What is the future of heterosexual dating when the number of men attending college continues to drop

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Anonymous wrote:Judging from other threads, like today, many of the women in college won't be heterosexual. So maybe it will all balance out.

Agreed most women will identify as gay and everything will be fine.

Are people really so oblivious to how being gay works that they think this is it? This is some 1990's "choose to be gay" BS.

DP. Many, many gay people have chosen to be in hetero relationships because it was more socially acceptable. Do you think that could not happen in reverse? If the alternative is going through life with a partner?

I actually don't think that will happen. I think it's more likely straight women with degrees will marry men without college degrees. Are you straight? If so, would you want to marry another woman and have sex with her even though you're not aroused by her or turned on by her body?

Yes, I am straight and no, I would not want to marry a woman. But the social norms that my teenage daughter is growing up with are completely different than what I experienced, and they appear to be willing to get creative in order to have companionship.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a biglaw partner so I have all the fancy education. Many of my clients have no formal education (think car dealership owners, general contractors, etc.). They make a ton more than me, they are obviously very smart to have this level of success. And they have no problem dating.

I get that all else being equal women want the education as well but also, all else being equal, women will marry the rich man who owns 15 car dealerships over the poor man with a degree in sociology making 50k a year.

The most accurate post so far. Thank you.

yeah big law partners regularly work with 7-11 managers. Obviously they work with people who have money to pay them. Not to mention that they are probably much older and the jobs they have now millennials and Gen Z need a college degree to even start in the field.

7-11 workers can’t pay the fees to lawyers so I’d disagree with you.

You are missing the point. Someone mentioned that they were big law and saw lots of people who didn't have degrees with more money than him. It's a selected group of people who can afford big law. Not an accurate representation of society.

There is a huge difference between an uneducated college guy with his own business and a 7-11 worker

Exactly. His comparison of non-college educated people making more money than big law was a very select group of people. Not a full representation of them in America.

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Anonymous wrote:1. Only 30% graduated from college at the height so this still only affects a small number.

2. not everybody needs to or want to get married, that’s new so this may take care of itself.

3. If men can step it up at home women can work men can stay home.

4. Many women will just have kids without men which is what they ever wanted in the 1st place.

Many American men are now going overseas to find wives and girlfriends. My first wife was from another country, and my next wife will also be from overseas. I've found that educated, attractive, feminine women live in other countries, and they are much less entitled, and have better morals than American women.

About me: PhD, 6'4", work out daily, good income.

2nd wife? seems to not have worked out that great.

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird that while female's role in America is expanding to not only include work at home but also in the workplace and military and even blue collar jobs, the role of men is becoming limiting. Now being a sociologist is too feminine of a career, etc.

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are putting themselves into a very small box.

Who is they? Do you put them in a very small box?

No men do. Many talk shows and red pill men talking about how men don't want to go into certain fields anymore because of the stigma that the work is too feminine.

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Anonymous wrote:Judging from other threads, like today, many of the women in college won't be heterosexual. So maybe it will all balance out.

Agreed most women will identify as gay and everything will be fine.

Are people really so oblivious to how being gay works that they think this is it? This is some 1990's "choose to be gay" BS.

DP. Many, many gay people have chosen to be in hetero relationships because it was more socially acceptable. Do you think that could not happen in reverse? If the alternative is going through life with a partner?

I actually don't think that will happen. I think it's more likely straight women with degrees will marry men without college degrees. Are you straight? If so, would you want to marry another woman and have sex with her even though you're not aroused by her or turned on by her body?

People marry people for plenty of reasons besides sex. Even in straight marriages both parties aren’t always attracted to one another. Check out the boards here on DCUM. shrug

So you would marry another woman you're not attracted to?

DP. I’m guessing we’re all on the older side here with outdated notions of what marriage is. Here’s an article from the NYT about platonic marriages between best friends.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/01/fashion/weddings/from-best-friends-to-platonic-spouses.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

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Anonymous wrote:Judging from other threads, like today, many of the women in college won't be heterosexual. So maybe it will all balance out.

Agreed most women will identify as gay and everything will be fine.

Are people really so oblivious to how being gay works that they think this is it? This is some 1990's "choose to be gay" BS.

DP. Many, many gay people have chosen to be in hetero relationships because it was more socially acceptable. Do you think that could not happen in reverse? If the alternative is going through life with a partner?

I actually don't think that will happen. I think it's more likely straight women with degrees will marry men without college degrees. Are you straight? If so, would you want to marry another woman and have sex with her even though you're not aroused by her or turned on by her body?

People marry people for plenty of reasons besides sex. Even in straight marriages both parties aren’t always attracted to one another. Check out the boards here on DCUM. shrug

So you would marry another woman you're not attracted to?

DP. I’m guessing we’re all on the older side here with outdated notions of what marriage is. Here’s an article from the NYT about platonic marriages between best friends.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/01/fashion/weddings/from-best-friends-to-platonic-spouses.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

I don't have a membership to that. You'll have to sum it up. Do the women identify as asexual? If so, then that makes sense. One can have love and intimacy without sex but asexuality is fairly uncommon, even in the LGBTQIA+ community.

Also I've noted that you haven't actually replied to me. Would you do this? Marry another woman? Have sex with another woman? Marry another woman and not have sex with her?

And yes, I'm a Gen Xer myself but no, I don't have an outdated idea of what marriage is. I'm not a heterosexual and think people deserve to marry people and be in fulfilling relationships. If a non-sexual marriage between two women fulfills them then more power to them.

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Anonymous wrote:Judging from other threads, like today, many of the women in college won't be heterosexual. So maybe it will all balance out.

Agreed most women will identify as gay and everything will be fine.

Are people really so oblivious to how being gay works that they think this is it? This is some 1990's "choose to be gay" BS.

DP. Many, many gay people have chosen to be in hetero relationships because it was more socially acceptable. Do you think that could not happen in reverse? If the alternative is going through life with a partner?

I actually don't think that will happen. I think it's more likely straight women with degrees will marry men without college degrees. Are you straight? If so, would you want to marry another woman and have sex with her even though you're not aroused by her or turned on by her body?

People marry people for plenty of reasons besides sex. Even in straight marriages both parties aren’t always attracted to one another. Check out the boards here on DCUM. shrug

So you would marry another woman you're not attracted to?

DP. I’m guessing we’re all on the older side here with outdated notions of what marriage is. Here’s an article from the NYT about platonic marriages between best friends.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/01/fashion/weddings/from-best-friends-to-platonic-spouses.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

I don't have a membership to that. You'll have to sum it up. Do the women identify as asexual? If so, then that makes sense. One can have love and intimacy without sex but asexuality is fairly uncommon, even in the LGBTQIA+ community.

Also I've noted that you haven't actually replied to me. Would you do this? Marry another woman? Have sex with another woman? Marry another woman and not have sex with her?

And yes, I'm a Gen Xer myself but no, I don't have an outdated idea of what marriage is. I'm not a heterosexual and think people deserve to marry people and be in fulfilling relationships. If a non-sexual marriage between two women fulfills them then more power to them.

I did reply to you. I said no, I would not, but young people—who we’re presumably talking about in this thread—are growing up with very different circumstances and notions of social acceptability.

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Anonymous wrote:Judging from other threads, like today, many of the women in college won't be heterosexual. So maybe it will all balance out.

Agreed most women will identify as gay and everything will be fine.

Are people really so oblivious to how being gay works that they think this is it? This is some 1990's "choose to be gay" BS.

DP. Many, many gay people have chosen to be in hetero relationships because it was more socially acceptable. Do you think that could not happen in reverse? If the alternative is going through life with a partner?

I actually don't think that will happen. I think it's more likely straight women with degrees will marry men without college degrees. Are you straight? If so, would you want to marry another woman and have sex with her even though you're not aroused by her or turned on by her body?

People marry people for plenty of reasons besides sex. Even in straight marriages both parties aren’t always attracted to one another. Check out the boards here on DCUM. shrug

So you would marry another woman you're not attracted to?

DP. I’m guessing we’re all on the older side here with outdated notions of what marriage is. Here’s an article from the NYT about platonic marriages between best friends.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/01/fashion/weddings/from-best-friends-to-platonic-spouses.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

I don't have a membership to that. You'll have to sum it up. Do the women identify as asexual? If so, then that makes sense. One can have love and intimacy without sex but asexuality is fairly uncommon, even in the LGBTQIA+ community.

Also I've noted that you haven't actually replied to me. Would you do this? Marry another woman? Have sex with another woman? Marry another woman and not have sex with her?

And yes, I'm a Gen Xer myself but no, I don't have an outdated idea of what marriage is. I'm not a heterosexual and think people deserve to marry people and be in fulfilling relationships. If a non-sexual marriage between two women fulfills them then more power to them.

I did reply to you. I said no, I would not, but young people—who we’re presumably talking about in this thread—are growing up with very different circumstances and notions of social acceptability.

I missed that part, sorry about that.

I just think that straight people will get together. You can have a crowd of people and throw a few rocks and every time you'll hit a straight person. Identifying as LGBT might be more common but that rise is largely in bisexuality. And if someone wants to have kids, they'll likely just marry the opposite sex to make it easier. Plus life as a straight couple is, in general, much easier.

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Anonymous wrote:College dating is not a big thing anymore. It’s all situationships now. No one thinks they’re finding their spouse in college and the ones who do want to wait years after college to experience adult life before they get engaged.

Because there is too much promiscuity. That's the reason.

Watch the documentary, ‘liberated’ if you want to know what your college kid is up too. New flash- respecting women wasn’t part of following your spring breakers around. Your girls are hooking with guys they’ve known 20 minutes.

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Educated women will have children via sperm donor or remain childless, will build communities around their friends and pets, find s-xual relief with toys, and will occasionally meet up with a man for sex and regret it.

Or at least that’s how it’s been with my peer group for the last decade or so.

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Anonymous wrote:College dating is not a big thing anymore. It’s all situationships now. No one thinks they’re finding their spouse in college and the ones who do want to wait years after college to experience adult life before they get engaged.

Because there is too much promiscuity. That's the reason.

Watch the documentary, ‘liberated’ if you want to know what your college kid is up too. New flash- respecting women wasn’t part of following your spring breakers around. Your girls are hooking with guys they’ve known 20 minutes.

I don’t know any girls over the age of 18.

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Anonymous wrote:College dating is not a big thing anymore. It’s all situationships now. No one thinks they’re finding their spouse in college and the ones who do want to wait years after college to experience adult life before they get engaged.

Because there is too much promiscuity. That's the reason.

Watch the documentary, ‘liberated’ if you want to know what your college kid is up too. New flash- respecting women wasn’t part of following your spring breakers around. Your guys are hooking with girls they’ve known 20 minutes.

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Anonymous wrote:It would depend on the college. Some colleges intentionally balance. Their goal is to have an about equal male equal female ratio.

However, it is my understanding that the university of California schools are gender blind when it comes to admissions.

Name a broad university (not just an engineering school) with a balance. They list the ratios on their websites so this is not secret information. I just didn't find any with a 50-50 balance in my brief search.

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Anonymous wrote:Judging from other threads, like today, many of the women in college won't be heterosexual. So maybe it will all balance out.

Agreed most women will identify as gay and everything will be fine.

Are people really so oblivious to how being gay works that they think this is it? This is some 1990's "choose to be gay" BS.

DP. Many, many gay people have chosen to be in hetero relationships because it was more socially acceptable. Do you think that could not happen in reverse? If the alternative is going through life with a partner?

I actually don't think that will happen. I think it's more likely straight women with degrees will marry men without college degrees. Are you straight? If so, would you want to marry another woman and have sex with her even though you're not aroused by her or turned on by her body?

People marry people for plenty of reasons besides sex. Even in straight marriages both parties aren’t always attracted to one another. Check out the boards here on DCUM. shrug

So you would marry another woman you're not attracted to?

DP. I’m guessing we’re all on the older side here with outdated notions of what marriage is. Here’s an article from the NYT about platonic marriages between best friends.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/01/fashion/weddings/from-best-friends-to-platonic-spouses.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

I don't have a membership to that. You'll have to sum it up. Do the women identify as asexual? If so, then that makes sense. One can have love and intimacy without sex but asexuality is fairly uncommon, even in the LGBTQIA+ community.

Also I've noted that you haven't actually replied to me. Would you do this? Marry another woman? Have sex with another woman? Marry another woman and not have sex with her?

And yes, I'm a Gen Xer myself but no, I don't have an outdated idea of what marriage is. I'm not a heterosexual and think people deserve to marry people and be in fulfilling relationships. If a non-sexual marriage between two women fulfills them then more power to them.

I did reply to you. I said no, I would not, but young people—who we’re presumably talking about in this thread—are growing up with very different circumstances and notions of social acceptability.

By the way, there's actually a term for the couple in the picture. Again with the understanding I don't have the ability to read the article. it's a homoromantic asexual couple. A lot more common are heteroromantic and homoromantic bisexuals but asexuals come in every flavor as well. They're just incredibly uncommon.

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Anonymous wrote:College dating is not a big thing anymore. It’s all situationships now. No one thinks they’re finding their spouse in college and the ones who do want to wait years after college to experience adult life before they get engaged.

Because there is too much promiscuity. That's the reason.

Watch the documentary, ‘liberated’ if you want to know what your college kid is up too. New flash- respecting women wasn’t part of following your spring breakers around. Your girls are hooking with guys they’ve known 20 minutes.

I don’t know any girls over the age of 18.

You’re so clever.