As a woman what have you learned about men?

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Anonymous wrote:You can meet a really great guy with no red flags and after you have children he could become the worst father/partner you could ever imagine.

“Red flags” and is a bull sh!t term invented to blame women for men’s failures.

If you marry be prepared for it to all fall apart. They might become sick, or mentally ill or just not be up for the task. That is not your fault. No there was no magic formula you should have know when picking or some underlying signs you should have Sussed out.

Be the best person you can be and hopefully you partner will be too but if they aren’t still be the best person you can be.

I haven't found this to be true at all.

The warning signs are always there..
We as women often ignore them though because we're conditioned to make excuses for the sake of the relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

Idk, most women prefer a man that doesn't still refer to having a sex as "just bone" like a thirteen year old.

OK so get you one of those men.

^Hit a nerve, huh? PP was asking what was wrong with the statement from the "pending divorce PP" and just taking a guess here but perhaps wife doesn't get turned on when he asked her to "bone" anymore.

Because you can't pick apart anything else he said. Because those are his opinions. And you know nothing about his marriage or why he might be getting divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I learned not much about men until I had 3 boys. I grew up with sisters.

Boys/men are simple for the most part. Not sure what I was so scared of all those years.

If they are not treating you the way you want to be treated then leave. Another one will always come along.

Is really all she needs to know..

They really aren't helpless and mindless toddlers.
Don't tolerate games and don't play them.
Don't be afraid to speak up and speak your mind

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was brought up in an exceedingly conservative family and didn't understand the first thing about relationships.

But after extirpating myself, I now understand that the *benefit of the doubt* will be given to handsome men and pretty women, and even more so if they smile and are full of goodwill, and even more so if they dress well. That's a fundamental concept that's very important both in private and professional interactions. It may seem obvious to many, but it wasn't obvious to me, at all, coming out of my childhood. And that there is a certain currency given in regards to beauty and social graces for both sexes.

This is what I'm teaching my son and daughter.

It is weird that you didn't know that as my children attending very conservative Christian schools and they always emphasize the need to dress well and professionally.

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Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

Idk, most women prefer a man that doesn't still refer to having a sex as "just bone" like a thirteen year old.

OK so get you one of those men.

^Hit a nerve, huh? PP was asking what was wrong with the statement from the "pending divorce PP" and just taking a guess here but perhaps wife doesn't get turned on when he asked her to "bone" anymore.

Because you can't pick apart anything else he said. Because those are his opinions. And you know nothing about his marriage or why he might be getting divorced.

Sir, we don’t want you either. You are a pain in the rear.

[Anonymous]

No man truly wants or expects to carry household responsibilities 50/50.

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Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

Idk, most women prefer a man that doesn't still refer to having a sex as "just bone" like a thirteen year old.

OK so get you one of those men.

^Hit a nerve, huh? PP was asking what was wrong with the statement from the "pending divorce PP" and just taking a guess here but perhaps wife doesn't get turned on when he asked her to "bone" anymore.

Because you can't pick apart anything else he said. Because those are his opinions. And you know nothing about his marriage or why he might be getting divorced.

Ok buddy - go do a quick poll of the women you know and ask them what they think of the term "bone" wrt sex. It may not be the main factor in divorce but you can bet it's a contributing factor.

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Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

Idk, most women prefer a man that doesn't still refer to having a sex as "just bone" like a thirteen year old.

OK so get you one of those men.

^Hit a nerve, huh? PP was asking what was wrong with the statement from the "pending divorce PP" and just taking a guess here but perhaps wife doesn't get turned on when he asked her to "bone" anymore.

Because you can't pick apart anything else he said. Because those are his opinions. And you know nothing about his marriage or why he might be getting divorced.

Ok buddy - go do a quick poll of the women you know and ask them what they think of the term "bone" wrt sex. It may not be the main factor in divorce but you can bet it's a contributing factor.

Oh come on. I’m a woman and I use it often. It’s funny.

[Anonymous]

That an only child/son will have a hard time telling his mommy that she is not the center of the universe. He can have your back and say/do all the right things, but narcissistic mommy who lives about an hour away will make him feel guilty forever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They are inherently selfish and ruled by their ego. Many, not all, are poor communicators

This summarizes what I've learned as well. As a woman, (daughter, wife, colleague), it's a lifelong negotiation to protect yourself and your interests in a relationship with a man.

No lies told.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not really responsive to the question, since I'm not a woman - but, if a woman wants to get a good sense of how a guy really is - watch how he treats other men who are smaller, weaker, or of lesser social status than him.

He might treat you nicely while trying to impress you, but if he's abusive or a misogynist, he'll probably treat those types of guys poorly. If he treats those guys pretty well, he'll probably continue to treat you well.

This is true actually.

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Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

I believe the above. But the question was what have you learned about men, not how to get or keep one.

Realizing that 98% of what men care about when choosing a spouse/ romantic partner is looks is something that I wish I would have learned earlier.

This might be true for 98% of the men that you attract.

If you don’t think it’s true you are probably pretty and don’t realize that’s what’s going on.

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Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

Idk, most women prefer a man that doesn't still refer to having a sex as "just bone" like a thirteen year old.

OK so get you one of those men.

^Hit a nerve, huh? PP was asking what was wrong with the statement from the "pending divorce PP" and just taking a guess here but perhaps wife doesn't get turned on when he asked her to "bone" anymore.

Because you can't pick apart anything else he said. Because those are his opinions. And you know nothing about his marriage or why he might be getting divorced.

Ok buddy - go do a quick poll of the women you know and ask them what they think of the term "bone" wrt sex. It may not be the main factor in divorce but you can bet it's a contributing factor.

1) I'm a woman and 2) who cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would recommend avoiding mentioning to your daughters that men are visual. They already know. Emphasizing the point will increase any insecurities they already feel.

It shouldn’t because men also have incredibly low standards for what looks good to them. Almost any woman looks great to most men.

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When it comes to looks the luckiest thing is if you resemble a large-breasted giraffe (SATC reference but it’s true). Apart from that there are a lot of other desirable body types though.