are the girls still only wearing the micro slip dresses to homecoming this year?

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Anonymous wrote:From DD’s group, and what I’ve seen on social media things similar to these:

https://www.forever21.com/us/2000473685.html

https://www.lulus.com/products/gift-of-love-black-and-gold-backless-long-sleeve-bodycon-dress/1667576.html

https://www.lulus.com/products/mesh-perspective-black-long-sleeve-mesh-bodycon-mini-dress/2027976.html

https://www.lulus.com/products/lover-s-game-navy-blue-lace-skater-dress/579332.html

But they’re either short, or midi/long with spaghetti straps.

all good

Any of those would be fine with me. My daughter is younger but what I see on social media is much skimpier than these.

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Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

Ick it sound like your opinionated boy is going to be trying to get out of a SA charge by saying the girl provoked him with her mini skirt.

Your post says everything that is wrong with men. Glad you are raising a pig.

The problem is really trashy mothers like you. You cannot give the message to your girls that they should cultivate their mind and brain, but then allow them to dress like pole dancers.

There are many age and occasion appropriate clothes for girls, but, if they are deliberately dressing to be sexy, well then, people are going to look at them because they are sexy, and the opinion about them will be that they want sexual attention. That is all.

Mostly the girls who are dressing like this are coming from messed up families and they are fair game to many boys who are also from messed up families. The generally decent boys and girls may judge them but they stay far away from them. They won't touch these people with a nine-foot pole because who wants to deal with a dumpster fire?

Please, the boy looking for a good girl would absolutely go for a popular girl if they had the chance. They cope by talking about only wanting a good girl. When their perfect good girl either doesn't exist or won't talk to them, the become an incel

DP. My son(the aforementioned 13yo) is a good looking, slightly shy, well adjusted nerd. He rejected 2 popular girls, and is crushing hard on the “best friend not girlfriend.” My youngest brother(the cool one) dated many ”socially mature” girls and dumped them for the next(I agree that he’s a jerk). Most of his friends did the same(or cheated).

The popular girls are objectified, and apparently delusional.

Ok now we know you are a troll. Omg with these replies LOL

Truth is hurting you. Sorry!

No 13 year old boy has the length of dating history that you're implying.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I didn't expect to wake up to 4 pages!

My issue with the dresses is that they're just so boring. They're carbon copies of each other with absolutely nothing to them.

When you go to lulus.com or Revolve or ASOS or Anthro there are pages and pages of gorgeous mini dresses.... and they're all different. Meanwhile the girls all wear the most basic an boring solid colored slip dresses (or at least they did last year) My daughter wore a dress with a full skirt to winter formal last year and I think she was the only girl there not in a solid color slip dress and sneakers.

I know she can do her own thing (and she did last year) but I'm hoping that maybe the girls are getting bored of looking exactly the same year-after-year. Slip dress and sneakers. Slip dress and sneakers. Why even dress up if you're just wearing a uniform? What happened to personality or creativity? When I was young we all wore unique dresses.

I like that sequins are in. At least it's different.

Most people are followers. I find it hard to believe that everyone wore a unique dress when you were young -- maybe your friend group did, or maybe that's what you remember, but most people tend to stay in similar range. I'd say the only way to inspire creativity is to tell your girl to be the one who is willing to be different. Then she'll encourage those who are afraid to take more of a risk.

OP here. Yep, well I think she's going for unique. And completely out of left field she was asked by a boy who is about as popular as it gets (lacrosse star, etc). My daughter is pretty but also super brainy and artsy. This guy usually goes for the instagram-model, bikini picture-taking types. Not this year. It's funny. I think some boys mature with age and realize they can break the mold of what is expected of them too.

I’m happy for them.

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I cannot imagine, as a junior in high school, asking my mother to shop for a homecoming dress for me.
Is this how teens are now??
A coworker whose daughter just left for college said she calls every day asking to come home. She's only about 90 minutes from home.
Sorry to hijack but this is crazy to me. My kids are still in elementary.

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Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

Ick it sound like your opinionated boy is going to be trying to get out of a SA charge by saying the girl provoked him with her mini skirt.

Your post says everything that is wrong with men. Glad you are raising a pig.

The problem is really trashy mothers like you. You cannot give the message to your girls that they should cultivate their mind and brain, but then allow them to dress like pole dancers.

There are many age and occasion appropriate clothes for girls, but, if they are deliberately dressing to be sexy, well then, people are going to look at them because they are sexy, and the opinion about them will be that they want sexual attention. That is all.

Mostly the girls who are dressing like this are coming from messed up families and they are fair game to many boys who are also from messed up families. The generally decent boys and girls may judge them but they stay far away from them. They won't touch these people with a nine-foot pole because who wants to deal with a dumpster fire?

Please, the boy looking for a good girl would absolutely go for a popular girl if they had the chance. They cope by talking about only wanting a good girl. When their perfect good girl either doesn't exist or won't talk to them, the become an incel

DP. My son(the aforementioned 13yo) is a good looking, slightly shy, well adjusted nerd. He rejected 2 popular girls, and is crushing hard on the “best friend not girlfriend.” My youngest brother(the cool one) dated many ”socially mature” girls and dumped them for the next(I agree that he’s a jerk). Most of his friends did the same(or cheated).

The popular girls are objectified, and apparently delusional.

Ok now we know you are a troll. Omg with these replies LOL

Truth is hurting you. Sorry!

No 13 year old boy has the length of dating history that you're implying.

Zero? By “rejected” I meant that he said no. And the best friend is not a real girlfriend.

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My DD is planning to wear pants to the HoCo dance, as are several of her friends.
From what I’ve heard, the confident, “don’t follow the crowd” types are starting to say no to the skin baring styles that are currently popular. It’s not a religious belief, it’s more that they are rebelling against the objectification of women. Plus, it’s more comfortable for actual dancing.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol at the idea of a junior asking her mom to look for her homecoming dress because she is swamped with HW 😂

I know multiple girls who have asked their moms to pre-shop dresses for them bc they are so busy with school, sports, HW. - NP

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Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

This isn't something to be proud of. I'd be lived if my son said something like this because of how someone dressed.

Definitely proud!

You, as an adult, are classifying teens as “good girls” and determining if they “respect themselves” over a homecoming dress? You have some serious issues.

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot imagine, as a junior in high school, asking my mother to shop for a homecoming dress for me.
Is this how teens are now??
A coworker whose daughter just left for college said she calls every day asking to come home. She's only about 90 minutes from home.
Sorry to hijack but this is crazy to me. My kids are still in elementary.

OP here. My kid doesn't have a f-ing minute to breathe (as a junior). She comes home from varsity soccer at 6pm, eats dinner, and does 4-5 hours of homework. She easily has 60 minutes per class--calculus BC, physics C, AP Spanish literature etc. Plus she writes for the school paper, runs two clubs, etc. It's freaking ridiculous.

What's different from when we were kids is that kids didn't have this degree of homework (or at least I didn't) plus have the pressure to have a resume that rivals most 30 year olds'. She asked me to look for dress ideas because she literally does not have an hour to spare on this until the weekend and by that time it will be too late for shipping. If she had an extra hour she would go to bed earlier.

It's ridiculous and it sucks and I'm not sure how we got here. what happened to having fun buying a dress? Sigh. It's the life of a top achieving kid in 2023.

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Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

I see you are teaching your son to be a misogynist.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I didn't expect to wake up to 4 pages!

My issue with the dresses is that they're just so boring. They're carbon copies of each other with absolutely nothing to them.

When you go to lulus.com or Revolve or ASOS or Anthro there are pages and pages of gorgeous mini dresses.... and they're all different. Meanwhile the girls all wear the most basic an boring solid colored slip dresses (or at least they did last year) My daughter wore a dress with a full skirt to winter formal last year and I think she was the only girl there not in a solid color slip dress and sneakers.

I know she can do her own thing (and she did last year) but I'm hoping that maybe the girls are getting bored of looking exactly the same year-after-year. Slip dress and sneakers. Slip dress and sneakers. Why even dress up if you're just wearing a uniform? What happened to personality or creativity? When I was young we all wore unique dresses.

I like that sequins are in. At least it's different.

Most people are followers. I find it hard to believe that everyone wore a unique dress when you were young -- maybe your friend group did, or maybe that's what you remember, but most people tend to stay in similar range. I'd say the only way to inspire creativity is to tell your girl to be the one who is willing to be different. Then she'll encourage those who are afraid to take more of a risk.

OP here. Yep, well I think she's going for unique. And completely out of left field she was asked by a boy who is about as popular as it gets (lacrosse star, etc). My daughter is pretty but also super brainy and artsy. This guy usually goes for the instagram-model, bikini picture-taking types. Not this year. It's funny. I think some boys mature with age and realize they can break the mold of what is expected of them too.

OP, your daughter should wear what she likes (and if she is confident about that as you indicate, then why the need to post on here?). But there is judgment coming off in your responses. Girls who wear bikinis can also be pretty, brainy, artsy, sporty, creative, so on. All of the judgment on this thread (and I know plenty of posters did not judge) feed into why girls have insecurities. Each should dress as she wants, and not have ideas attached to her clothes as to whether she is smart, sexual, etc. So many gross replies on this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

This isn't something to be proud of. I'd be lived if my son said something like this because of how someone dressed.

100% agree. I am raising my boys to be respectful of women regardless of what they’re wearing.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I didn't expect to wake up to 4 pages!

My issue with the dresses is that they're just so boring. They're carbon copies of each other with absolutely nothing to them.

When you go to lulus.com or Revolve or ASOS or Anthro there are pages and pages of gorgeous mini dresses.... and they're all different. Meanwhile the girls all wear the most basic an boring solid colored slip dresses (or at least they did last year) My daughter wore a dress with a full skirt to winter formal last year and I think she was the only girl there not in a solid color slip dress and sneakers.

I know she can do her own thing (and she did last year) but I'm hoping that maybe the girls are getting bored of looking exactly the same year-after-year. Slip dress and sneakers. Slip dress and sneakers. Why even dress up if you're just wearing a uniform? What happened to personality or creativity? When I was young we all wore unique dresses.

I like that sequins are in. At least it's different.

Most people are followers. I find it hard to believe that everyone wore a unique dress when you were young -- maybe your friend group did, or maybe that's what you remember, but most people tend to stay in similar range. I'd say the only way to inspire creativity is to tell your girl to be the one who is willing to be different. Then she'll encourage those who are afraid to take more of a risk.

OP here. Yep, well I think she's going for unique. And completely out of left field she was asked by a boy who is about as popular as it gets (lacrosse star, etc). My daughter is pretty but also super brainy and artsy. This guy usually goes for the instagram-model, bikini picture-taking types. Not this year. It's funny. I think some boys mature with age and realize they can break the mold of what is expected of them too.

OP, your daughter should wear what she likes (and if she is confident about that as you indicate, then why the need to post on here?). But there is judgment coming off in your responses. Girls who wear bikinis can also be pretty, brainy, artsy, sporty, creative, so on. All of the judgment on this thread (and I know plenty of posters did not judge) feed into why girls have insecurities. Each should dress as she wants, and not have ideas attached to her clothes as to whether she is smart, sexual, etc. So many gross replies on this thread.

OP here. my daughter wears bikinis, including cheeky bikinis. At the pool and at the beach. What she does not do is post endless, countless photos of herself in said bikinis on social media. That extracurricular tends to go hand-and-hand with the vapid girls.

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Np and the context matters. I don't let my girls go to school in crop tops - or to any educational activity for that matter. Personally I think how you let them carry themselves in a daily basis is far more important than a semi annual event like hoco. They can certainly wear short dresses to a school dance - they should have that level of freedom. As it turns out, they both like the longer styles "to avoid being cold".

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Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

I have a 16 y/o son and there's no way that a teenager boy would think or say something like this. It's the mom's wishful thinking.