ILs mad that I won’t mow massive field on their ‘vacation’ property

[Anonymous]

For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Make no mistake - it’s hilarious.
Keep on keepin’ on with your plan to relax at home.

[Anonymous]

This is firmly in the category of sit back, relax, and laugh at their temper tantrum with a cold beer in your hand. The audacity! Why do they even keep this land?

[Anonymous]

Another anti-MIL thread. Yawn.

[Anonymous]

Your husband needs to deal with this problem.

[Anonymous]

It is absolutely hilarious.

The *only* problem with your post, OP, is that you are planning on only "taking one year off." Don't you dare ever go again. I don't know how you lasted this long.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they’ll disinherit your DH for your awful behavior and you’ll never be able to “vacation” there again. Getting a little teary for you. Sniff.

[Anonymous]

It’s hilarious that they host vacations at a camper, where you don’t even actually stay and when you’re there you eat out of coolers. I mean Disney should take a lesson!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they’ll disinherit your DH for your awful behavior and you’ll never be able to “vacation” there again. Getting a little teary for you. Sniff.

I’m all set, thanks! They could leave us nothing and it would be absolutely no problem. Perhaps your situation is different, but not all of us are counting on inheritances and cower at the idea of not getting one. -OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is absolutely hilarious.

The *only* problem with your post, OP, is that you are planning on only "taking one year off." Don't you dare ever go again. I don't know how you lasted this long.

Exactly. Please demand backpay for years past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they’ll disinherit your DH for your awful behavior and you’ll never be able to “vacation” there again. Getting a little teary for you. Sniff.

I’m all set, thanks! They could leave us nothing and it would be absolutely no problem. Perhaps your situation is different, but not all of us are counting on inheritances and cower at the idea of not getting one. -OP

DP here - I think you should use some of your vast resources and get your sarcasm detector fixed, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they’ll disinherit your DH for your awful behavior and you’ll never be able to “vacation” there again. Getting a little teary for you. Sniff.

I’m all set, thanks! They could leave us nothing and it would be absolutely no problem. Perhaps your situation is different, but not all of us are counting on inheritances and cower at the idea of not getting one. -OP

DP here - I think you should use some of your vast resources and get your sarcasm detector fixed, OP.

I’m the sarcastic PP. Thank you! It was a freaking joke, OP. But, wow, you’re a b1tch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is absolutely hilarious.

The *only* problem with your post, OP, is that you are planning on only "taking one year off." Don't you dare ever go again. I don't know how you lasted this long.

I’m beginning to think you are right, and DH is fairly close to all of us not going because of their rude texts. We’ll see if he’s feeling generous. -OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

I proudly nominate this post as a DCUM instant classic!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another anti-MIL thread. Yawn.

Another poster that lacks the self control to simply skip a thread that doesn't interest them. Yawn indeed.