The HS things are going rocky thread-

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Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

Or she knows she’s struggling and is scared to tell you. That was me when I hit the skids in HS. I didn’t want to admit anything to my parents (and nothing against them—we had a great relationship, so this is not me saying anything about you or your parenting). I was in denial even to myself and kept thinking I could pull it together without help, and I couldn’t. I’m glad your school is keeping an eye out, and good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

Or she knows she’s struggling and is scared to tell you. That was me when I hit the skids in HS. I didn’t want to admit anything to my parents (and nothing against them—we had a great relationship, so this is not me saying anything about you or your parenting). I was in denial even to myself and kept thinking I could pull it together without help, and I couldn’t. I’m glad your school is keeping an eye out, and good luck.

I guess that is possible, my DH is furious we are getting called in to the school in September. I also think her idea of school going well is making a lot of new friends and the varsity squad, turning in late homework or coming to class unprepared doesn’t phase her. I’m just glad we have some time to turn this around.

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Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

Or she knows she’s struggling and is scared to tell you. That was me when I hit the skids in HS. I didn’t want to admit anything to my parents (and nothing against them—we had a great relationship, so this is not me saying anything about you or your parenting). I was in denial even to myself and kept thinking I could pull it together without help, and I couldn’t. I’m glad your school is keeping an eye out, and good luck.

I guess that is possible, my DH is furious we are getting called in to the school in September. I also think her idea of school going well is making a lot of new friends and the varsity squad, turning in late homework or coming to class unprepared doesn’t phase her. I’m just glad we have some time to turn this around.

Go east on her. Remember in her world being socially accepted and happy is the most important indicator of school success. Be grateful she is happy because so many kids are not. The other stuff she can turn around. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

Or she knows she’s struggling and is scared to tell you. That was me when I hit the skids in HS. I didn’t want to admit anything to my parents (and nothing against them—we had a great relationship, so this is not me saying anything about you or your parenting). I was in denial even to myself and kept thinking I could pull it together without help, and I couldn’t. I’m glad your school is keeping an eye out, and good luck.

I guess that is possible, my DH is furious we are getting called in to the school in September. I also think her idea of school going well is making a lot of new friends and the varsity squad, turning in late homework or coming to class unprepared doesn’t phase her. I’m just glad we have some time to turn this around.

Go east on her. Remember in her world being socially accepted and happy is the most important indicator of school success. Be grateful she is happy because so many kids are not. The other stuff she can turn around. Good luck.

*easy

[Anonymous]

Don’t private schools provide executive functioning support? What is my kid going to get from an outside exec functioning tutor that he/she didn’t get in private middle? Serious question. It seems most private middle schools still these in but that doesn’t mean it sinks in. Is the purpose of an exec function tutor to give someone else the job of reviewing these strategies on a daily/weekly basis?

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Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

Or she knows she’s struggling and is scared to tell you. That was me when I hit the skids in HS. I didn’t want to admit anything to my parents (and nothing against them—we had a great relationship, so this is not me saying anything about you or your parenting). I was in denial even to myself and kept thinking I could pull it together without help, and I couldn’t. I’m glad your school is keeping an eye out, and good luck.

I guess that is possible, my DH is furious we are getting called in to the school in September. I also think her idea of school going well is making a lot of new friends and the varsity squad, turning in late homework or coming to class unprepared doesn’t phase her. I’m just glad we have some time to turn this around.

Go east on her. Remember in her world being socially accepted and happy is the most important indicator of school success. Be grateful she is happy because so many kids are not. The other stuff she can turn around. Good luck.

I am the PP who wrote up thread about being impressed with your school. I agree with the above, as well. I would be furious if the school did not flag it. That’s what you’re paying for.

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Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

Or she knows she’s struggling and is scared to tell you. That was me when I hit the skids in HS. I didn’t want to admit anything to my parents (and nothing against them—we had a great relationship, so this is not me saying anything about you or your parenting). I was in denial even to myself and kept thinking I could pull it together without help, and I couldn’t. I’m glad your school is keeping an eye out, and good luck.

I guess that is possible, my DH is furious we are getting called in to the school in September. I also think her idea of school going well is making a lot of new friends and the varsity squad, turning in late homework or coming to class unprepared doesn’t phase her. I’m just glad we have some time to turn this around.

Go east on her. Remember in her world being socially accepted and happy is the most important indicator of school success. Be grateful she is happy because so many kids are not. The other stuff she can turn around. Good luck.

I am the PP who wrote up thread about being impressed with your school. I agree with the above, as well. I would be furious if the school did not flag it. That’s what you’re paying for.

Oh we are happy with the school, just upset that things could start off this badly. My DH wanted to immediately take away her phone and other privileges, I think we need to have the sit down with the school next week and make a plan without starting by punishing her when she might just need help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

We’re in almost the exact same situation. Hope your meeting goes okay and things click and turn around for your kiddo.

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Anonymous wrote:Sad to hear…but isn’t that what your family signed up for?

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

NP. I’m sure they did not “sign up” for that. No one thinks their kid will have 4 hrs of homework. The school needs to frame shift dramatically.

No, the school does not need to frame shift. I'm assuming the student is signed up for a boatload of honors and AP courses. She is getting 4 hours of homework a night because that is what those courses require and or the student can't get the work done for such a rigorous set of courses in a shorter time frame. Parents should drop her down into "regular" level courses for at least 2, maybe 3 classes. Nothing wrong with that. I'm not being a jerk. My own child dropped from honors to regular physics junior year and dropped out of another AP into an honors course senior year. Parents cannot have their students signed up for super hard courses and then complain it's too hard or too time consuming.

What??No private school is enrolling freshman in AP classes. Many don’t even have them anymore.

You clearly don't know about all the private schools in the area.

Please enlighten me. Which private school allows freshman to take AP classes?

St. Anselm’s requires Freshman to take AP history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t private schools provide executive functioning support? What is my kid going to get from an outside exec functioning tutor that he/she didn’t get in private middle? Serious question. It seems most private middle schools still these in but that doesn’t mean it sinks in. Is the purpose of an exec function tutor to give someone else the job of reviewing these strategies on a daily/weekly basis?

Many private middle schools do offer some level of academic/study skills coaching / exec functioning support. This thread is about high school though, and while some schools still have this in freshman year as part of transition support, it gets phased out quickly. By HS most neurotypical kids should have a handle on it and/or are expected to be responsible for themselves. Kids who still need supports are getting that separately, through learning centers, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t private schools provide executive functioning support? What is my kid going to get from an outside exec functioning tutor that he/she didn’t get in private middle? Serious question. It seems most private middle schools still these in but that doesn’t mean it sinks in. Is the purpose of an exec function tutor to give someone else the job of reviewing these strategies on a daily/weekly basis?

Many private middle schools do offer some level of academic/study skills coaching / exec functioning support. This thread is about high school though, and while some schools still have this in freshman year as part of transition support, it gets phased out quickly. By HS most neurotypical kids should have a handle on it and/or are expected to be responsible for themselves. Kids who still need supports are getting that separately, through learning centers, etc.

At our school it seems that most students with anything beyond the most mild learning disability are counseled out after 8th grade. I know it's hard when there is a kid who has been there since preschool and has siblings there but they are very clear that the high school is rigorous and the pace waits for no one. If my kid needed any support I would send them elsewhere.

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Is all of this happening in PRIVATE schools?

If not, go to a public school thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Is all of this happening in PRIVATE schools?

If not, go to a public school thread.

Yes, private schools. Imagine that!

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Consider having your kid drop a sport or other activity. Believe me, this has made a world of difference for us, and my kid’s dropped activity didn’t even take up a lot of time. It was just one afternoon a week! But having that extra 2-3 hours on Saturday back means DC can catch up on school and work not feel rushed and stressed all week. Just a small amount of time can make a huge difference between feeling stretched for time vs comfortable.

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We are going down in flames fast. Despite studying just got an F on test. There are 3 more tests this week, not looking good.