The HS things are going rocky thread-

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

What school is this with 4 or 5 hours of HW a night? Insanity. Pull your kid. It's not worth it.

Sounds like Holton-Arms. DD was regularly up into the wee hours completing homework.

[Anonymous]

Did your kids go to private middle schools? My son loved private high school because his private MS gave him more homework. He also loved that he had free periods in HS so he got good at using them to get his homework done. He's in college now and says it has been easier in terms of workload than HS and MS!

[Anonymous]

Maybe your son should major in homework!

Anonymous wrote:Did your kids go to private middle schools? My son loved private high school because his private MS gave him more homework. He also loved that he had free periods in HS so he got good at using them to get his homework done. He's in college now and says it has been easier in terms of workload than HS and MS!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sad to hear…but isn’t that what your family signed up for?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

NP. I’m sure they did not “sign up” for that. No one thinks their kid will have 4 hrs of homework. The school needs to frame shift dramatically.

It is regularly discussed here that a school must have homework like this to be "rigorous" and that to not have the same makes the school unworthy.

So much gaslighting from families who want to justify wasting their child's youth to "rigor" with few real rewards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in t7his class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

That's terrible. Transfer/move them!

[Anonymous]

Can those of us with 10th graders having a rocky start post too? Kiddo who was diagnosed with a specific learning disability this summer is struggling in a couple classes. Turning work in late and incomplete, feeling overwhelmed and defeated already just a few weeks in. Really hoping they can crawl out of the hole and get back on track. Had to have a tough conversation and a bit of an intervention last night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can those of us with 10th graders having a rocky start post too? Kiddo who was diagnosed with a specific learning disability this summer is struggling in a couple classes. Turning work in late and incomplete, feeling overwhelmed and defeated already just a few weeks in. Really hoping they can crawl out of the hole and get back on track. Had to have a tough conversation and a bit of an intervention last night.

Get a tutor stat. Those grades matter

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can those of us with 10th graders having a rocky start post too? Kiddo who was diagnosed with a specific learning disability this summer is struggling in a couple classes. Turning work in late and incomplete, feeling overwhelmed and defeated already just a few weeks in. Really hoping they can crawl out of the hole and get back on track. Had to have a tough conversation and a bit of an intervention last night.

Get a tutor stat. Those grades matter

We have a tutor and other supports lined up. It’s just been tough. We’re well aware grades matter, thanks for that really helpful comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

What school is this with 4 or 5 hours of HW a night? Insanity. Pull your kid. It's not worth it.

Sounds like Holton-Arms. DD was regularly up into the wee hours completing homework.

I was thinking the same tuing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can those of us with 10th graders having a rocky start post too? Kiddo who was diagnosed with a specific learning disability this summer is struggling in a couple classes. Turning work in late and incomplete, feeling overwhelmed and defeated already just a few weeks in. Really hoping they can crawl out of the hole and get back on track. Had to have a tough conversation and a bit of an intervention last night.

Mom of a dyslexic kid here. Hang in there. You’ve got supports lined up, and it’s normal for this initial period to just take some getting used to and for everyone (kid, you, school, etc) to figure out what’s needed and find balance and routines. It will get better. And while sure, grades matter, the process of getting a diagnosis, learning how to manage it, etc., is actually a thing you/your kid can point to as an example of growth, overcoming challenge, etc, when applying to college. Don’t panic, and don’t stress bout that part now. Focus on figuring out what’s in front of you first. You can do it. 🤍
Get a tutor stat. Those grades matter

We have a tutor and other supports lined up. It’s just been tough. We’re well aware grades matter, thanks for that really helpful comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can those of us with 10th graders having a rocky start post too? Kiddo who was diagnosed with a specific learning disability this summer is struggling in a couple classes. Turning work in late and incomplete, feeling overwhelmed and defeated already just a few weeks in. Really hoping they can crawl out of the hole and get back on track. Had to have a tough conversation and a bit of an intervention last night.

Get a tutor stat. Those grades matter

We have a tutor and other supports lined up. It’s just been tough. We’re well aware grades matter, thanks for that really helpful comment.

Mom of a dyslexic kid here. Hang in there. You’re doing the right things. You’ve got supports lined up, and it’s normal for this initial period to just take some getting used to and for everyone (kid, you, school, etc) to figure out what’s needed and find balance and routines. It will get better. And while sure, grades matter, the process of getting a diagnosis, learning how to manage it, etc., is actually a thing you/your kid can point to as an example of growth, overcoming challenge, etc, when applying to college. Don’t panic, and don’t stress bout that part now. Focus on figuring out what’s in front of you first. You can do it. 🤍

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sad to hear…but isn’t that what your family signed up for?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

NP. I’m sure they did not “sign up” for that. No one thinks their kid will have 4 hrs of homework. The school needs to frame shift dramatically.

It is regularly discussed here that a school must have homework like this to be "rigorous" and that to not have the same makes the school unworthy.

So much gaslighting from families who want to justify wasting their child's youth to "rigor" with few real rewards.

I would check with teachers to see how much homework they assign. It could be they assign too much, or it could be that your DC takes longer to complete it than other students.

[Anonymous]

I'm curious..What did any of you expect when you enrolled?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious..What did any of you expect when you enrolled?

That their HS experience would be like mine. Top grades with little work, lots of fun, and easy admission to my family’s legacy Ivy.

[Anonymous]

Agree with the poster that said you can't complain if you put your kid in a more academic rigorous school and sign them up for hard classes only to find there is a ton of homework?? Our daughter is in a 9th grade private (new to private schools) and plays volleyball there. With sports and a new school, we throttled back on the advanced classes and she is doing just fine. She only has two advanced courses and four standard. Her friends parents got tutors over the summer so she could qualify for multiple advanced classes and is getting killed. We're glad we did what we did. The plan is to add more challenging classes as she gets more comfortable with the school/routine over the next couple of years. Everyone is trying to get their kid into Calculus in 7th grade.