kids by constantly talking out both sides of our mouths here.

Yes, it's fine. See the film "10"

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Anonymous wrote:It's not fine. it's cultural appropriation. Full stop.

It’s no more cultural appropriation than Black people dying their hair blonde. It’s a fashion choice. I think she would look ridiculous with a whole head of beads plus she’s 5 years old. Just tell her not right now.

That is a wild statement. You need to learn the definition of cultural appropriation.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I think beads are tacky, uncomfortable and a lot of effort. I wouldn’t want to wear them. That being said, yes your daughter can wear whatever the she wants.

But I don’t believe in the concept of cultural appropriation. Our entire world is based on different nations learning and adopting from each other. Is it cultural appropriation for a Mexican to name her daughter Sara or her son Jesus? (Those are both Hebrew names that the Romans spread through the Western World after they conquered the Jews, destroyed the second temple and then “misappropriated” their religion, lol.) Or should the Chinese not be allowed to use electricity because it was invented by an American? Or closer to point, can Black women wear weaves? Or is that offensive, too?!?!😂

The idea that a hairstyle can only belong to one group or the dumbest, most asinine thing I’ve ever heard. I cannot believe that this is even a concept to troll. It is stupid beyond belief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not cultural appropriation for a white kid to put beads in her hair, but you should not actually get her whole head braided, because it's a lot of effort for a style that won't last long enough on her hair to be worth it. I'd do a single braid across the front (headband braid?) and put some beads on the end, not a whole head.

FWIW, my black daughter comes home asking for certain looks/styles that are not as achievable on her hair and we do what we can to make her feel like she's getting something similar to her friends and talk about how everything doesn't work the same for everybody. Such is life.

Thanks! This is super helpful! I definitely wouldn't have tried to put all her hair in braids, but she does frequently ask for French braids or similar because she has thick, curly hair that easily tangles and she hates me combing it. And I definitely think she would understand the concept that different people have different hair textures and not all styles work for all hairs - so simple and perfect! Thank you!

I also love the idea from a PP to get some beaded hair ties, which would probably satisfy her.

And I would definitely also check with her friends' parents if I do let her have any smaller braids with beads. I just wanted a gut check to make sure this wasn't a "hell no" before I approach them since I don't know all the other parents that well.

[Anonymous]

I would just do one or two tiny ones at the front of her head while she wears the rest down. I wouldn’t consider it cultural appropriation with just a couple. Plenty of white children do/did that. My mom used to do that for me when I was a kid in the 90s. She’d also do the ones where you wrap embroidery floss around it.
I had one those horrible automatic braiding toys as well that came with beads to put on the end and my friends and I would all use them.

[Anonymous]

Try trying her French braids off with something like these: https://www.amazon.com/Expressions-Ponytail-Elastics-Collection-Brightly/dp/B0BRQRD1FS/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.KDX07xuVO1BbyAz7sF5TxGHxjEvxK4j1eVy5NIygwKZjGROeM4hwy2Xl9guxxXS2RYUEpLN3-lKdKYXL9DdTyUBnROkXJUrjBeVkHRAevvzRqcl-8zCmYOsqSHTaxnwlMG_wrpjbTCASgMhJjdoWKLiuSp8A8QK4Oo3BPfvflm4sHMmKAi85ojWGNHQV46Ppzt0adxXgQtnewMV-9eBbKQ.5XkaxAJgiwegHtVbFbbuCsI0CAqFz9K5co-KS2rQZM8&dib_tag=se&keywords=hair+ties+with+bead&qid=1708106135&sr=8-4

She probably just wants fun color/clackiness i her hair!

[Anonymous]

Although I do not speak for all black people, I am a black woman who does believe in cultural appropriation, but who also believes that this isn't it. I say she can do it if she (and you) wants.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For god’s sake it’s fine. Stop making race the end all be all of everything. We’re confusing the hell out of our kids by constantly talking out both sides of our mouths here.

Yes, it's fine. See the film "10"

Yes, by all means, let's base whether or not something is racist on a movie from half a century ago.

[Anonymous]

It’s just hair, she can wear it however she wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not fine. it's cultural appropriation. Full stop.

What the hell does this even mean? No one owns hairstyles. Should I get pieces when men wear earrings and skirts? Should I remove my nose ring? Stop making Chinese food? Should blacks stop straightening their hair? This is a ridiculous question and anyone who is offended when they should be flattered is looking to be offended.

[Anonymous]

Oh no, DCUM suggesting that an American girl should wear French braids.

I mean, the French could definitely claim that Americans have had the dominating thing going on globally for a century, so this should fall under the appropriation definition.

Or does insanity apply only to MAC NW45 onwards?