Well at that age (8th grade) the feeling of losing your friends / fitting in can be devastating. I think we all forget that mentality as we age. (Note: I am not suggesting the school is at fault or liable (don't know)). |
| Is the school like the Sidwell of NYC or something? |
According to the article, "Ellis had never been asked to repeat a class or been disciplined for behavioral issues. There was no grading structure in which he had failed. His midyear reports from eighth grade note his problems with writing and organization, but also his progress, and they praise him for his creative thinking and contributions to his classes." |
| I think the school bears some fault ethically, but not legally. The school was not upfront about what it actually is (at least for high school) - a place that does and wants to place kids in highly or reasonably selective colleges. The school is 100 percent allowed to be that, as a private school (and I don't even think there is objectively anything wrong with that goal, necessarily). But that's not how the school portrayed itself. I realize that they were trying to counsel this kid out for a while, and I am not saying it is entirely the school's fault at all - but they did send mixed messages. |
Well for one they were found to have half the support staff of peer schools and so hired to have double what they had before |
But is there some legal requirement for them to have more? I agree that, as a parent, when selecting a private, that would be concerning to me. But did they misrepresent the number of support staff that they had? |
So we don't know the actual reason he was kicked out? (Not be offered to come back to the school you've attended for many years is the same imo as being kicked out) |
No, not at all imo. A few other schools come to mind when I think "NYC Sidwell." St. Ann's doesn't use grades and hasn't for decades. Sidwell would never. Just a known private in Brooklyn with a significant price tag. |
I should also add that is also top-rated and does produce results if Ivy admission is the goal. |
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Didn’t the school tell the parents beginning in 3rd grade that they can’t adequately meet the child’s needs?
High school is a different ballgame so I can understand whatever support the school offered to 8th grade just would not be enough for the child beyond that. If I read correctly, he has both an ASD and dyslexia diagnosis. No or little information was provided about how the ASD presents but the child has to be prepared for success beyond HS. The parents seem to be saying since the kid was not likely to go the academic route there was no harm in the school warehousing him until he turns 18. |
The school was kind and gentle with its recommendation it seems. This will make them become direct and callous. Plus, why did the parents allow the other kid to stay? This will be a major issue in their case. |
And that may well have been objectively true, but if the school didn't want him there and accept him for who he was, it was not the right place for him. |
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Parents kept quoting an evaluation from second or third grade. Kids change a lot in 5 years.
I’m sorry that this happened to their child. It’s a lousy situation. But I dont think the school is at fault. |
Do you think the school could be partially liable? "joint liability" |
I agree keeping him there was not in the child’s best interest. |