why is mrs still a thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Frankly what should have happened is that ALL women over 18 get referred to as "Mrs." and "Miss" is what girls are called.

Unmarried housekeepers who were older used to be referred to as Mrs.

[Anonymous]

I’m noticing that married millennials and young women prefer to be called Mrs. They also are more likely to take their husband’s last name.

I’m Feb X and my generation uses Ms. way more often! We also tend to keep our maiden names especially if we are well-educated and UMC.

[Anonymous]

Gen X not Feb X, obviously!

[Anonymous]

I don’t get it, but then I’m an ardent feminist whose entire life has been focused around the consequences of male violence - first in a family of origin ‘led’ by a raging violent alcoholic bully and later in various adult roles as DV advocate, legal aid attorney , public defender and prosecutor working in the trenches with lives mired in the consequences of male violence.

I’ve been wanting to change my surname for many years now. I haven’t and won’t get married, and I don’t want to die with the name of the man who first abused me and my mother and siblings.

Any ideas for how an adult woman should choose a new surname? I’ve considered choosing a surname from family history, but I recognize that there is a high probability by that method I will choose the name of somebody’s else’s abuser.

Any ideas, let me know!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get it, but then I’m an ardent feminist whose entire life has been focused around the consequences of male violence - first in a family of origin ‘led’ by a raging violent alcoholic bully and later in various adult roles as DV advocate, legal aid attorney , public defender and prosecutor working in the trenches with lives mired in the consequences of male violence.

I’ve been wanting to change my surname for many years now. I haven’t and won’t get married, and I don’t want to die with the name of the man who first abused me and my mother and siblings.

Any ideas for how an adult woman should choose a new surname? I’ve considered choosing a surname from family history, but I recognize that there is a high probability by that method I will choose the name of somebody’s else’s abuser.

Any ideas, let me know!

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m noticing that married millennials and young women prefer to be called Mrs. They also are more likely to take their husband’s last name.

I’m Feb X and my generation uses Ms. way more often! We also tend to keep our maiden names especially if we are well-educated and UMC.

I'm a millennial (early 30s) and it seems common among my friends to use your husband's name socially, but not actually change it legally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get it, but then I’m an ardent feminist whose entire life has been focused around the consequences of male violence - first in a family of origin ‘led’ by a raging violent alcoholic bully and later in various adult roles as DV advocate, legal aid attorney , public defender and prosecutor working in the trenches with lives mired in the consequences of male violence.

I’ve been wanting to change my surname for many years now. I haven’t and won’t get married, and I don’t want to die with the name of the man who first abused me and my mother and siblings.

Any ideas for how an adult woman should choose a new surname? I’ve considered choosing a surname from family history, but I recognize that there is a high probability by that method I will choose the name of somebody’s else’s abuser.

Any ideas, let me know!

Your mom’s maiden name would work, no?

[Anonymous]

I’m Gen X and prefer Ms. Mrs. is my MIL and always sounded weird. I don’t care what people use when they address me, but I’ll pick Ms. Out of a drop down list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought the whole point was that people could be called or addressed as they liked. Now they need to justify it to you?

You are giving the same vibes as the feminists who are all about "choice" but hate nonstop on SAHMs.

The point of feminism is that women have choice. Why judge those who make a different one to you?

You sound like a difficult person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m Gen X and prefer Ms. Mrs. is my MIL and always sounded weird. I don’t care what people use when they address me, but I’ll pick Ms. Out of a drop down list.

I pick Dr. And encourage my girls to circumnavigate the issue the same way.

[Anonymous]

I agree with OP. I really only see it at schools. Its fine if that's what people like to be called, but I consider it antiquated language.

I'd be ok with Mx. for all as well but we aren't there yet. I don't care about people knowing my gender in a business setting. I correct people to call me Ms. from Mrs. and never really liked Mrs. in social settings either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought the whole point was that people could be called or addressed as they liked. Now they need to justify it to you?

You are giving the same vibes as the feminists who are all about "choice" but hate nonstop on SAHMs.

The point of feminism is that women have choice. Why judge those who make a different one to you?

You sound like a difficult person.

Wooooooosh...

[Anonymous]

I default to "Ms." when I have no idea what they want to be called. If I know them well enough to know what they want to be called, chances are I'll be using their first name. So I find myself only using "Mrs." very rarely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. I really only see it at schools. Its fine if that's what people like to be called, but I consider it antiquated language.

I'd be ok with Mx. for all as well but we aren't there yet. I don't care about people knowing my gender in a business setting. I correct people to call me Ms. from Mrs. and never really liked Mrs. in social settings either.

No, Mx. is dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m Gen X and prefer Ms. Mrs. is my MIL and always sounded weird. I don’t care what people use when they address me, but I’ll pick Ms. Out of a drop down list.

I pick Dr. And encourage my girls to circumnavigate the issue the same way.

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