Is current partner your best ever sex partner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My first wife was incredible. But she was also a sex addict. I couldn’t keep up with her, so she had to find multiple guys.

I’m sorry. That sounds awful for both you and her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think there are three kinds of best: Best at making me feel an intense emotional connection, best at making me feel good physically (understanding my body), and best at making me feel like a great lover (responding to my touch).

Ex spouse was the best at the first category until we stopped having sex completely. The last years of our marriage were dead bedroom. Other women have come close, fortunately. Ex spouse was nowhere close in categories two or three.

It turns out that, most of the time, I don't really crave the other person's ability to make my body feel amazing. I appreciate it while it's happening and I remember it but there have been women who were absolutely amazing at this but didn't hold my attention for long.

I have to admit that the women who have really intense multiple Os really appeal to me. One thing I've noticed Ed is that women who respond very strongly sexually also sometimes get very close emotionally. They saythey start to think about me all the time.

You and they may be confusing emotions with hormones. An emotional connection is different than the obsessive cravings that good sex can produce.

Actually strong sexual response causes emotional attachment and bonding, he's right. There is multiple research on that

Agreed this is Esther Perel’s whole premise.

[Anonymous]

No, but I’m his only. We married fairly young. He’s gotten worse, more selfish, as time has passed, rather than better. I used to care, but now I just handle things myself and I’m grateful that other aspects of our marriage are strong. I have little hope for sex improving. It seems less important as time passes, so I guess it evens out.

[Anonymous]

I haven't been with a ton of women (under 10). They've all been "good." I'd say my ExDW was the best followed closely by my current partner. My ex was/is batsh*t crazy though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't been with a ton of women (under 10). They've all been "good." I'd say my ExDW was the best followed closely by my current partner. My ex was/is batsh*t crazy though.

What made ex the best?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't been with a ton of women (under 10). They've all been "good." I'd say my ExDW was the best followed closely by my current partner. My ex was/is batsh*t crazy though.

What made ex the best?

I’d say it was two things. I was very attracted to her and she really got into sex, but not in a production of OMGS kind of way, which feels a little contrived to me, more of a real, authentic pleasure kind of way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't been with a ton of women (under 10). They've all been "good." I'd say my ExDW was the best followed closely by my current partner. My ex was/is batsh*t crazy though.

What made ex the best?

I’d say it was two things. I was very attracted to her and she really got into sex, but not in a production of OMGS kind of way, which feels a little contrived to me, more of a real, authentic pleasure kind of way.

What’s the difference with her and current partner in bed?

[Anonymous]

Hell no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but I’m his only. We married fairly young. He’s gotten worse, more selfish, as time has passed, rather than better. I used to care, but now I just handle things myself and I’m grateful that other aspects of our marriage are strong. I have little hope for sex improving. It seems less important as time passes, so I guess it evens out.

Without being too graphic can you explain more what this means? Sounds like behavior to avoid!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't been with a ton of women (under 10). They've all been "good." I'd say my ExDW was the best followed closely by my current partner. My ex was/is batsh*t crazy though.

What made ex the best?

I’d say it was two things. I was very attracted to her and she really got into sex, but not in a production of OMGS kind of way, which feels a little contrived to me, more of a real, authentic pleasure kind of way.

What’s the difference with her and current partner in bed?

My current GF is amazing too. She makes me feel like a rockstar. I think the difference is comfort level. Only been dating for a few months, so still learning what makes GF tick. She isn’t super communicative as to what she likes, despite me attempting to have that conversation. She just says she likes it all. I find that difficult to believe 🙂. She hasn’t been with a ton of guys so it’s possible she doesn’t know and it’s gonna be trial and error. Either way, she’s up there with the best sex I’ve had.

[Anonymous]

Yes. One of many I'm sure who lost it to the floor whore in the dorm. From there, of course the crazy girl who is fantastic in bed but nuts outside of it. But my wife is the best. I have never had chemistry with someone as fast as her after we met. She is the perfect blend of girl next door and bad girl.

[Anonymous]

Best sex was probably my boyfriend my senior year of college through first year of career. But my love for my husband is much deeper. Marrying for an orgasm is primitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Best sex was probably my boyfriend my senior year of college through first year of career. But my love for my husband is much deeper. Marrying for an orgasm is primitive.

What made your ex BF so good?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. One of many I'm sure who lost it to the floor whore in the dorm. From there, of course the crazy girl who is fantastic in bed but nuts outside of it. But my wife is the best. I have never had chemistry with someone as fast as her after we met. She is the perfect blend of girl next door and bad girl.

Floor whore? Douche southern frat-boy speak. KLASSY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot imagine how anyone would not like to receive or to give.

Same.