friend lost bracelet I gave her to repair in India

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the friend who lost the bangle Indian? Is she from the same region as where the bangle was purchased and that’s where she visited?

Different regions. Dh is from the Bengal region. She's South Indian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok so maybe she thought it was a $20 piece of bangle and thats what she is offering you back.

It's impossible to compensate for the loss of a sentimental item, and so far there is still disagreement on whether the item was gold or not. The friend is not doing a proper job of apologizing. A sincere apology with no replacement is better than friend's proposal to buy 3 random cheap bracelets.

[Anonymous]

Where are you from?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so maybe she thought it was a $20 piece of bangle and thats what she is offering you back.

It's impossible to compensate for the loss of a sentimental item, and so far there is still disagreement on whether the item was gold or not. The friend is not doing a proper job of apologizing. A sincere apology with no replacement is better than friend's proposal to buy 3 random cheap bracelets.

op here. now she's saying it's a temporary fix so I have another one when I see my mother in law soon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are you from?

US. I met my husband in grad school. We have two children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok so maybe she thought it was a $20 piece of bangle and thats what she is offering you back.

It's impossible to compensate for the loss of a sentimental item, and so far there is still disagreement on whether the item was gold or not. The friend is not doing a proper job of apologizing. A sincere apology with no replacement is better than friend's proposal to buy 3 random cheap bracelets.

op here. now she's saying it's a temporary fix so I have another one when I see my mother in law soon

She thinks your mother in law will give you another one??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: OK, so maybe she thought it was a $20 piece of bangle, and that's what she is offering you back.

It's impossible to compensate for the loss of a sentimental item, and so far there is still disagreement on whether the item was gold or not. The friend is not doing a proper job of apologizing. A sincere apology with no replacement is better than friend's proposal to buy 3 random cheap bracelets.

OP here. I agree. I have been friends with her for so long and always trusted her. I think most people would be a little upset, but I am not. I've never been a jewelry person. I feel bad because it was important to my mother-in-law, and she spent a lot of money buying the bangles. DH's mother has been a widow since DH was young. They are a middle-class family. It's very hard for me to understand their currency conversion... it was a lot in US money..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok so maybe she thought it was a $20 piece of bangle and thats what she is offering you back.

It's impossible to compensate for the loss of a sentimental item, and so far there is still disagreement on whether the item was gold or not. The friend is not doing a proper job of apologizing. A sincere apology with no replacement is better than friend's proposal to buy 3 random cheap bracelets.

op here. now she's saying it's a temporary fix so I have another one when I see my mother in law soon

She thinks your mother in law will give you another one??

no I think she may buy a new one in India. she's still there right now. My MIL is visiting us here soon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok so maybe she thought it was a $20 piece of bangle and thats what she is offering you back.

It's impossible to compensate for the loss of a sentimental item, and so far there is still disagreement on whether the item was gold or not. The friend is not doing a proper job of apologizing. A sincere apology with no replacement is better than friend's proposal to buy 3 random cheap bracelets.

op here. now she's saying it's a temporary fix so I have another one when I see my mother in law soon

If your MIL looks at your arms at all, MIL will notice. If you need a replacement, get your own so it suits you. I think if you let your friend buy a cheap replacement it takes the pressure off your friend to find the bracelet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok so maybe she thought it was a $20 piece of bangle and thats what she is offering you back.

It's impossible to compensate for the loss of a sentimental item, and so far there is still disagreement on whether the item was gold or not. The friend is not doing a proper job of apologizing. A sincere apology with no replacement is better than friend's proposal to buy 3 random cheap bracelets.

op here. now she's saying it's a temporary fix so I have another one when I see my mother in law soon

If your MIL looks at your arms at all, MIL will notice. If you need a replacement, get your own so it suits you. I think if you let your friend buy a cheap replacement it takes the pressure off your friend to find the bracelet.

op here. I told her no thanks and to let me know when she finds it.

[Anonymous]

Take it to any jewelry store (preferably an Indian one, but any will do) ASAP and ask them if it is solid/hollow real gold or just gold plated and what they think it's worth.

If it's real gold, then you will have to pay to get it officially appraised but then you'll have proof of what it is worth..

Then contact your friend and tell her it was appraised for $X and that is what she owes you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok so maybe she thought it was a $20 piece of bangle and thats what she is offering you back.

It's impossible to compensate for the loss of a sentimental item, and so far there is still disagreement on whether the item was gold or not. The friend is not doing a proper job of apologizing. A sincere apology with no replacement is better than friend's proposal to buy 3 random cheap bracelets.

op here. now she's saying it's a temporary fix so I have another one when I see my mother in law soon

If your MIL looks at your arms at all, MIL will notice. If you need a replacement, get your own so it suits you. I think if you let your friend buy a cheap replacement it takes the pressure off your friend to find the bracelet.

op here. i am planning on putting a fake cast on one arm a watch on one arm and a bangle on the other may be a better idea

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OK, so maybe she thought it was a $20 piece of bangle, and that's what she is offering you back.

It's impossible to compensate for the loss of a sentimental item, and so far there is still disagreement on whether the item was gold or not. The friend is not doing a proper job of apologizing. A sincere apology with no replacement is better than friend's proposal to buy 3 random cheap bracelets.

OP here. I agree. I have been friends with her for so long and always trusted her. I think most people would be a little upset, but I am not. I've never been a jewelry person. I feel bad because it was important to my mother-in-law, and she spent a lot of money buying the bangles. DH's mother has been a widow since DH was young. They are a middle-class family. It's very hard for me to understand their currency conversion... it was a lot in US money.. [/quote
Omg you are such a troll. Currency conversion is not difficult to understand. And ready-made things are in the shop for you to buy immediately, they don’t take a week. TROLL TROLL NASTY RACIST TROLL

OP here. When we went to the shop, they had samples for us to choose from, and they custom-made it for me so it would fit my wrists. They are so tight. I had to apply oil to get it on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok so maybe she thought it was a $20 piece of bangle and thats what she is offering you back.

It's impossible to compensate for the loss of a sentimental item, and so far there is still disagreement on whether the item was gold or not. The friend is not doing a proper job of apologizing. A sincere apology with no replacement is better than friend's proposal to buy 3 random cheap bracelets.

op here. now she's saying it's a temporary fix so I have another one when I see my mother in law soon

If your MIL looks at your arms at all, MIL will notice. If you need a replacement, get your own so it suits you. I think if you let your friend buy a cheap replacement it takes the pressure off your friend to find the bracelet.

op here. i am planning on putting a fake cast on one arm a watch on one arm and a bangle on the other may be a better idea

This has gone into troll territory. Now we know you're lying about it all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I gave an expensive gold bangle to a close friend so she could see if they could repair it. She said the jewelry shop claims it's fake gold and can't/ won't fix it.
A small part of the bracelet close to where the centerpiece attaches to the bracelet was turning black. I was surprised they claimed it was fake, but maybe it wasn't worth their time to fix it. They focus more on selling new bracelets, perhaps? Anyway, she explained this all and kept insisting it was fake. She somehow misplaced it and says they did give it back to her. The bracelet was sentimental as it was a gift from my husband's family. It was a wedding gift, and I have another one. I don't know much about gold from India... but I remember the jewelry store we went to was trusted. DH's mom has been going there for years. My husband doesn't know much either, but he said no gold is 100 percent gold, and it was a wrapped gold bangle. I am surprised she lost it and thinks it's no big deal.

This is called a “dissimilar metals reaction”. A type of galvanic corrosion that occurs in the presence of oxygen and moisture, where the two different types of metal in the bracelet essentially become like a small battery with the addition of an electrolyte (moisture and salt from your skin) and create a tiny electric current that causes the metals to oxidize from exposure to air.

It’s also an unmistakable indicator that the bracelet isn’t real gold. Pure gold doesn’t oxidize. At all. Under any circumstance. Ever.