Gilmore Girls? What am I missing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think teen mothers’ relationships IRL tend to be healthier than what’s depicted in this show.

Woah, thats not true at all! If the Lorelai/Rory relationship look like the norm to you, it may be beneficial to speak with a parent coach or therapist. I'm serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think teen mothers’ relationships IRL tend to be healthier than what’s depicted in this show.

Woah, thats not true at all! If the Lorelai/Rory relationship look like the norm to you, it may be beneficial to speak with a parent coach or therapist. I'm serious.

I meant that the relationships between moms who were teen mothers (in other words, had a baby while they were a teenager) and their children tend to be very unhealthy, in my experience. And I have seen that many times over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think teen mothers’ relationships IRL tend to be healthier than what’s depicted in this show.

Woah, thats not true at all! If the Lorelai/Rory relationship look like the norm to you, it may be beneficial to speak with a parent coach or therapist. I'm serious.

I meant that the relationships between moms who were teen mothers (in other words, had a baby while they were a teenager) and their children tend to be very unhealthy, in my experience. And I have seen that many times over.

How many of those teen mothers, from your experience, come from very wealthy homes and are highly intelligent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think teen mothers’ relationships IRL tend to be healthier than what’s depicted in this show.

Woah, thats not true at all! If the Lorelai/Rory relationship look like the norm to you, it may be beneficial to speak with a parent coach or therapist. I'm serious.

I meant that the relationships between moms who were teen mothers (in other words, had a baby while they were a teenager) and their children tend to be very unhealthy, in my experience. And I have seen that many times over.

Ah, that I agree with!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think teen mothers’ relationships IRL tend to be healthier than what’s depicted in this show.

Woah, thats not true at all! If the Lorelai/Rory relationship look like the norm to you, it may be beneficial to speak with a parent coach or therapist. I'm serious.

I meant that the relationships between moms who were teen mothers (in other words, had a baby while they were a teenager) and their children tend to be very unhealthy, in my experience. And I have seen that many times over.

How many of those teen mothers, from your experience, come from very wealthy homes and are highly intelligent?

NP. While that’s true. Lorelei had pretty bad boundaries with Rory.

[Anonymous]

Even though this discussion has gone a little wacky, there are some good points here. I don't think it holds up well. Rory was more compelling as a young girl than as a grown woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even though this discussion has gone a little wacky, there are some good points here. I don't think it holds up well. Rory was more compelling as a young girl than as a grown woman.

She was more mature as a 16 y/o than she was in her 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even though this discussion has gone a little wacky, there are some good points here. I don't think it holds up well. Rory was more compelling as a young girl than as a grown woman.

She was more mature as a 16 y/o than she was in her 30s.

I agree. The problem wasn't that she was a floundering 30 something in AYITL. The problem was that she was a 30 something who was a horrible person - carrying on an affair, treating her supposed boyfriend horribly, squandering career opportunities because she felt like she was too good...
You know, I'd rather see a fully formed character who was successful and still kind. She could still be interesting. Not just omg, life is so rough postgrad, we all go through this!

[Anonymous]

What did she even major in? And why couldn’t see do some networking? I would’ve been working LinkedIn, any alumni events I could find and applying to jobs like crazy if I were her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even though this discussion has gone a little wacky, there are some good points here. I don't think it holds up well. Rory was more compelling as a young girl than as a grown woman.

She was more mature as a 16 y/o than she was in her 30s.

I hate-watched this show but I actually think it is somewhat realistic that it went this way. Rory winds up parentified in her teens because her mom turned her into her best friend/confidant instead of being her mom. Rory didn't have a chance to have a proper childhood and be immature and make mistakes because her mom had to be the child in their relationship, so Rory had no real choice but to be the mature adult so that they could function.

It's realistic that as she actually enters adulthood, and starts dealing with some of her developmental needs that had been ignored in her childhood, that she'd regress and become more selfish and impulsive. As someone who was also raised by immature parents and was a super high-functioning teenager, I am familiar with this dynamic. I think what is missing from Rory's story is that she lacks self awareness of this dynamic. She feels always justified in her behavior even when it hurts other people, and she rejects even the most basic consequences that anyone would have to deal with. It's not totally unrealistic -- given how privileged her background is and how many people in her life have been repeatedly willing to overlook her bad behavior because of her perceived specialness, it's not super surprising. But it is grating AF and makes the reboot miniseries really hard to watch because there is virtually no growth in her character.

[Anonymous]

I am black and I watched it several years ago. I sometimes watch now if I'm bored. It's a good wholesome show for the most part. There isn't any diversity, but it's set in a non-diverse place anyway. Usually when I watch old shows I am thinking of it in that time setting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not woke enough today

+100

If you enjoy diversity, it is not the show for you

Most popular shows today aren’t diverse. These may not be your favorite shows. Schitt’s Creek is lily white.

[Anonymous]

It was on when I was in high school and college but I never saw an episode until I was in my 20s (Rory would have been my age). I found it entertaining and comforting - you can fall asleep to it when you're stressed out about work/ family/ life. It's pretty silly if you try to analyze it (like why was the whole town obsessed with Rory? Was she that extraordinary?), but if you watch it to simply be entertained, it's great and very soothing. One thing that always fascinated me about the show is that they never really did holiday specials. You never saw them celebrate Christmas, Thanksgiving, Halloween. Scripted shows always used to hang their hats on those big holidays and write an entire episode centered around it. It seems very intentional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was on when I was in high school and college but I never saw an episode until I was in my 20s (Rory would have been my age). I found it entertaining and comforting - you can fall asleep to it when you're stressed out about work/ family/ life. It's pretty silly if you try to analyze it (like why was the whole town obsessed with Rory? Was she that extraordinary?), but if you watch it to simply be entertained, it's great and very soothing. One thing that always fascinated me about the show is that they never really did holiday specials. You never saw them celebrate Christmas, Thanksgiving, Halloween. Scripted shows always used to hang their hats on those big holidays and write an entire episode centered around it. It seems very intentional.

There were a few holiday and some "holiday adjacent" episodes. I enjoyed Deep-Fried Korean Thanksgiving in particular.
https://www.cheatsheet.com/entertainment/gilmore-girls-holiday-episodes-full-list.html/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was on when I was in high school and college but I never saw an episode until I was in my 20s (Rory would have been my age). I found it entertaining and comforting - you can fall asleep to it when you're stressed out about work/ family/ life. It's pretty silly if you try to analyze it (like why was the whole town obsessed with Rory? Was she that extraordinary?), but if you watch it to simply be entertained, it's great and very soothing. One thing that always fascinated me about the show is that they never really did holiday specials. You never saw them celebrate Christmas, Thanksgiving, Halloween. Scripted shows always used to hang their hats on those big holidays and write an entire episode centered around it. It seems very intentional.

I think it's because it was always a holiday in stars hollow. They're always arranging hay bales and pumpkins or hanging Christmas lights. I think they intended it to be in fall/winter eternally to evoke a cozy atmosphere.