My teen wants a $80+ hoodie

[Anonymous]

Can't anyone name and shame the $80 hoodie? Looking for Christmas present ideas here.

[Anonymous]

This really hits home for me. As a child my parents sent me to one of the schools often discussed on this board but would never buy me new clothes. Definitely had a lot of clothes from costco. They had the means financially to easily buy clothes but it wasn't what they personally valued so they didn't do it. It sounds so trivial but it was very difficult for me to never have the right clothes. I would have understood and accepted much easier if money was tight but it was free flowing in many other ways. I ended up shoplifting through my late teens to have the right outfits for after school. Thats on me but I am much more aware of being accepting to my own children's personal wants (within reason and budget of course).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't anyone name and shame the $80 hoodie? Looking for Christmas present ideas here.

My teen and literally all her friends wear the lululemon scuba half zip hoodie. $118

[Anonymous]

Not at all shocking. My kid just started 9th grade at a private school and before he started we upgraded wardrobe, with a lot of the pieces (hoodies, quarter zips, pants) being in the $100-$200 range. I thought we were being pretty ridiculous, but, after seeing the other kids, this is the norm. Even kids who I know don’t have piles of money.

[Anonymous]

Some insecure mean teens will bond with others over trashing kids that don't wear whatever is the latest greatest thing. It's gross but that is teen world.

I would get a few key items for DC but work on installing coping skills to resist such nonsense. The clothing companies are obviously behind all this "trend" setting so make sure your kid understands that and is not just an easy mark for Nike or Lululemon and the rest.

[Anonymous]

The PP who made a point about the warm hoodies basically replacing jackets is spot on. I can't remember a single day when my HS student wore a coat to school last year.

[Anonymous]

Unless there is extreme financial hardship, buying all clothes from TJMaxx or Costco isn't really cool. I feel for your kid.
Buy them the $80 hoodie - you've saved enough.

I'm on the other end here with a box from Vineyard Vines or LuluLemon coming every 10 days or so but my son likes to pick out clothes and I like him to look nice. He definitely has a few hand me downs that were nice and some stuff from Marshalls. Definitely lots of sporty stuff that is almost always on sale.

You seem to be skimping on time here - have your child (or you) look for sales and buy them some clothes they like.

It's rare I don't buy stuff on sale for any of us.

These kids wear hoodies as jackets. My son wears them all the time so like others are saying, it might be word a lot. They are expensive. I'd try to find two hoodies that are about $50 instead so they have more variety but I think you need to loosen up here (if your budget allows)

[Anonymous]

Price of clothing has skyrocketed.
$80 doesn’t sound as expensive as it once did. I do think this is going to be a very expensive Christmas! I will likely cut down on the number of gifts due to the price of items.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless there is extreme financial hardship, buying all clothes from TJMaxx or Costco isn't really cool. I feel for your kid.
Buy them the $80 hoodie - you've saved enough.

I'm on the other end here with a box from Vineyard Vines or LuluLemon coming every 10 days or so but my son likes to pick out clothes and I like him to look nice. He definitely has a few hand me downs that were nice and some stuff from Marshalls. Definitely lots of sporty stuff that is almost always on sale.

You seem to be skimping on time here - have your child (or you) look for sales and buy them some clothes they like.

It's rare I don't buy stuff on sale for any of us.

These kids wear hoodies as jackets. My son wears them all the time so like others are saying, it might be word a lot. They are expensive. I'd try to find two hoodies that are about $50 instead so they have more variety but I think you need to loosen up here (if your budget allows)

How much do you spend on clothing per month? (For your kid). Just curious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless there is extreme financial hardship, buying all clothes from TJMaxx or Costco isn't really cool. I feel for your kid.
Buy them the $80 hoodie - you've saved enough.

I'm on the other end here with a box from Vineyard Vines or LuluLemon coming every 10 days or so but my son likes to pick out clothes and I like him to look nice. He definitely has a few hand me downs that were nice and some stuff from Marshalls. Definitely lots of sporty stuff that is almost always on sale.

You seem to be skimping on time here - have your child (or you) look for sales and buy them some clothes they like.

It's rare I don't buy stuff on sale for any of us.

These kids wear hoodies as jackets. My son wears them all the time so like others are saying, it might be word a lot. They are expensive. I'd try to find two hoodies that are about $50 instead so they have more variety but I think you need to loosen up here (if your budget allows)

Are you really saying your teen boy is on his own picking out clothing from Vineyard Vines? I’m sorry but I’m not buying this. My BS meter is ringing.

[Anonymous]

Do any of your teens work? That is how I paid for all of my clothing. Worked PT at a clothing store in the mall and got a 40% discount. The only other time I received optional fun/luxury clothing was a small back to school budget, Christmas and my birthday. As soon as I turned 14 I was working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do any of your teens work? That is how I paid for all of my clothing. Worked PT at a clothing store in the mall and got a 40% discount. The only other time I received optional fun/luxury clothing was a small back to school budget, Christmas and my birthday. As soon as I turned 14 I was working.

Do you have a teenager working, managing two sports, and a large course load at school? Currently in 2022? Or are you still living in 1995?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless there is extreme financial hardship, buying all clothes from TJMaxx or Costco isn't really cool. I feel for your kid.
Buy them the $80 hoodie - you've saved enough.

I'm on the other end here with a box from Vineyard Vines or LuluLemon coming every 10 days or so but my son likes to pick out clothes and I like him to look nice. He definitely has a few hand me downs that were nice and some stuff from Marshalls. Definitely lots of sporty stuff that is almost always on sale.

You seem to be skimping on time here - have your child (or you) look for sales and buy them some clothes they like.

It's rare I don't buy stuff on sale for any of us.

These kids wear hoodies as jackets. My son wears them all the time so like others are saying, it might be word a lot. They are expensive. I'd try to find two hoodies that are about $50 instead so they have more variety but I think you need to loosen up here (if your budget allows)

barf

You sound like you need to be part of the "cool" crowd yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not at all shocking. My kid just started 9th grade at a private school and before he started we upgraded wardrobe, with a lot of the pieces (hoodies, quarter zips, pants) being in the $100-$200 range. I thought we were being pretty ridiculous, but, after seeing the other kids, this is the norm. Even kids who I know don’t have piles of money.

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then I'm thankful we chose not to put DC in private.

I've taught my kids that clothes are not worth that much. You are buying a name brand and status. That's it. Horrible way to live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not at all shocking. My kid just started 9th grade at a private school and before he started we upgraded wardrobe, with a lot of the pieces (hoodies, quarter zips, pants) being in the $100-$200 range. I thought we were being pretty ridiculous, but, after seeing the other kids, this is the norm. Even kids who I know don’t have piles of money.

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then I'm thankful we chose not to put DC in private.

I've taught my kids that clothes are not worth that much. You are buying a name brand and status. That's it. Horrible way to live.

+1

My DD was voted best dressed at her HS - she shops exclusively at thrift stores and the most expensive thing she owns is a name brand purse she wanted that my sister got her. I sometimes wish she would want something from Nordstrom so we could shop together and I could resolve some of my childhood issues. My mom did not take me shopping really at all, a few times at an outlet store when I needed pants that weren't too short.