are the girls still only wearing the micro slip dresses to homecoming this year?

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Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

Ick it sound like your opinionated boy is going to be trying to get out of a SA charge by saying the girl provoked him with her mini skirt.

Your post says everything that is wrong with men. Glad you are raising a pig.

The problem is really trashy mothers like you. You cannot give the message to your girls that they should cultivate their mind and brain, but then allow them to dress like pole dancers.

There are many age and occasion appropriate clothes for girls, but, if they are deliberately dressing to be sexy, well then, people are going to look at them because they are sexy, and the opinion about them will be that they want sexual attention. That is all.

Mostly the girls who are dressing like this are coming from messed up families and they are fair game to many boys who are also from messed up families. The generally decent boys and girls may judge them but they stay far away from them. They won't touch these people with a nine-foot pole because who wants to deal with a dumpster fire?

Homecoming is an appropriate event to dress to be sexy. It's not visiting grandma in the old folks' home.

To me, this is the exact problem. Some parents want their 14 and 15 year old daughters to be "sexy". And there are those of us who want our girls to just be kids and enjoy their youth without learning to be sex objects at such an early age. I know some moms that take pride in "sexy" daughters. They actively push that image for their girls. Personally, I'd rather my DD learn to be comfortable in her own skin and gain confidence in her value independent of sexual desirability. We're in two different camps for sure.

[Anonymous]

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I didn't expect to wake up to 4 pages!

My issue with the dresses is that they're just so boring. They're carbon copies of each other with absolutely nothing to them.

When you go to lulus.com or Revolve or ASOS or Anthro there are pages and pages of gorgeous mini dresses.... and they're all different. Meanwhile the girls all wear the most basic an boring solid colored slip dresses (or at least they did last year) My daughter wore a dress with a full skirt to winter formal last year and I think she was the only girl there not in a solid color slip dress and sneakers.

I know she can do her own thing (and she did last year) but I'm hoping that maybe the girls are getting bored of looking exactly the same year-after-year. Slip dress and sneakers. Slip dress and sneakers. Why even dress up if you're just wearing a uniform? What happened to personality or creativity? When I was young we all wore unique dresses.

I like that sequins are in. At least it's different.

Most people are followers. I find it hard to believe that everyone wore a unique dress when you were young -- maybe your friend group did, or maybe that's what you remember, but most people tend to stay in similar range. I'd say the only way to inspire creativity is to tell your girl to be the one who is willing to be different. Then she'll encourage those who are afraid to take more of a risk.

OP here. Yep, well I think she's going for unique. And completely out of left field she was asked by a boy who is about as popular as it gets (lacrosse star, etc). My daughter is pretty but also super brainy and artsy. This guy usually goes for the instagram-model, bikini picture-taking types. Not this year. It's funny. I think some boys mature with age and realize they can break the mold of what is expected of them too.

OP, your daughter should wear what she likes (and if she is confident about that as you indicate, then why the need to post on here?). But there is judgment coming off in your responses. Girls who wear bikinis can also be pretty, brainy, artsy, sporty, creative, so on. All of the judgment on this thread (and I know plenty of posters did not judge) feed into why girls have insecurities. Each should dress as she wants, and not have ideas attached to her clothes as to whether she is smart, sexual, etc. So many gross replies on this thread.

OP here. my daughter wears bikinis, including cheeky bikinis. At the pool and at the beach. What she does not do is post endless, countless photos of herself in said bikinis on social media. That extracurricular tends to go hand-and-hand with the vapid girls.

You just can’t stop yourself. “the vapid girls”??? You are part of the problem and your judgment is clear to your daughter, too. There will come some time she will want to do something, clothing or otherwise, and she’ll be reluctant to tell you bc of your judgment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

I know the girls in our high school do not wear cheap dresses like Windsor to events. They wear Zimmerman, Alice and Olivia, Self Portrait, any of the new designers. They will have cut outs and will be short but don’t look as cheap as the literally cheap Chinese dresses.

I am always surprised about the lack of taste.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

Ick it sound like your opinionated boy is going to be trying to get out of a SA charge by saying the girl provoked him with her mini skirt.

Your post says everything that is wrong with men. Glad you are raising a pig.

The problem is really trashy mothers like you. You cannot give the message to your girls that they should cultivate their mind and brain, but then allow them to dress like pole dancers.

There are many age and occasion appropriate clothes for girls, but, if they are deliberately dressing to be sexy, well then, people are going to look at them because they are sexy, and the opinion about them will be that they want sexual attention. That is all.

Mostly the girls who are dressing like this are coming from messed up families and they are fair game to many boys who are also from messed up families. The generally decent boys and girls may judge them but they stay far away from them. They won't touch these people with a nine-foot pole because who wants to deal with a dumpster fire?

Homecoming is an appropriate event to dress to be sexy. It's not visiting grandma in the old folks' home.

To me, this is the exact problem. Some parents want their 14 and 15 year old daughters to be "sexy". And there are those of us who want our girls to just be kids and enjoy their youth without learning to be sex objects at such an early age. I know some moms that take pride in "sexy" daughters. They actively push that image for their girls. Personally, I'd rather my DD learn to be comfortable in her own skin and gain confidence in her value independent of sexual desirability. We're in two different camps for sure.

+1000000

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is planning to wear pants to the HoCo dance, as are several of her friends.
From what I’ve heard, the confident, “don’t follow the crowd” types are starting to say no to the skin baring styles that are currently popular. It’s not a religious belief, it’s more that they are rebelling against the objectification of women. Plus, it’s more comfortable for actual dancing.

+1 My sophomore said she was probably going to go and I asked her she wanted to go shopping for something nice to wear and she looked at me like I was crazy. She said her friends would go casual.

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As many parents are out there who judge girls for wearing very skimpy clothing, there are equal numbers of parents who judge their girls for *not* dressing up in whatever is fashionable or sexy.

It's lose-lose if you are a girl. We don't do this to our boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

I know the girls in our high school do not wear cheap dresses like Windsor to events. They wear Zimmerman, Alice and Olivia, Self Portrait, any of the new designers. They will have cut outs and will be short but don’t look as cheap as the literally cheap Chinese dresses.

I am always surprised about the lack of taste.

What school?

I was shocked at the long line of girls and their moms waiting to get into Windsor at Tyson's on Saturday. Why spend that much time, just buy on SHEIN. Saw several out at restaurants on Saturday night. They were spending half their time pulling/holding their dresses down so they wouldn't flash the world.

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Anonymous wrote:As many parents are out there who judge girls for wearing very skimpy clothing, there are equal numbers of parents who judge their girls for *not* dressing up in whatever is fashionable or sexy.

It's lose-lose if you are a girl. We don't do this to our boys.

True, but I wouldn’t allow my sons to wear skimpy clothes either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

Lol! Yet, I’m sure if your DS actually had a chance with any of these girls he’d jump on the opportunity. You sound like a family of losers that seeks to justify why they are less than. Hint—your judgemental insecurity attitude is palpable, even if you think you all come across as “cool and quiet.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

Lol! Yet, I’m sure if your DS actually had a chance with any of these girls he’d jump on the opportunity. You sound like a family of losers that seeks to justify why they are less than. Hint—your judgemental insecurity attitude is palpable, even if you think you all come across as “cool and quiet.”

Read the whole thread, sweetie.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

Ick it sound like your opinionated boy is going to be trying to get out of a SA charge by saying the girl provoked him with her mini skirt.

Your post says everything that is wrong with men. Glad you are raising a pig.

The problem is really trashy mothers like you. You cannot give the message to your girls that they should cultivate their mind and brain, but then allow them to dress like pole dancers.

There are many age and occasion appropriate clothes for girls, but, if they are deliberately dressing to be sexy, well then, people are going to look at them because they are sexy, and the opinion about them will be that they want sexual attention. That is all.

Mostly the girls who are dressing like this are coming from messed up families and they are fair game to many boys who are also from messed up families. The generally decent boys and girls may judge them but they stay far away from them. They won't touch these people with a nine-foot pole because who wants to deal with a dumpster fire?

dp. The content of your character (based on what you have written) is uglier than a dress that showcases a beautiful body. Girls are sexual beings, sexuality and sensuality is an inextricable part of their being, in addition to many other qualities. The fact that your son can't put this in context or see beyond a dress is a reflection of his judgmental and inflexible nature - very unattractive qualities in a mate.

Pedophile much?! You're disgusting.

Of course they are. Even babies are. This is natural and not disgusting at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I didn't expect to wake up to 4 pages!

My issue with the dresses is that they're just so boring. They're carbon copies of each other with absolutely nothing to them.

When you go to lulus.com or Revolve or ASOS or Anthro there are pages and pages of gorgeous mini dresses.... and they're all different. Meanwhile the girls all wear the most basic an boring solid colored slip dresses (or at least they did last year) My daughter wore a dress with a full skirt to winter formal last year and I think she was the only girl there not in a solid color slip dress and sneakers.

I know she can do her own thing (and she did last year) but I'm hoping that maybe the girls are getting bored of looking exactly the same year-after-year. Slip dress and sneakers. Slip dress and sneakers. Why even dress up if you're just wearing a uniform? What happened to personality or creativity? When I was young we all wore unique dresses.

I like that sequins are in. At least it's different.

Most people are followers. I find it hard to believe that everyone wore a unique dress when you were young -- maybe your friend group did, or maybe that's what you remember, but most people tend to stay in similar range. I'd say the only way to inspire creativity is to tell your girl to be the one who is willing to be different. Then she'll encourage those who are afraid to take more of a risk.

OP here. Yep, well I think she's going for unique. And completely out of left field she was asked by a boy who is about as popular as it gets (lacrosse star, etc). My daughter is pretty but also super brainy and artsy. This guy usually goes for the instagram-model, bikini picture-taking types. Not this year. It's funny. I think some boys mature with age and realize they can break the mold of what is expected of them too.

OP, you can't just lift the narrative of "She's All That" and pretend that it's your daughter's life story. Some of us were teens in the 90s and we remember this movie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

Ick it sound like your opinionated boy is going to be trying to get out of a SA charge by saying the girl provoked him with her mini skirt.

Your post says everything that is wrong with men. Glad you are raising a pig.

The problem is really trashy mothers like you. You cannot give the message to your girls that they should cultivate their mind and brain, but then allow them to dress like pole dancers.

There are many age and occasion appropriate clothes for girls, but, if they are deliberately dressing to be sexy, well then, people are going to look at them because they are sexy, and the opinion about them will be that they want sexual attention. That is all.

Mostly the girls who are dressing like this are coming from messed up families and they are fair game to many boys who are also from messed up families. The generally decent boys and girls may judge them but they stay far away from them. They won't touch these people with a nine-foot pole because who wants to deal with a dumpster fire?

Homecoming is an appropriate event to dress to be sexy. It's not visiting grandma in the old folks' home.

To me, this is the exact problem. Some parents want their 14 and 15 year old daughters to be "sexy". And there are those of us who want our girls to just be kids and enjoy their youth without learning to be sex objects at such an early age. I know some moms that take pride in "sexy" daughters. They actively push that image for their girls. Personally, I'd rather my DD learn to be comfortable in her own skin and gain confidence in her value independent of sexual desirability. We're in two different camps for sure.

This is not incompatible with showing skin, far from it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

Ick it sound like your opinionated boy is going to be trying to get out of a SA charge by saying the girl provoked him with her mini skirt.

Your post says everything that is wrong with men. Glad you are raising a pig.

The problem is really trashy mothers like you. You cannot give the message to your girls that they should cultivate their mind and brain, but then allow them to dress like pole dancers.

There are many age and occasion appropriate clothes for girls, but, if they are deliberately dressing to be sexy, well then, people are going to look at them because they are sexy, and the opinion about them will be that they want sexual attention. That is all.

Mostly the girls who are dressing like this are coming from messed up families and they are fair game to many boys who are also from messed up families. The generally decent boys and girls may judge them but they stay far away from them. They won't touch these people with a nine-foot pole because who wants to deal with a dumpster fire?

Homecoming is an appropriate event to dress to be sexy. It's not visiting grandma in the old folks' home.

To me, this is the exact problem. Some parents want their 14 and 15 year old daughters to be "sexy". And there are those of us who want our girls to just be kids and enjoy their youth without learning to be sex objects at such an early age. I know some moms that take pride in "sexy" daughters. They actively push that image for their girls. Personally, I'd rather my DD learn to be comfortable in her own skin and gain confidence in her value independent of sexual desirability. We're in two different camps for sure.

NP here

A 14-15yr old are not kids. They are teens and are already past the coming of age. They are a few years away from full adulthood.

How about instead of saying moms want their teens to be sexy or other moms want their teens to be “kids” how about you just let the teens decide who they want to be and what dress they want to wear and even better, STOP JUDGING!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

Lol! Yet, I’m sure if your DS actually had a chance with any of these girls he’d jump on the opportunity. You sound like a family of losers that seeks to justify why they are less than. Hint—your judgemental insecurity attitude is palpable, even if you think you all come across as “cool and quiet.”

Read the whole thread, sweetie.

I did, b.