ILs mad that I won’t mow massive field on their ‘vacation’ property

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe they’ll disinherit your DH for your awful behavior and you’ll never be able to “vacation” there again. Getting a little teary for you. Sniff.

I’m all set, thanks! They could leave us nothing and it would be absolutely no problem. Perhaps your situation is different, but not all of us are counting on inheritances and cower at the idea of not getting one. -OP

Geez OP I was with you until this post. Wtf?

I’m with OP. How was she supposed to respond to “maybe they’ll disinherit you for your awful behavior”? A+ work here.

Oh, look. Another touchy, humorless grump.

Poorly done sarcasm, actually.

It was not poorly done. Some people didn’t interpret it accurately because they’re really sensitive about family conflicts and mentioning “disinheriting” set off alarm bells. Others missed the sarcasm because the sheer volume of nasty digs people make anonymously on dcum has conditioned them to anticipate the worst from fellow posters. Now they’re digging in because nobody likes to be the one who wasn’t in on the joke.

Completely accurate.

[Anonymous]

I hope we all learned that sarcasm doesn't work in text the way it works in voice or in your head.

Up your comedy game, people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

Not that it matters, but you seem like a hug "snot" on every level. Just your description of your time there says everything anyone needs to know about you and I am guessing your in-laws have put up with you for family peace for many years. You are also the first one to be standing in line screaming for your poor husband's share of this "shithole" of a faction site once the in-laws pass. You are so predictable, as are others like you. I hope your mother in law never contacts you again.

[Anonymous]

hug s/b huge

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope we all learned that sarcasm doesn't work in text the way it works in voice or in your head.

Up your comedy game, people.

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you, OP, and please tell us more! Did ILs purchase this land? For what purpose? Are they planning to build there eventually? What didn't they like about the trees they cut down? My ILs also cut down some mature trees for no reason, but just from their regular home.

This. I'm dying to know more about these people.

I'm gonna hijack with my own story...
A coworker I know married a rwnj who believes all the black people who live in dc, whom he is terrified of, are going to march from DC to the Loudoun suburbs to murder white people. He bought land in WV to escape to. There was a store-bought shed on it and he plans for he and his wife to "retire" to this shed that has no electricity or running water and is the size of, well, a shed. He spent a lot of time cutting down trees and planting new trees. He's also a hoarder of all things but particularly guns and ammo. They spent every weekend and holiday for years doing things to this shed and mowing the land etc. We were invited to visit so spouse and I along with our very young kids could help. No way in hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope we all learned that sarcasm doesn't work in text the way it works in voice or in your head.

Up your comedy game, people.

Or rather, be aware of your audience and understand what characterizes the DCUM audience. It's split between people who can recognize sarcasm and those who get very angry at missing it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

Not that it matters, but you seem like a hug "snot" on every level. Just your description of your time there says everything anyone needs to know about you and I am guessing your in-laws have put up with you for family peace for many years. You are also the first one to be standing in line screaming for your poor husband's share of this "shithole" of a faction site once the in-laws pass. You are so predictable, as are others like you. I hope your mother in law never contacts you again.

Is this sarcasm? Or one of our trolls who are against any kind of boundaries with family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

Not that it matters, but you seem like a hug "snot" on every level. Just your description of your time there says everything anyone needs to know about you and I am guessing your in-laws have put up with you for family peace for many years. You are also the first one to be standing in line screaming for your poor husband's share of this "shithole" of a faction site once the in-laws pass. You are so predictable, as are others like you. I hope your mother in law never contacts you again.

Is this sarcasm? Or one of our trolls who are against any kind of boundaries with family.

Boundaries make for good relationships, unless the relationships are with people who rely on being able to walk all over you. In that case, no relationship is the better call, if you can make it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

Not that it matters, but you seem like a hug "snot" on every level. Just your description of your time there says everything anyone needs to know about you and I am guessing your in-laws have put up with you for family peace for many years. You are also the first one to be standing in line screaming for your poor husband's share of this "shithole" of a faction site once the in-laws pass. You are so predictable, as are others like you. I hope your mother in law never contacts you again.

The only thing that I agree with you on is the last sentence. It sounds horrible and how rude of them to expect their family to make this their vacation. I love to be outside but this sounds ridiculous.

Op, come back and tell us more about these people. Is this their "bug out" spot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope we all learned that sarcasm doesn't work in text the way it works in voice or in your head.

Up your comedy game, people.

It’s okay that you didn’t get it, really. Nobody gets every single joke. That’s why a poster very nicely explained it. Now you’re just coming off as the loudmouth who heckles the comedian. Take your scolding elsewhere. Some of us were enjoying the show.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope we all learned that sarcasm doesn't work in text the way it works in voice or in your head.

Up your comedy game, people.

Or rather, be aware of your audience and understand what characterizes the DCUM audience. It's split between people who can recognize sarcasm and those who get very angry at missing it.

Ha! You need to spend more time here before simplifying DCUM like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope we all learned that sarcasm doesn't work in text the way it works in voice or in your head.

Up your comedy game, people.

It’s okay that you didn’t get it, really. Nobody gets every single joke. That’s why a poster very nicely explained it. Now you’re just coming off as the loudmouth who heckles the comedian. Take your scolding elsewhere. Some of us were enjoying the show.

There's a bunch of us that didn't get the "sarcasm". If it has to be explained, it's poorly done.

[Anonymous]

That would be a case in point, PP.

[Anonymous]

You posters arguing back and forth are ruining what could be an epic post.