why is mrs still a thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: just got a wedding invitation from my cousin who is getting married for the first time in his 50s. I was addressed as
"Mr. and Mrs. (husbands name.)"
I am appalled.

Because that is what current etiquette says is the proper formal address and that is considered courteous to use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a ridiculous thing to care about.

I'm GenX and have gone by Mrs. X since I got married. I also <<insert shock and horror>> took my DH's name. I'm glad that I did. I also have been a progressive since I started voting.

But I will say that some of the issues that are brought up on this board make me understand why conservatives are so done with us.

So oppression and the patriarchy are a "ridiculous thing to care about"? Ok. Lol.

Ok Barbie, the patriarchy isn’t going to end because people drop the r from your courtesy title. Why don’t you start focusing your attention on things that actually make a difference.

I’m sure you remove all the hair below your lashes “for yourself”.

[Anonymous]

Le people call themselves what they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: just got a wedding invitation from my cousin who is getting married for the first time in his 50s. I was addressed as
"Mr. and Mrs. (husbands name.)"
I am appalled.

That would be husband's mother![b]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: just got a wedding invitation from my cousin who is getting married for the first time in his 50s. I was addressed as
"Mr. and Mrs. (husbands name.)"
I am appalled.

Because that is what current etiquette says is the proper formal address and that is considered courteous to use.

In the 1950s.

[Anonymous]

I default to Ms. for every adult female I meet. They can then correct me if they wish.

[Anonymous]

My aunt was a physician way before most people thought of any woman as a doc. When she and my uncle were introduced as Mr. and Dr. Smith everyone was confused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a ridiculous thing to care about.

I'm GenX and have gone by Mrs. X since I got married. I also <<insert shock and horror>> took my DH's name. I'm glad that I did. I also have been a progressive since I started voting.

But I will say that some of the issues that are brought up on this board make me understand why conservatives are so done with us.

So oppression and the patriarchy are a "ridiculous thing to care about"? Ok. Lol.

Ok Barbie, the patriarchy isn’t going to end because people drop the r from your courtesy title. Why don’t you start focusing your attention on things that actually make a difference.

"Barbie?" Ok. Lol.

You are definitely part of the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m Gen X and prefer Ms. Mrs. is my MIL and always sounded weird. I don’t care what people use when they address me, but I’ll pick Ms. Out of a drop down list.

This is me exactly. I am Ms. [DH last name]. My MIL is Mrs. [DH last name].

Ditto!

But I don’t care if somebody calls them selves ms or Mrs. Why would I care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m Gen X and prefer Ms. Mrs. is my MIL and always sounded weird. I don’t care what people use when they address me, but I’ll pick Ms. Out of a drop down list.

This is me exactly. I am Ms. [DH last name]. My MIL is Mrs. [DH last name].

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a ridiculous thing to care about.

I'm GenX and have gone by Mrs. X since I got married. I also <<insert shock and horror>> took my DH's name. I'm glad that I did. I also have been a progressive since I started voting.

But I will say that some of the issues that are brought up on this board make me understand why conservatives are so done with us.

So oppression and the patriarchy are a "ridiculous thing to care about"? Ok. Lol.

Ok Barbie, the patriarchy isn’t going to end because people drop the r from your courtesy title. Why don’t you start focusing your attention on things that actually make a difference.

I’m sure you remove all the hair below your lashes “for yourself”.

Umm…Not sure what that really has to do with the topic, but for what it’s worth I’d be willing to bet that on average women who identify as Ms are more likely to go in for hair removal than those who prefer Miss or Mrs.

[Anonymous]

When people address me as Mrs. HusbandsLastName I do joke that is DH's mother. it is a gentle way to correct them and the let them know I have my own name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a ridiculous thing to care about.

I'm GenX and have gone by Mrs. X since I got married. I also <<insert shock and horror>> took my DH's name. I'm glad that I did. I also have been a progressive since I started voting.

But I will say that some of the issues that are brought up on this board make me understand why conservatives are so done with us.

So oppression and the patriarchy are a "ridiculous thing to care about"? Ok. Lol.

Ok Barbie, the patriarchy isn’t going to end because people drop the r from your courtesy title. Why don’t you start focusing your attention on things that actually make a difference.

"Barbie?" Ok. Lol.

You are definitely part of the problem.

https://msmagazine.com/2023/07/27/barbie-ms-magazine-patriarchy/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: just got a wedding invitation from my cousin who is getting married for the first time in his 50s. I was addressed as
"Mr. and Mrs. (husbands name.)"
I am appalled.

When I got married in 2000, I was told to address envelopes this way. Even then I realized it was offensive. It feels like an invitation to a man and his extra appendage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m noticing that married millennials and young women prefer to be called Mrs. They also are more likely to take their husband’s last name.

I’m Feb X and my generation uses Ms. way more often! We also tend to keep our maiden names especially if we are well-educated and UMC.

Gen Xers tend to be second-wave feminists, while younger women are third wave or liberal feminists.
Gen Xers are mostly concerned with the basics of women having equal rights and identities. Liberal feminists think that hookup culture and sex work are empowering but get really offended by "micro-aggressions" like men looking at them a bit too long. Gen Xers got married, lib-fems have Instagram worthy wedding weekends and announce to the world that they're now MRS. under the photo of them in a wedding dress with their bouquet raised in a victory fist.

Are these also the same women who have bachelorette parties with “bride” and “bridesmaid” attire?