My teen wants a $80+ hoodie

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Mine is only in 6th but they live in the hoodies. I would get it for Christmas. Do they like certain teams or the local ones — Nats, Caps? You can often get good deals on these. I buy most of my kid’s stuff on sales — Under Armour, even Athleta — everything goes on sale.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless there is extreme financial hardship, buying all clothes from TJMaxx or Costco isn't really cool. I feel for your kid.
Buy them the $80 hoodie - you've saved enough.

I'm on the other end here with a box from Vineyard Vines or LuluLemon coming every 10 days or so but my son likes to pick out clothes and I like him to look nice. He definitely has a few hand me downs that were nice and some stuff from Marshalls. Definitely lots of sporty stuff that is almost always on sale.

You seem to be skimping on time here - have your child (or you) look for sales and buy them some clothes they like.

It's rare I don't buy stuff on sale for any of us.

These kids wear hoodies as jackets. My son wears them all the time so like others are saying, it might be word a lot. They are expensive. I'd try to find two hoodies that are about $50 instead so they have more variety but I think you need to loosen up here (if your budget allows)

barf

You sound like you need to be part of the "cool" crowd yourself.

+1

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I would get it for them for their birthday or for Christmas OP.

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Ugh. I have the opposite problem. I would be so glad if my 18 yr old college freshman would buy a few (or more) high end or expensive clothes/shoes/gear. We are still very much buying from Costco, Kohls, Old Navy, Macys and Amazon. We gave him 3K for a new wardrobe for college and he has used only $24 out of it. Anyways, I am checking out the brands mentioned her so that I can actually buy him something nice for Christmas.

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Anonymous wrote:Can't anyone name and shame the $80 hoodie? Looking for Christmas present ideas here.

My teen and literally all her friends wear the lululemon scuba half zip hoodie. $118

FWIW, I wanted to buy my teen some of the luluemon stuff, and she gave a hard no. Apparently at her school, that was the uniform for the mean girl clique and she didn't want to look like she was trying to break into that. Teens are hard because they live in a world that we don't know the cultural norms for -- and it's not necessarily the same from school to school. She is now in HS and won't drive our car to school because she thinks it looks too flashy and she'll look like an a-hole if she drives it.

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Anonymous wrote:My 10 year old wants a$220 hoodie. She started hanging out with a couple of new girls and their parents apparently have no problem buying Aviator Nation hoodies. She did tell me she’d be ok with getting a used one from poshmark. Not going to happen.

But, I would get a teen a $70 one.

I had to look this up and ok, why are men wearing pants with the hoodie and women bikinis? WTAF? I AM OLD.

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Anonymous wrote:Can't anyone name and shame the $80 hoodie? Looking for Christmas present ideas here.

My teen and literally all her friends wear the lululemon scuba half zip hoodie. $118

FWIW, I wanted to buy my teen some of the luluemon stuff, and she gave a hard no. Apparently at her school, that was the uniform for the mean girl clique and she didn't want to look like she was trying to break into that. Teens are hard because they live in a world that we don't know the cultural norms for -- and it's not necessarily the same from school to school. She is now in HS and won't drive our car to school because she thinks it looks too flashy and she'll look like an a-hole if she drives it.

This is so true. Funny about the driving. I do think that’s unique!

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Anonymous wrote:Unless there is extreme financial hardship, buying all clothes from TJMaxx or Costco isn't really cool. I feel for your kid.
Buy them the $80 hoodie - you've saved enough.

I'm on the other end here with a box from Vineyard Vines or LuluLemon coming every 10 days or so but my son likes to pick out clothes and I like him to look nice. He definitely has a few hand me downs that were nice and some stuff from Marshalls. Definitely lots of sporty stuff that is almost always on sale.

You seem to be skimping on time here - have your child (or you) look for sales and buy them some clothes they like.

It's rare I don't buy stuff on sale for any of us.

These kids wear hoodies as jackets. My son wears them all the time so like others are saying, it might be word a lot. They are expensive. I'd try to find two hoodies that are about $50 instead so they have more variety but I think you need to loosen up here (if your budget allows)

How much do you spend on clothing per month? (For your kid). Just curious

She probably wants to avoid the mass derision. No one wants to admit it publicly, but there are a lot of expensively dressed high school and college students. Girls often have expensive highlights, gel manicures, spray tans, designer purses etc., Guys are wearing pricey athletic gear and sneakers. You might not realize they are expensive because so much of it is athleisure.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless there is extreme financial hardship, buying all clothes from TJMaxx or Costco isn't really cool. I feel for your kid.
Buy them the $80 hoodie - you've saved enough.

I'm on the other end here with a box from Vineyard Vines or LuluLemon coming every 10 days or so but my son likes to pick out clothes and I like him to look nice. He definitely has a few hand me downs that were nice and some stuff from Marshalls. Definitely lots of sporty stuff that is almost always on sale.

You seem to be skimping on time here - have your child (or you) look for sales and buy them some clothes they like.

It's rare I don't buy stuff on sale for any of us.

These kids wear hoodies as jackets. My son wears them all the time so like others are saying, it might be word a lot. They are expensive. I'd try to find two hoodies that are about $50 instead so they have more variety but I think you need to loosen up here (if your budget allows)

How much do you spend on clothing per month? (For your kid). Just curious

She probably wants to avoid the mass derision. No one wants to admit it publicly, but there are a lot of expensively dressed high school and college students. Girls often have expensive highlights, gel manicures, spray tans, designer purses etc., Guys are wearing pricey athletic gear and sneakers. You might not realize they are expensive because so much of it is athleisure.

You can do some, not all, of this. My tween DD is a swimmer and she loves her gel manicured tips. She earns them with good grades, and it’s a way that she feels confident and they are always a topic of conversation at her meets. She doesn’t get expensive highlights, but we splurge on athleisure because she lives in it. I’d rather drop extra money on athleisure than crop tops and designer low rider jeans.

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Anonymous wrote:May be I should adjust my view on buying clothes- most of our regular day clothes are from stores like TJmax or Costco.

But what I am not happy to hear is “Does it matter?!” When I ask DC what’s you like the shirt most, since it’s a $80+ hoodie.

Is it just a phase?

My DS didn't care until 10th grade. Glad it took that long. We bought two pairs of Nike shoes at $120,each, North face jackets. It's what he wears. $80 for a Hoodie sounds okay. I try to buy on sale a Nordstrom or Nordstrom Rack when possible.

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Anonymous wrote:Make it a Christmas present. Or birthday if that comes first. I wouldn’t just buy it.

+1 My teen wanted a $180 shoes last xmas. He is still growing. I bought him a $80 cheaper version. He complained about it, nicely.

I told him he can buy himself such expensive shoes that he will probably outgrow in a year, and see how he feels about wasting that much money on something he can't keep for more than a year.

He shut up after that.

I told him I don't mind paying for that for his bday/xmas if that's what he wants, but only after he's stopped growing.

That’s so lame. He won’t stop growing until he’s in college probably.

are you 15?

Even if he grows to college, his feet will stop way before then.

Nothing lame about not wasting money. You sound very immature.

No I’m not 15, but I think it’s lame that you won’t get him the shoes he wants that you can obviously afford just because he’s still growing. Daily wear shoes don’t last much longer than a year anyway.

If the shoes doesn't last long that, why on earth would you pay $180 for it. Some consumers are seriously stupid.

That’s fine, but why would it matter then if they’ve stopped growing or not? The inconsistency is not logical and indicates control issues.

The logic is sound. You're just a name brand fool.

Spending $180 on shoes that the kid will wear for 1 yr is dumb - doesn't matter if the shoes only lasts a year, or that they outgrow it within a year. The point is that they would wear it for only a year. It's stupid.

When they stop growing, sure, spend $180 on quality, name brand shoes since they can wear it for many years.

Yes, I like to control my money. That's how I'm able to save for retirement and to pay for DCs college, without a loan that I expect taxpayers to pay for.

Ugh. You’re one of THOSE.

I know I’m talking to a wall here, because your ilk deals in Faux Righteous Indignation and not facts, but here, let me help you:
* It’s only $10k, which is a laughable pittance of the average student loan debt.
*Your precious tax dollars aren’t paying for jack.

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Is your DC a DS? If so, tween and (especially) teen boys largely don’t want to be caught dead in winter jackets. A quality hoodie is their winter outerwear uniform. Would you balk at $80 for a winter coat? If not, buy the hoodie. If you’re concerned, be clear with him that this is a special purchase for him to wear as outerwear all winter, and not the start of a new pricy designer wardrobe.

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Anonymous wrote:Make it a Christmas present. Or birthday if that comes first. I wouldn’t just buy it.

+1 My teen wanted a $180 shoes last xmas. He is still growing. I bought him a $80 cheaper version. He complained about it, nicely.

I told him he can buy himself such expensive shoes that he will probably outgrow in a year, and see how he feels about wasting that much money on something he can't keep for more than a year.

He shut up after that.

I told him I don't mind paying for that for his bday/xmas if that's what he wants, but only after he's stopped growing.

That’s so lame. He won’t stop growing until he’s in college probably.

are you 15?

Even if he grows to college, his feet will stop way before then.

Nothing lame about not wasting money. You sound very immature.

No I’m not 15, but I think it’s lame that you won’t get him the shoes he wants that you can obviously afford just because he’s still growing. Daily wear shoes don’t last much longer than a year anyway.

If the shoes doesn't last long that, why on earth would you pay $180 for it. Some consumers are seriously stupid.

That’s fine, but why would it matter then if they’ve stopped growing or not? The inconsistency is not logical and indicates control issues.

The logic is sound. You're just a name brand fool.

Spending $180 on shoes that the kid will wear for 1 yr is dumb - doesn't matter if the shoes only lasts a year, or that they outgrow it within a year. The point is that they would wear it for only a year. It's stupid.

When they stop growing, sure, spend $180 on quality, name brand shoes since they can wear it for many years.

Yes, I like to control my money. That's how I'm able to save for retirement and to pay for DCs college, without a loan that I expect taxpayers to pay for.

Ugh. You’re one of THOSE.

I know I’m talking to a wall here, because your ilk deals in Faux Righteous Indignation and not facts, but here, let me help you:
* It’s only $10k, which is a laughable pittance of the average student loan debt.
*Your precious tax dollars aren’t paying for jack.

DP, but I’m curious. Did you know that $10k x the number of borrowers = about $ 400 BILLION? Who DO you think is paying off that $400 billion if not taxpayers? Santa Clause?

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Anonymous wrote:Not at all shocking. My kid just started 9th grade at a private school and before he started we upgraded wardrobe, with a lot of the pieces (hoodies, quarter zips, pants) being in the $100-$200 range. I thought we were being pretty ridiculous, but, after seeing the other kids, this is the norm. Even kids who I know don’t have piles of money.

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then I'm thankful we chose not to put DC in private.

I've taught my kids that clothes are not worth that much. You are buying a name brand and status. That's it. Horrible way to live.

Yes, it’s so horrible that he looks nice. I feel so gutted.

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In MS I began buying my now 15 y/o kid the occasional $80ish hoodie. He has no issue mixing it up with no-label hoodies from Target or Gap (when they have 40% off sales) or other lower cost stores.

I'm far from snooty about clothes, but I don't do cheap shoes. I have plantar fasciitis which morphed into chronic lower back pain and good shoes are essential to health IMO. I cap shoe cost for teen son at around $140-ish (don't always spend that much), but he gets a lot of wear out of them, i.e., doesn't have a closet full of shoes and doesn't outgrow them so quickly these days.

There is a $90 hoodie he wants at the moment and we may give it to him for Christmas. Had never heard of it (not an athletic one), but it must be a thing now.