You do NOT need your kid’s syllabus

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a college professor I can assure everyone here that the majority of students don’t know there is a syllabus, let alone read it. So I’m not sure how parents are able to get their hands on it.

+1 Thanks for the humor, fellow professor!

But seriously, parents, you really do not need your kid's college syllabi. Even if your kid has EF issues, there are a ton of supports at colleges for students. There are learning centers, deans, counselors, etc. Part of the college experience is allowing your child to navigate for themselves how to find and use these supports. I realize that there are some parents who have signed up to be their child's EF "coach" even in college, but that to me says more about the parent's need to feel needed and relevant than about the kid's ability to handle this on their own. There are an increasing number of studies out there suggesting a link between over-parenting and children's lack of confidence (and subsequent anxiety and depression). This makes a lot of sense to me.

Not the lack of money to hire a separate EF coach. Must be nice to be blind yo your privilege.

[Anonymous]

Lot of helicopter parenting going on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a college professor I can assure everyone here that the majority of students don’t know there is a syllabus, let alone read it. So I’m not sure how parents are able to get their hands on it.

+1 Thanks for the humor, fellow professor!

But seriously, parents, you really do not need your kid's college syllabi. Even if your kid has EF issues, there are a ton of supports at colleges for students. There are learning centers, deans, counselors, etc. Part of the college experience is allowing your child to navigate for themselves how to find and use these supports. I realize that there are some parents who have signed up to be their child's EF "coach" even in college, but that to me says more about the parent's need to feel needed and relevant than about the kid's ability to handle this on their own. There are an increasing number of studies out there suggesting a link between over-parenting and children's lack of confidence (and subsequent anxiety and depression). This makes a lot of sense to me.

Not the lack of money to hire a separate EF coach. Must be nice to be blind yo your privilege.

I have a kid who at the end of 4th grade tested with NO EF (half the tests could not be scored it was so random, the others were around 3-5%). Worked intensively with them thru ES/MS/HS along with tutors to get them "to be their best". However, during HS I backed off and worked to have them manage it themselves as much as possible, with minimal intervention from me. Because ultimately they need to develop the skills to do just that. If they couldn't then they would be headed to CC as first step. Yes, it was a privilege that we could afford tutors/outside help. But we dropped those by end of freshman year HS. Goal was to get our kid to learn to self manage, with minimal intervention. If your kid requires more EF/disability assistance than the college can provide, then they may not be ready for that college. Fact is you cannot go with your kid to their job, and you cannot go to college with them. So if their EF skills are lacking that much when they graduate HS, then a 4 year college may not be the best place for them initially. Let them mature (yes age/time does help with this especially at the 18-20 ) while taking courses at a CC and working part time so they wont be overwhelmed at college.

[Anonymous]

Never listen to a stranger telling you not to help your family succeed.

[Anonymous]

Agree with OP (do people really ask for this?).

However, I do have a different angle....there are some classes my kids have taken that sound super interesting and were taught by impressive faculty. For some of those, I would love the have the syllabus after the fact for me to peruse the reading list and topics covered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a college professor I can assure everyone here that the majority of students don’t know there is a syllabus, let alone read it. So I’m not sure how parents are able to get their hands on it.

LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a college professor I can assure everyone here that the majority of students don’t know there is a syllabus, let alone read it. So I’m not sure how parents are able to get their hands on it.

+1 Thanks for the humor, fellow professor!

But seriously, parents, you really do not need your kid's college syllabi. Even if your kid has EF issues, there are a ton of supports at colleges for students. There are learning centers, deans, counselors, etc. Part of the college experience is allowing your child to navigate for themselves how to find and use these supports. I realize that there are some parents who have signed up to be their child's EF "coach" even in college, but that to me says more about the parent's need to feel needed and relevant than about the kid's ability to handle this on their own. There are an increasing number of studies out there suggesting a link between over-parenting and children's lack of confidence (and subsequent anxiety and depression). This makes a lot of sense to me.

Not the lack of money to hire a separate EF coach. Must be nice to be blind yo your privilege.

The college likely offers free supports. No one “needs” a paid EF coach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never listen to a stranger telling you not to help your family succeed.

Then don't ask the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so happy my parents weren't crazy.

Mine let me figure it all out, but in retrospect, I would've benefited from some advice. There were a lot of things I just didn't yet understand that made college more difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never listen to a stranger telling you not to help your family succeed.

+1

People need to mind their own business especially about parenting. Bragging about their kids handling affairs on their own since 5th grade means nothing to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never listen to a stranger telling you not to help your family succeed.

+ 100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never listen to a stranger telling you not to help your family succeed.

+ 100

Well, sometimes you need an impartial observer to tell you that you have crossed a line.