ILs mad that I won’t mow massive field on their ‘vacation’ property

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they’ll disinherit your DH for your awful behavior and you’ll never be able to “vacation” there again. Getting a little teary for you. Sniff.

I’m all set, thanks! They could leave us nothing and it would be absolutely no problem. Perhaps your situation is different, but not all of us are counting on inheritances and cower at the idea of not getting one. -OP

Geez OP I was with you until this post. Wtf?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another anti-MIL thread. Yawn.

Another critical poster who' yawning. Go away.

[Anonymous]

Oh I would definitely never go again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they’ll disinherit your DH for your awful behavior and you’ll never be able to “vacation” there again. Getting a little teary for you. Sniff.

I’m all set, thanks! They could leave us nothing and it would be absolutely no problem. Perhaps your situation is different, but not all of us are counting on inheritances and cower at the idea of not getting one. -OP

Geez OP I was with you until this post. Wtf?

Seriously. From hero to zero in 16 minutes.

[Anonymous]

Once you do something for some in-laws then it becomes expected. Glad you are breaking their entitled expectations. They sound like annoying azzholes. I would never go again for sure. Let your DH deal with them going forward. Do not apologize (as nothing to apologize for) or give them any kind of reaction.

[Anonymous]

Ok, I know lots of people who have land in WV with a camper and they love that lifestyle. And admittedly, some are my relatives and I love that lifestyle too - but I know it’s not popular. The mowing though. I cant even imagine.

[Anonymous]

How old are your kids? Your oldest has maybe two or three years before they are gonna get driving lessons on that mower ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they’ll disinherit your DH for your awful behavior and you’ll never be able to “vacation” there again. Getting a little teary for you. Sniff.

I’m all set, thanks! They could leave us nothing and it would be absolutely no problem. Perhaps your situation is different, but not all of us are counting on inheritances and cower at the idea of not getting one. -OP

Geez OP I was with you until this post. Wtf?

Seriously!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

I proudly nominate this post as a DCUM instant classic!

+1! I just read this post out loud to my husband because I loved it so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they’ll disinherit your DH for your awful behavior and you’ll never be able to “vacation” there again. Getting a little teary for you. Sniff.

I’m all set, thanks! They could leave us nothing and it would be absolutely no problem. Perhaps your situation is different, but not all of us are counting on inheritances and cower at the idea of not getting one. -OP

Geez OP I was with you until this post. Wtf?

I’m with OP. How was she supposed to respond to “maybe they’ll disinherit you for your awful behavior”? A+ work here.

[Anonymous]

I think I’m sexist because the idea op is a mom being called in like Batman to mow the back forty is extra hilarious!

[Anonymous]

How big is the yard?

[Anonymous]

I personally would develop a sudden severe allergy to grass. Love to help you but the pollen . .

[Anonymous]

How much land?

[Anonymous]

They should be hiring someone to do this every year. Ridiculous!