Do your teen sons talk to you about their crushes or girlfriends?

[Anonymous]

+1 on watching Adolescence. Wow!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My son does some but not a lot. I actually get more out of his girlfriend about him than I do him about his girlfriend. LOL

I found my son to be more open when he was in a secure relationship. He clams up when he is single.

I wish. My son’s GF is so needy and clingy and accuses him of anything and everything. She isn’t supportive of his basketball and gets jealous when he is out with any friends, even when he is just playing sports. He has a few friends since ES that are girls and she hates them. He seems to think that means she really likes him and I am like RED FLAG!!! But if I put my 2 cents in, he would probably like her more. Sigh

You say “you wish” suggesting your DS doesn’t talk to you. Then how do you know everything you just spelled out? Do you read his texts? Is that a good way to parent?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My son does some but not a lot. I actually get more out of his girlfriend about him than I do him about his girlfriend. LOL

I found my son to be more open when he was in a secure relationship. He clams up when he is single.

I wish. My son’s GF is so needy and clingy and accuses him of anything and everything. She isn’t supportive of his basketball and gets jealous when he is out with any friends, even when he is just playing sports. He has a few friends since ES that are girls and she hates them. He seems to think that means she really likes him and I am like RED FLAG!!! But if I put my 2 cents in, he would probably like her more. Sigh

My experience here is that the mother is overbearing and thinks the son is perfect and that she really doesn’t want the DS to have a GF at all. As for the girls who are longtime friends of the son chances are one of them likes him and the GF knows it and it makes her nervous. That’s the RED FLAG. He’s probably at least microcheating on the GF. He knows it and doesnt talk to his mom. The mom should see this and be talking about how to treat women properly. But she doesn’t probably because her own husband treats her badly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL, if my son was openly sharing about his love life to me I’d assume he was going to eventually realize he was gay. It’s extremely atypical for boys to be chitchatting with their moms about their girlfriends.

For the toxic boys, yes. Of course they won’t talk.

And the fact you think only gay boys talk to their moms just makes me realize your family is highly toxic.

Yup. The users, cheaters, abusers and ego maniacs are not chitchatting with mom about their girlfriend. Because they know how disappointed their mom would be. And the mom turning a blind eye is even worse.

Boys that respect and like their girlfriend and genuinely want to evolve, do talk to their mom/dad. And their girlfriend would be over at each others houses, going to dinners, studying together, encouraging each other etc….

If your son isn’t open or talkative that is a HUGE red flag that he is not a good boyfriend.

Yes, I completely agree, but I think they know deep down, but their old feministic self would be a hypocrite to their current parenting style, so they just overlook the way they treat young girls.

[Anonymous]

My kid talks to me. But I can't ask too many questions or he clams up.

As a former teen girl, I can 100% agree that teen girls are as confusing as I used to think teen boys were. Now I see it from the boy perspective and it makes me want to scream, "JUST TALK TO EACH OTHER!" But I can't do that, so I gently suggest it from time to time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, he will not talk about it with you. This is normal behavior for a teen. Back off.

Actually it’s not normal teen behavior. In the age of internet, computers, phones, etc… not knowing anything about your son and their girlfriend is really strange.

Let’s normalize being involved parents without helicoptering. Teen boys need role models and communication from both parents on how to be a good person. Otherwise they learn it from porn, their friends, and social media.