Why would he be in a random parking lot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men just hide in the bathroom when they get home.

This is what my DH does. He takes 30 minute “poops” with his phone daily. Sometimes twice a day. He insists that’s how long it takes him to poop. Whatever dear.

[Anonymous]

I do this. I like the parking lot outside of the TJMaxx or the Target near us.
I’ll also do this after what’s actually a “fast” beauty appointment - in particular getting my eyebrows and lip waxed - and spend the extra 45 min in my car reading on my phone while the redness subsides.
I’d sit in our driveway like some others on here except we have dogs and just the noise of a car in the driveway sets off the dogs barking and then the kids run outside etc, so ruled that out.

[Anonymous]

Hooker.

[Anonymous]

Why do you spy on your husband?

He's just decompressing.

[Anonymous]

Many parents do a version of this before picking their kids up at daycare as well. Taking some time to switch hats.

[Anonymous]

Geezzz Op ... you trace him? That is so wrong!! No wonder he needs to get away from you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he wanted alone time, why would he drive from where he works to random parking lots? Why not just sit in his car where he works?

This. Or just sit in his actual office.

Uh well in this example, I am subjected to the ever-misguided collaborative open office desk plan and can never escape someone talking to me while i am in there. I will sometimes sit in my car outside of my office during lunch or when I have 30 min between meetings just for a little quiet.

But I don’t do that after work. I want to leave immediately after work. Off the premises. That’s when stopping at the park or the Target on the way home for a mindless 30 min sit in silence makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my husband told me he needed some alone time or time away from me or some other BS like that I’d divorce his sorry ass and he’ll be paying me the rest of his sorry life. I’m not to be trifled with with about stuff like that.

Huh? Are you conjoined twins? The man can’t have alone time? Absence makes the heart grow fonder

[Anonymous]

If you have small kids, you might be getting angry he is wasting time - probably playing video games or watching movies or possibly talking on the phone to some ex-girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH typically arrives home from work around 6pm like clockwork. He rarely calls when he leaves work, but usually calls if he’s running late.

Usually if I’m making something time sensitive for dinner (like grilling steak) I will quickly check his location just to be sure he’s actually on his way and how far away so it doesn’t overcook.

A month or so ago I checked and noticed he was at a random parking lot on his route home. I thought it suspicious and so I texted him “have you left yet”, and he responded that he was running late. I had/have no other reason to suspect anything suspicious, so I ignored it, but have remained nosy nearly every day since. He was there about 30-45 minutes. It hadn’t happened again until yesterday, he texted me saying he would be late. I monitored, he left on time, but then ended up at a different random parking lot again for another 30-45 minutes, in the dark and cold. I confronted him and he looked shocked and a little disappointed. He said he was there because he doesn’t otherwise have any alone time to decompress. (I WFH and am always here.)

Does this sound believable? I don’t know what to think.

This is your husband it’s a little suspect that he couldn’t be honest with you about that from the start.

[Anonymous]

Well, you missed your chance to go to that parking lot and see for yourself before confronting him. See if his behavior changes. If he changes location or turns off tracking, then something is off. If he continues going to the same parking lot, knowing that you’re tracking him, then probably just decompressing as he says.

[Anonymous]

Having a sexy outfit on when he gets home will get him home on time guaranteed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Major red flag. He’s definitely up to something, probably anonymous gay hook-ups from grinder or a similar site. Whenever you see men in parking lots like that they’re up to shady stuff.

This.

DH goes for walks while taking kids to sports practices for alone time. I don’t use a tracker on him but he doesn’t feel intruded upon when I ask him when he can talk. I also don’t call him when he needs time to either talk to someone else or be alone. Since he’s not hiding anything, these conversations are easy to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having a sexy outfit on when he gets home will get him home on time guaranteed

When you have kids around, this is inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having a sexy outfit on when he gets home will get him home on time guaranteed

This or a text that says the sooner you get home the sooner we can be naked in bed together.