The HS things are going rocky thread-

[Anonymous]

My DC is a senior, but I remember at the parent conference in the fall of 9th grade the advisor started by saying, “Don’t be concerned, we see this a lot and are not counseling her out - yet.” This is at a big3 private. Kid had all Cs and low Bs, but we had no idea!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are going down in flames fast. Despite studying just got an F on test. There are 3 more tests this week, not looking good.

🔥🔥🔥 This is fine 🔥🔥🔥

[Anonymous]

Just got another teacher email that my child got a 75% on a test, is this normal after being an outstanding student in MS?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

PP I think your child sounds she has a good positive attitude. I get what you are saying but your posts make me think she's a great person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just got another teacher email that my child got a 75% on a test, is this normal after being an outstanding student in MS?

Some teachers grade really harshly at the beginning of 9th to make a point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

PP I think your child sounds she has a good positive attitude. I get what you are saying but your posts make me think she's a great person.

Thank you for saying that, and it’s good for me to keep top of mind. She is a very sweet, kind, good person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just got another teacher email that my child got a 75% on a test, is this normal after being an outstanding student in MS?

Some teachers grade really harshly at the beginning of 9th to make a point.

Why??? Isn’t this when it starts to matter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just got another teacher email that my child got a 75% on a test, is this normal after being an outstanding student in MS?

I hear you … DS was an outstanding student in MS as well and got a failing grade on his first math test. He was placed into a very advanced math class for a freshman so we are now looking to pull him back into an easier class. Do you have that option for your child ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just got another teacher email that my child got a 75% on a test, is this normal after being an outstanding student in MS?

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F you are from the other thread you better schedule a meeting with the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just got another teacher email that my child got a 75% on a test, is this normal after being an outstanding student in MS?

Some teachers grade really harshly at the beginning of 9th to make a point.

I feel like teachers who do that wouldn’t be reaching out to the parents, though.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Yes, so how did all of these kids fare in the end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

Or she knows she’s struggling and is scared to tell you. That was me when I hit the skids in HS. I didn’t want to admit anything to my parents (and nothing against them—we had a great relationship, so this is not me saying anything about you or your parenting). I was in denial even to myself and kept thinking I could pull it together without help, and I couldn’t. I’m glad your school is keeping an eye out, and good luck.

I guess that is possible, my DH is furious we are getting called in to the school in September. I also think her idea of school going well is making a lot of new friends and the varsity squad, turning in late homework or coming to class unprepared doesn’t phase her. I’m just glad we have some time to turn this around.

Go east on her. Remember in her world being socially accepted and happy is the most important indicator of school success. Be grateful she is happy because so many kids are not. The other stuff she can turn around. Good luck.

Bumping this with a question. If your child is not socially accepted and the happiness is decreasing, then do you leave? How do you know what other school/place would be better?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, but we as parents should know better in this day and age. So many parents seem to be chasing the "status" of a rigorous school vs what school best suits their child. It is a shame to hear about all these unhappy children who are struggling in school with hours of homework and mediocre grades. Look at your school's matriculation to colleges, how many kids go to truly tippy top colleges? Everyone thinks their child will be in that top 10-20% who attend top 20 colleges, but unfortunately most are not. The majority of students attend schools that they could have gotten into from other schools in our area. Kids at different schools are getting into similar schools these days. You don't have to attend a Big 3 in order to get into an Ivy, and in some circumstances kids have an easier time getting into a top college from easier/less stressful schools.

[Anonymous]

So our school that is often discussed is so far not doing well in admissions. This in contrast to a school everyone on DCUM makes fun of that seems to be getting everyone in so far. If I could do it again, I would choose another school. You need to have rigor for college but rigor at our school means you are doomed to have a B on your report card. Rigor at the joke school means straight As with an honors tag. Same result or better from the joke school and better quality of life.