| No, in college I had a GF who looked like a young Jessica Simpson and she had no inhibitions. But my wife is wonderful and I have no complaints about our sex life. |
| My wife definitey has the nicest body of anyone I’ve been with. A previous gf was close though and was pretty insane in bed. Also, I was in an LTR with someone who had a serious oral fixation and was a prodigy at giving head - like by the time she was done you couldn’t stand up or even speak. Lol. |
| Depends what you mean by best. First off, I don't compare people like it's a contest. Yes, the crazy girl who would fulfill any fantasy in my late 20s was great and exciting in bed, but I am much more turned on by my wife because of the history we have. |
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Yes, but not so much that he has awesome skills. He may even have them, but I what I wanted in my 20s in different what I like now.
I find him extremely hot and I put a lot of effort into the act. That makes him try harder too but not overdo it. Just perfect for my mid 40s. |
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For guys, is it technique or looks/body that made it the best ever for you?
As I woman, for me it’s technique. Looks matter, but some of the best looking guys I’ve been with were also some of the worst in bed. Wondering if it’s the same or different for men. |
Same. Also, I dated my spouse for several years but we consummated the relationship on our wedding night. Happily married with a satisfying sex life for past 32 years. |
| After 32 years with my husband and sex at least 3000 times it’s hard to remember all the fine details of my previous sex life. There weren’t many guys and the sex was good but 3000 times with the same guy with the desire unabated is pretty amazing to me. None of the other guys lasted very long which must mean something. |
| Def not: best sex was with one or two women who were absolutely crazy in bed, in a good way, but they were also crazy out of bed, which did not make them good potential life partners. |
One from the LTR sounds like a keeper. |
| Yes, I still equate sex with love and my husband is the only man I’ve ever really loved. My former boyfriends were nice to have as they beat being alone and sex was part of the relationship. It was fun and certainly enjoyable but it always lacked something. With my now husband I quickly knew something was very different and my pleasure level soared. |
| No, but he’s really getting better and more adventurous so he may be eventually. |
| No, but he will be! He has all the potential and he’s doing wonderfully on the learning curve. |
Same. Suspect this is true for a lot of guys. Eventually the crazy gets to be enough that you can't even enjoy the sex. It's a good learning experience and helps people to realize that "settling down" doesn't actually mean "settling." |
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No. I dated a guy who used to be a male stripper and he was unbelievable. Looking back, though, I knew he had been sexually abused as a child and I now wonder if that impacted his need to be the best performer. Sad story that I didn't quite understand at the time.
Husband can't be taught. I've tried. Simple stuff. Like here's a 100% guaranteed foreplay move. Very basic stuff, but he won't do it. |
Yeah, I’ve never experienced anything like it since. She was really into this soap opera and every day it would come on at the same time. All she wanted to do was give head and watch her show. Lol. It was like an hour every day and during the commercials I’d be crosseyed. So crazy to think of when I haven’t even been able to get a bj in the last 8 years. Oh well, I’m thankful for what I do have. |