You do NOT need your kid’s syllabus

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Have never heard of a college parent who sees the kid’s syllabus.

I am not one who accuses people of helicoptering…but that would be WAY over the top.

[Anonymous]

Who accesses their kid's syllabus?!?!

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Anonymous wrote:If either kid of mine is asking me to review their work when they are age 46, I have failed at parenting.

My college age daughter is an English whiz (36 on both verbal sections of the ACT). When she’s home, I occasionally have her proof things like resumes and cover letters for me. I’ve been doing this since she was a junior in HS. #parentingfail ?

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Anonymous wrote:My 22 year old goes to class and does whatever he needs to. If he couldn't do that I'm not sure we would pay for college.

How are these young adults going to function in the working world? That's a serious question. How will they manage at work if they can't manage in college?

That's like saying how can an 8th grader manage in college if he can't manage 8th grade. It's called time and maturity.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents! You do NOT need access or even possess your child’s class syllabus!! Please-they need to manage it!

Is this really a thing? Do these parents actually want their DC to fail at life?? My God.

of course a parent does not want their DC to fail at life. But IMO a kid is NOT ready for college if they require a parent to help micromanage down to the level of syllabi. A kid has to take control and do the work themselves at the college level. Even with ADHD/EF issues. Most colleges provide assistance with that. Get your kid an EF coach if needed, but ideally that should happen before they get to college. You can role play and help your kid figure out how to navigate issues, but they ultimately need to learn how to put dates in a calendar and plan their study schedule/organize getting everything done on time. If they cannot do that without "higher level guidance" from you/a few reminders or check in to just see how things are going, then they need to step back and build those skills before embarking on college.

I love how numerous people on here are like "get your kid an EF coach" as if they're free and can be plucked from trees. Must be nice to be so privileged. For those who can't afford it, mom is the EF coach.

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Anonymous wrote:If either kid of mine is asking me to review their work when they are age 46, I have failed at parenting.

Well, my mom has failed despite my numerous degrees and salary. I think she is ok with this failing. Some people can only wish.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents! You do NOT need access or even possess your child’s class syllabus!! Please-they need to manage it!

Is this really a thing? Do these parents actually want their DC to fail at life?? My God.

of course a parent does not want their DC to fail at life. But IMO a kid is NOT ready for college if they require a parent to help micromanage down to the level of syllabi. A kid has to take control and do the work themselves at the college level. Even with ADHD/EF issues. Most colleges provide assistance with that. Get your kid an EF coach if needed, but ideally that should happen before they get to college. You can role play and help your kid figure out how to navigate issues, but they ultimately need to learn how to put dates in a calendar and plan their study schedule/organize getting everything done on time. If they cannot do that without "higher level guidance" from you/a few reminders or check in to just see how things are going, then they need to step back and build those skills before embarking on college.

I love how numerous people on here are like "get your kid an EF coach" as if they're free and can be plucked from trees. Must be nice to be so privileged. For those who can't afford it, mom is the EF coach.

Boom!

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Anonymous wrote:If either kid of mine is asking me to review their work when they are age 46, I have failed at parenting.

My college age daughter is an English whiz (36 on both verbal sections of the ACT). When she’s home, I occasionally have her proof things like resumes and cover letters for me. I’ve been doing this since she was a junior in HS. #parentingfail ?

Haha. Smart!

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Anonymous wrote:If either kid of mine is asking me to review their work when they are age 46, I have failed at parenting.

This is what you consider to be failing at parenting? I truly hope my kids will seek my advice/help throughout their lives.

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My college freshman has significant learning disabilities, ADHD and autism. He tells me he has As and Bs. I worry a little about the Bs, since he hardly ever had those in high school... but at the same time, I recognize that my time to micromanage has passed, and that all I can do is urge him to go to office hours, ask peers and generally try his best.

I didn't think to ask about syllabi. I'm not sure I am aware of all the courses he's taking, apart from the required math, which he's most worried about.

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Anonymous wrote:My college freshman has significant learning disabilities, ADHD and autism. He tells me he has As and Bs. I worry a little about the Bs, since he hardly ever had those in high school... but at the same time, I recognize that my time to micromanage has passed, and that all I can do is urge him to go to office hours, ask peers and generally try his best.

I didn't think to ask about syllabi. I'm not sure I am aware of all the courses he's taking, apart from the required math, which he's most worried about.

Yeah you should definitely worry about those B’s

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Anonymous wrote:My college freshman has significant learning disabilities, ADHD and autism. He tells me he has As and Bs. I worry a little about the Bs, since he hardly ever had those in high school... but at the same time, I recognize that my time to micromanage has passed, and that all I can do is urge him to go to office hours, ask peers and generally try his best.

I didn't think to ask about syllabi. I'm not sure I am aware of all the courses he's taking, apart from the required math, which he's most worried about.

And yes, to echo a PP, *I* was his executive functioning coach and general manager for most of his childhood. At more than $250/hr, there was no way I was going to pay for something he needed every day, particularly in the morning and evening, which may I remind you are OUTSIDE OF BUSINESS HOURS.

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Anonymous wrote:My college freshman has significant learning disabilities, ADHD and autism. He tells me he has As and Bs. I worry a little about the Bs, since he hardly ever had those in high school... but at the same time, I recognize that my time to micromanage has passed, and that all I can do is urge him to go to office hours, ask peers and generally try his best.

I didn't think to ask about syllabi. I'm not sure I am aware of all the courses he's taking, apart from the required math, which he's most worried about.

Worry about Bs in college? Heck no. He's doing great!

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As a college professor I can assure everyone here that the majority of students don’t know there is a syllabus, let alone read it. So I’m not sure how parents are able to get their hands on it.

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Anonymous wrote:A neighbor said her sister was “abandoning” her college kid because she did not know anything about the classes. You don’t need to! I don’t even know my kid’s schedule!

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Anonymous wrote:Parents! You do NOT need access or even possess your child’s class syllabus!! Please-they need to manage it!

Why do you care. I don't disagree with you but it doesn't harm me nor is it any of my business what other parents do.

I stopped having my kids’ canvas/syllabus in middle school. Seriously never looked.

Senior and sophomore boys. A students. Big thanks to three elementary school principal thought taught organizational skills, independence, etc,

They are now at a private boys high school that will only accept student communications except in dire situations.

If they are at a private, that's different as the teachers provide far more support than public. How would they do in a 3000+ student public school where you are own your own if you are struggling or failing and help from teachers is hit or miss?

Absolutely fine. There is zero hand holding at their HS (1000 kids)—much less than our public of 3000. No re-takes, no second chances, etc. They Metro to and from school (Va into dc). They went to public school k-8.