friend lost bracelet I gave her to repair in India

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, next time you go to India buy another one yourself to make up for the loss.

It was a unique bracelet; if we were scammed, I wouldn't want to purchase any more jewelry there. It will be obvious one is missing. I won't say anything to my mother-in-law, of course. I may say I like wearing one.. my mother in law is very sweet and I'm not too worried about it. she doesn't ask me a lot of questions.

update: friend sent an amazon link for 3 bangles that are $20 and asked if she should order them for me.b

Honestly this is way more insulting than if she just profusely apologized and asked you how she could make it right.
I would respond “no thank you” and be done.

Even if friend believes the bracelet was fake gold, offering to replace a sentimental wedding gift from your MIL by gifting you a $20 bangle set from Amazon is just….rude and dismissive.

An apology and some acknowledgment that she feels terrible for having lost this sentimental treasure would mean so much more. Even if no cash were offered.
(And of course you would accept apology with grace and understanding, knowing that you took a risk in entrusting such a sentimental piece to someone else)

[Anonymous]

Weird.

Weird that you would give someone traveling across the world one more (expensive) thing to worry about.

Weird that she says she lost it and is insisting it isn't real gold.
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Both y'all are weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird.

Weird that you would give someone traveling across the world one more (expensive) thing to worry about.

Weird that she says she lost it and is insisting it isn't real gold.
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Both y'all are weird.

If the bracelet turned black it isn’t real gold. That doesn’t excuse losing it, but the friend might not be lying about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird.

Weird that you would give someone traveling across the world one more (expensive) thing to worry about.

Weird that she says she lost it and is insisting it isn't real gold.
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Both y'all are weird.

+1 Also weird that OP says she’s not mad at the friend but decided to post about this on DCUM.

If you’re real, OP, you should have been delighted that posters on here solved your problem so neatly: take the surviving bangle to a local jeweler and get it copied. I would certainly want to know if the bracelets are fakes and their retail value so I could either (1) determine that my “friend” is a liar and drop her; or (2) warn MIL that she should not return to her store of choice in India because they are perpetrating frauds on their customers.

Also, if you share what you find confusing about currency exchange rates between the two countries, I’m certain DCUM could solve that problem for you as well.

[Anonymous]

Initially, OP made it sound like these bracelets are akin to wedding rings, had great sentimental value, etc. Now she's saying her husband is mad at all the drama - so he's mad that it's possible the bangles are not 100% gold but he's NOT mad that OP's friend lost/stole something that was described as having great sentimental value?

If I asked a friend to help me with an important project (which is what a "help me get my wedding bracelet repaired" request would be), and then the friend not only didn't help but lost the item and had no explanation or real apology for that, I would be pretty upset and wouldn't just be dropping it to avoid drama because I can afford a new bracelet. I can afford a new wedding ring too, but if I asked someone to transport it for repair and they'd lost it, I'd have a little more response than OP, I think.

[Anonymous]

Definitely a troll post. This is not real life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Initially, OP made it sound like these bracelets are akin to wedding rings, had great sentimental value, etc. Now she's saying her husband is mad at all the drama - so he's mad that it's possible the bangles are not 100% gold but he's NOT mad that OP's friend lost/stole something that was described as having great sentimental value?

If I asked a friend to help me with an important project (which is what a "help me get my wedding bracelet repaired" request would be), and then the friend not only didn't help but lost the item and had no explanation or real apology for that, I would be pretty upset and wouldn't just be dropping it to avoid drama because I can afford a new bracelet. I can afford a new wedding ring too, but if I asked someone to transport it for repair and they'd lost it, I'd have a little more response than OP, I think.

Op here. It's a symbol to show you're married and when I am visiting it's important to his family that I wear them. There are a lot of cultural differences at play here. Thanks to the people who were nice and not condescending. I have been so close to this friend for so long. I don't know if anyone is lying to me but I am going to choose to move on. I was concerned for a few reasons. 1) did my husband's family know it was fake and not tell me thinking I wouldn't find out or do they have different definitions of what makes something "real"

As for buying Indian jewelry here or going to a jewelry store here, it didn't occur to me. I don't shop here for Indian stuff. Jewelry has never been my thing. When we visit India everyone makes a big deal that I don't wear gold so my MIL wanted to gift me something probably to shut up people. There was a rumor going around something like- why did he marry this girl who doesn't wear gold? I think culturally if someone isn't wearing gold some may think that they are poor. I'm getting all my jewelry details also from my husband who has no interest in jewelry.

Anyway, I got a job offer today so I am going to worry about that. Thanks again for all your help to the nice people!

Maybe after DH gets his bonus in February I will have him treat me to a new bangle from an indian shop in NJ..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Initially, OP made it sound like these bracelets are akin to wedding rings, had great sentimental value, etc. Now she's saying her husband is mad at all the drama - so he's mad that it's possible the bangles are not 100% gold but he's NOT mad that OP's friend lost/stole something that was described as having great sentimental value?

If I asked a friend to help me with an important project (which is what a "help me get my wedding bracelet repaired" request would be), and then the friend not only didn't help but lost the item and had no explanation or real apology for that, I would be pretty upset and wouldn't just be dropping it to avoid drama because I can afford a new bracelet. I can afford a new wedding ring too, but if I asked someone to transport it for repair and they'd lost it, I'd have a little more response than OP, I think.

Op here. It's a symbol to show you're married and when I am visiting it's important to his family that I wear them. There are a lot of cultural differences at play here. Thanks to the people who were nice and not condescending. I have been so close to this friend for so long. I don't know if anyone is lying to me but I am going to choose to move on. I was concerned for a few reasons. 1) did my husband's family know it was fake and not tell me thinking I wouldn't find out or do they have different definitions of what makes something "real"

As for buying Indian jewelry here or going to a jewelry store here, it didn't occur to me. I don't shop here for Indian stuff. Jewelry has never been my thing. When we visit India everyone makes a big deal that I don't wear gold so my MIL wanted to gift me something probably to shut up people. There was a rumor going around something like- why did he marry this girl who doesn't wear gold? I think culturally if someone isn't wearing gold some may think that they are poor. I'm getting all my jewelry details also from my husband who has no interest in jewelry.

Anyway, I got a job offer today so I am going to worry about that. Thanks again for all your help to the nice people!

Maybe after DH gets his bonus in February I will have him treat me to a new bangle from an indian shop in NJ..

You are so naive Jfc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP must have received what is called 2-gram gold or “covering” jewels in India: usually silver that is electroplated with real gold. It costs a fraction of solid gold jewelry and looks just as authentic when it’s new. Many women in India including my mom and aunts wear this now for safety reasons, since real gold jewelry is an attractive target for thieves. If you wear it too often or don’t take good care of it the covering can wear off and expose the metal beneath.

Op here. Yes, this sounds possible but would anyone spend $600 on one bracelet for something like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Initially, OP made it sound like these bracelets are akin to wedding rings, had great sentimental value, etc. Now she's saying her husband is mad at all the drama - so he's mad that it's possible the bangles are not 100% gold but he's NOT mad that OP's friend lost/stole something that was described as having great sentimental value?

If I asked a friend to help me with an important project (which is what a "help me get my wedding bracelet repaired" request would be), and then the friend not only didn't help but lost the item and had no explanation or real apology for that, I would be pretty upset and wouldn't just be dropping it to avoid drama because I can afford a new bracelet. I can afford a new wedding ring too, but if I asked someone to transport it for repair and they'd lost it, I'd have a little more response than OP, I think.

Op here. It's a symbol to show you're married and when I am visiting it's important to his family that I wear them. There are a lot of cultural differences at play here. Thanks to the people who were nice and not condescending. I have been so close to this friend for so long. I don't know if anyone is lying to me but I am going to choose to move on. I was concerned for a few reasons. 1) did my husband's family know it was fake and not tell me thinking I wouldn't find out or do they have different definitions of what makes something "real"

As for buying Indian jewelry here or going to a jewelry store here, it didn't occur to me. I don't shop here for Indian stuff. Jewelry has never been my thing. When we visit India everyone makes a big deal that I don't wear gold so my MIL wanted to gift me something probably to shut up people. There was a rumor going around something like- why did he marry this girl who doesn't wear gold? I think culturally if someone isn't wearing gold some may think that they are poor. I'm getting all my jewelry details also from my husband who has no interest in jewelry.

Anyway, I got a job offer today so I am going to worry about that. Thanks again for all your help to the nice people!

Maybe after DH gets his bonus in February I will have him treat me to a new bangle from an indian shop in NJ..

You are so naive Jfc

Op here. I will take that over your personality. I think it is sad when people get off on making fun of someone's intelligence. I have learning disabilities so next time you insult someone's intelligence perhaps you can consider that. I am not going to check this post anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you not Indian and have just married Indian? Bc this is the risk you take giving jewelry to a friend. Not unheard of to “lose” it - the jeweler told her what it was worth so she sold it and bought herself something or some relative of hers liked it so she gifted it to them. And unless your DHs family is exceptionally poor, which I’m guessing they aren’t, no your wedding gifts from them weren’t fake.

Can you explain more why you're making it seem like a friend stealing from you is no big deal or to be expected among South Asians? I'm fascinated by this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must have received what is called 2-gram gold or “covering” jewels in India: usually silver that is electroplated with real gold. It costs a fraction of solid gold jewelry and looks just as authentic when it’s new. Many women in India including my mom and aunts wear this now for safety reasons, since real gold jewelry is an attractive target for thieves. If you wear it too often or don’t take good care of it the covering can wear off and expose the metal beneath.

Op here. Yes, this sounds possible but would anyone spend $600 on one bracelet for something like this?

This right here shows your bracelet is fake. Even if you buy from India, a 24k bangle would be much more than 600 dollars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must have received what is called 2-gram gold or “covering” jewels in India: usually silver that is electroplated with real gold. It costs a fraction of solid gold jewelry and looks just as authentic when it’s new. Many women in India including my mom and aunts wear this now for safety reasons, since real gold jewelry is an attractive target for thieves. If you wear it too often or don’t take good care of it the covering can wear off and expose the metal beneath.

Op here. Yes, this sounds possible but would anyone spend $600 on one bracelet for something like this?

600 is in line with good quality plated jewelry from a brand name. It is too low for the real stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must have received what is called 2-gram gold or “covering” jewels in India: usually silver that is electroplated with real gold. It costs a fraction of solid gold jewelry and looks just as authentic when it’s new. Many women in India including my mom and aunts wear this now for safety reasons, since real gold jewelry is an attractive target for thieves. If you wear it too often or don’t take good care of it the covering can wear off and expose the metal beneath.

Op here. Yes, this sounds possible but would anyone spend $600 on one bracelet for something like this?

This right here shows your bracelet is fake. Even if you buy from India, a 24k bangle would be much more than 600 dollars.

She's not asking if its fake. She's asking if $600 is too much for gold covered bangles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must have received what is called 2-gram gold or “covering” jewels in India: usually silver that is electroplated with real gold. It costs a fraction of solid gold jewelry and looks just as authentic when it’s new. Many women in India including my mom and aunts wear this now for safety reasons, since real gold jewelry is an attractive target for thieves. If you wear it too often or don’t take good care of it the covering can wear off and expose the metal beneath.

Op here. Yes, this sounds possible but would anyone spend $600 on one bracelet for something like this?

This right here shows your bracelet is fake. Even if you buy from India, a 24k bangle would be much more than 600 dollars.

That really depends on when they bought it, and how much it weighs. You can find these flashy, thin, light weight ones that aren't terribly expensive.