I regret our wedding china

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wedding china is a vestigial aspect of a lost culture (that in my opinion, should stay lost).

Sell it if you can. Donate it if you can't. If you are anything like me, there just isn't room in the kitchen for something that rarely if ever gets used.

Yeah, back when people aspired to dress nicely, have manners, have celebratory dinners that didn't involve beer, gather in large groups for holidays. You're right, so glad those things are gone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll take it. Tons of people selling and buying china on Facebook marketplace

Exactly this. At the thrift store the good stuff goes fast. Or a full set in good condition.

Noritake not as fast as wedgewood, Limoges, etc.

Anything from the last 25 years sits unless it’s Tiffany.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use it frequently and you’ll get scratches and chips. Then, buy a new set.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wedding china is a vestigial aspect of a lost culture (that in my opinion, should stay lost).

Sell it if you can. Donate it if you can't. If you are anything like me, there just isn't room in the kitchen for something that rarely if ever gets used.

Yeah, back when people aspired to dress nicely, have manners, have celebratory dinners that didn't involve beer, gather in large groups for holidays. You're right, so glad those things are gone

+ a million

[Anonymous]

We registered for "china" at Crate and Barrell.
Then it was recalled for the finish coming off too easily (yes, a metallic rim).
So we returned it and bought a sofa with the credit. That was almost 20 years ago so we don't even have the sofa anymore.

Long live contemporary white plates!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wedding china is a vestigial aspect of a lost culture (that in my opinion, should stay lost).

Sell it if you can. Donate it if you can't. If you are anything like me, there just isn't room in the kitchen for something that rarely if ever gets used.

Could you expand on this? Interested to hear and understand.

Registering for china when one gets married is a 20th century tradition deeply related to class. Specifically the UMC. You don't register for china unless you are expected to entertain at a certain level (and if you are above that level you don't need to crowd source your china, crystal, etc by way of your wedding registry). Virtually no one entertains in that formal way anymore -- it just doesn't fit into contemporary life for many reasons (the primary one being that people simply enjoy more casual get-togethers now, the secondary one being that people don't have the kind of help that people of a certain class used to--who wants to wash that china by hand and polish all that silver? No one. It is extremely inconvenient -- so the help did it.). You don't want guests carrying plates that cost $300 each around your living room, piled with taquitos and pigs-in-a-blanket at your NYE get together. You don't need silver chafing dishes for the chili mac you serve at your Super Bowl party. Even dinner parties don't involve all the plated courses and whatnot where a full place setting with china, crystal and sliver would make sense. My grandmother (b. 1917) got all of that stuff out for Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter in the 80s; that's the last I've seen of someone regularly entertaining in that way.

Bottom line, most people (no matter their class or ses) do not entertain like this anymore. So ... it's lost culture. It's old-fashioned to invite people over and use linens, crystal, china and silver. Many guests would find it uncomfortable, or charming because it's novel these days, or try-hard. It just isn't what most people do nowadays. Do some people still do it? Sure. That's the vestige.

As far as my opinion that it should stay lost? I am not a fan of conspicuous displays of wealth, and I'm not a fan of overly formal entertaining. But that's really just taste. Just a personal opinion.

Plenty of our grandmothers entertained with china and didn't have help to wash it. I don't think getting out the china means it's final entertaining. I can't be the only one who puts my china plates out on the buffet, where everything is in Pyrex or Emile Henry, and not silver chafing dishes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wedding china is a vestigial aspect of a lost culture (that in my opinion, should stay lost).

Sell it if you can. Donate it if you can't. If you are anything like me, there just isn't room in the kitchen for something that rarely if ever gets used.

Yeah, back when people aspired to dress nicely, have manners, have celebratory dinners that didn't involve beer, gather in large groups for holidays. You're right, so glad those things are gone

You are replying to a post from 2023, and the poster who made this comment went on to elaborate on her initial point with a very thoughtful, informative post that has been quoted frequently since someone revived this thread.

[Anonymous]

We use willow pattern china as our everyday plates. I don’t love it, but it is now cheap as chips and we are inundated with it thanks to inheritances…