feeling guilty that husband left church because of me

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

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Anonymous wrote:Catholic husband hasn't been to mass since before we married, though we attend regularly elsewhere and would be considered devout/observant by most. The biggest reason is the protection of pedophiles from the church, but also because I'm not Catholic. I've been feeling increasingly guilty about this, since I know they prefer Catholics not marry Protestants because we tend to do exactly what happened - drag them away. I know he's a big boy and can make his own decisions, but let's be honest, he'd probably still be attending mass if it weren't for me. Any advice on getting over it?

Everything seems fine. So what if he goes to a different christian church for mass.

Is he bringing this up? Doesn’t sound like it.

Why are you bringing this up?

Guilt and anxiety.

But over WHAT exactly? This post makes no sense.

I guess it's like I said - I'm pretty devout, and being told I'm standing in the way of my spouse's salvation by leading him away is a tough pill to swallow. That's the honest truth.

This doesn’t make sense. If you aren’t Catholic, you don’t believe that’s true, and his salvation in your eyes would be that he has accepted Jesus, not whether he attends a weekly Catholic mass. So what do you believe?

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks!

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Anonymous wrote:Catholic husband hasn't been to mass since before we married, though we attend regularly elsewhere and would be considered devout/observant by most. The biggest reason is the protection of pedophiles from the church, but also because I'm not Catholic. I've been feeling increasingly guilty about this, since I know they prefer Catholics not marry Protestants because we tend to do exactly what happened - drag them away. I know he's a big boy and can make his own decisions, but let's be honest, he'd probably still be attending mass if it weren't for me. Any advice on getting over it?

Everything seems fine. So what if he goes to a different christian church for mass.

Is he bringing this up? Doesn’t sound like it.

Why are you bringing this up?

Guilt and anxiety.

But over WHAT exactly? This post makes no sense.

I guess it's like I said - I'm pretty devout, and being told I'm standing in the way of my spouse's salvation by leading him away is a tough pill to swallow. That's the honest truth.

This doesn’t make sense. If you aren’t Catholic, you don’t believe that’s true, and his salvation in your eyes would be that he has accepted Jesus, not whether he attends a weekly Catholic mass. So what do you believe?

No, I don't believe it. But since I fought scrupulosity as a child, I also don't like being told it.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks!

Ms. Saint who called me obtuse, you're a hypocrite.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks!

DP.
I feel it is worth pointing out that this “flavor of Christianity” didn’t call you that. Instead, one very bad representative of it did.
I had a teacher call me a b**** once. My school didn’t call me that.

Also, did he actually say that? And if so, I certainly hope you reported that to the Archdiocese.

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Anonymous wrote:Consider that you've actually saved him and his future children from being in a religion that has ruined the lives of many children and many women.

You were just the push / excuse he needed to get out.

Great post.

+10000000000000000

She's still protestant so no

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks!

DP.
I feel it is worth pointing out that this “flavor of Christianity” didn’t call you that. Instead, one very bad representative of it did.
I had a teacher call me a b**** once. My school didn’t call me that.

Also, did he actually say that? And if so, I certainly hope you reported that to the Archdiocese.

I'm sure it never happened. OP is a troll who can't keep her story straight.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks!

DP.
I feel it is worth pointing out that this “flavor of Christianity” didn’t call you that. Instead, one very bad representative of it did.
I had a teacher call me a b**** once. My school didn’t call me that.

Also, did he actually say that? And if so, I certainly hope you reported that to the Archdiocese.

I'm sure it never happened. OP is a troll who can't keep her story straight.

It nEvEr hApPeNeD To mE, sO ThE PoStEr mUsT Be a tRoLl.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks!

Ms. Saint who called me obtuse, you're a hypocrite.

Sorry, but no. I may be a lot of things, but I'm consistent and do my best.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks!

DP.
I feel it is worth pointing out that this “flavor of Christianity” didn’t call you that. Instead, one very bad representative of it did.
I had a teacher call me a b**** once. My school didn’t call me that.

Also, did he actually say that? And if so, I certainly hope you reported that to the Archdiocese.

Yes, during talks for a convalidation ceremony. And of course I didn't report him! I'm not Catholic and would have no idea how to do that. And since according to the Catholic Church, DH is living in, I'm not sure it's one very bad representative. They literally teach we're unmarried and fornicating.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks!

DP.
I feel it is worth pointing out that this “flavor of Christianity” didn’t call you that. Instead, one very bad representative of it did.
I had a teacher call me a b**** once. My school didn’t call me that.

Also, did he actually say that? And if so, I certainly hope you reported that to the Archdiocese.

I'm sure it never happened. OP is a troll who can't keep her story straight.

I don’t think OP is a troll. I suspect OP harbors a lot of anger regarding the Eucharist and the fact it isn’t extended to non-Catholics. As somebody who joined the Catholic Church as an adult, I can empathize if that is the case. I can also see how that could lead to arguments in a marriage, and ultimately a husband just dropping it to keep the peace.

Or this is all just my speculation. Little to go on here.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks!

Ms. Saint who called me obtuse, you're a hypocrite.

Sorry, but no. I may be a lot of things, but I'm consistent and do my best.

You're rude and full of it. If what you say happened above you would have put that in the OP. Troll better.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine. Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?

It's an hour out of your day. Most churches have multiple services. You wouldn't be missing anything.

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks!

DP.
I feel it is worth pointing out that this “flavor of Christianity” didn’t call you that. Instead, one very bad representative of it did.
I had a teacher call me a b**** once. My school didn’t call me that.

Also, did he actually say that? And if so, I certainly hope you reported that to the Archdiocese.

Yes, during talks for a convalidation ceremony. And of course I didn't report him! I'm not Catholic and would have no idea how to do that. And since according to the Catholic Church, DH is living in, I'm not sure it's one very bad representative. They literally teach we're unmarried and fornicating.

That’s one parish. Try another. That would NOT happen where my family goes. I posted above that my husband isn’t Catholic. He is welcomed warmly into the community and nobody, including the priest during private conversations with us, has ever made ANY negative comments about our marriage.