My teen wants a $80+ hoodie

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Anonymous wrote:Cost per wear OP.

Buying teen clothes at TJ Maxx is ok, but not so much Costco. Labels, brands, all of that are very important during the teenage years to many kids and allows them to fit in.

One $80 hoodie in this expensive area is fine.

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Anonymous wrote:Make it a Christmas present. Or birthday if that comes first. I wouldn’t just buy it.

+1 My teen wanted a $180 shoes last xmas. He is still growing. I bought him a $80 cheaper version. He complained about it, nicely.

I told him he can buy himself such expensive shoes that he will probably outgrow in a year, and see how he feels about wasting that much money on something he can't keep for more than a year.

He shut up after that.

I told him I don't mind paying for that for his bday/xmas if that's what he wants, but only after he's stopped growing.

That’s so lame. He won’t stop growing until he’s in college probably.

are you 15?

Even if he grows to college, his feet will stop way before then.

Nothing lame about not wasting money. You sound very immature.

No I’m not 15, but I think it’s lame that you won’t get him the shoes he wants that you can obviously afford just because he’s still growing. Daily wear shoes don’t last much longer than a year anyway.

If the shoes doesn't last long that, why on earth would you pay $180 for it. Some consumers are seriously stupid.

That’s fine, but why would it matter then if they’ve stopped growing or not? The inconsistency is not logical and indicates control issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Make it a Christmas present. Or birthday if that comes first. I wouldn’t just buy it.

+1 My teen wanted a $180 shoes last xmas. He is still growing. I bought him a $80 cheaper version. He complained about it, nicely.

I told him he can buy himself such expensive shoes that he will probably outgrow in a year, and see how he feels about wasting that much money on something he can't keep for more than a year.

He shut up after that.

I told him I don't mind paying for that for his bday/xmas if that's what he wants, but only after he's stopped growing.

That’s so lame. He won’t stop growing until he’s in college probably.

are you 15?

Even if he grows to college, his feet will stop way before then.

Nothing lame about not wasting money. You sound very immature.

No I’m not 15, but I think it’s lame that you won’t get him the shoes he wants that you can obviously afford just because he’s still growing. Daily wear shoes don’t last much longer than a year anyway.

Why feed into the craziness when you can buy good shoes for half that? Really though, it's the people who can barely afford it who are most concerned about having the "right" brand.

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Anonymous wrote:Costco and TJ max for teen clothes…yikes. Your poor teen is probably mortified. I think you need to work with the teen to develop a clothing budget/strategy. Take whatever you would normally spend on a season’s wardrobe for them and add an extra hundred or two if you can afford it, because it sounds like you have been spending very little ip until now. Tell that amount to your teen, and they can decide where to spend it - maybe some cheaper things for basics and spend more on what matters to them. They can do extra chores around the house or maybe babysit/yard work for neighbors for extra $$

80 seems reasonable for a hoodie. It’s something they will wear over and over and over.

Are you always this much of a snob?

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You seem quite frugal.

$80 is not that high for a hoodie for a teen who will most likely wear it a lot.

I don't understand your fascination with Costco and Target. There are plenty of stores for teens to buy trendy clothing with sales. Especially online. I feel bad for your kids.

If this is that big of a deal to you make them get a job and work for it. Nothing wrong with working for things.

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I would say yes to the request and point teen towards the landscape that needs attention.
In my world nothing is free.

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What's so special about it? My son has a few replica soccer jerseys that cost around $100 each. It's not the majority of his wardrobe, but for something special to a kid, the cost may be worth it.

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Once September rolls around, the response to any big request (and a lot of small ones) is "put it on your wish list". Then once December rolls around and grandparents and such are asking for suggestions, he can clean it up and have ideas ready to go.

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I spend more on my son's hoodies, because he wears them 7 out of 7 days. So good quality is apparent -- elbows aren't wearing through, there is not any pilling, etc. He only has 2 that he wears out of the house, and a few other older, stretched out, faded ones that he'll sleep or workout in.

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Obvious suggestion: Kids like second hand stores. We just helped out at a huge rummage sale at our church in a nice area. The donated clothes are very nice - particularly kids stuff that gets outgrown. Do some scouting in your area and see what you can find. As some have said - if he can find some inexpensive stuff that he likes then a splurge for a specific thing like shoes or a sweatshirt is no big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Cost per wear OP.

Buying teen clothes at TJ Maxx is ok, but not so much Costco. Labels, brands, all of that are very important during the teenage years to many kids and allows them to fit in.

One $80 hoodie in this expensive area is fine.

My middle school and HS kids wear hand-down clothes and they are perfectly fine and proud of it. They have no issues fit in with their friends. The HS kid is a starting quarterback at his school, and the MS is the top soccer player on a travel team. the HS kid went to homecoming with the hand-down suit from one of his cousins, and he told his date about the hand-down suit.

I am not going to pay $80 hoodie for a teenager but others might and it is perfectly ok. YMMV.

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Anonymous wrote:“Does it matter?” seems like a rude response. Geez, at least humor me with a reason. Based on the response alone I would say no. For a good kid and a rare ask, I’d do it.

That kind of jerky answer gets a fast no from me, but otherwise I’d consider it – my kid wears hoodies nonstop, so I agree with others that on a PPW basis, it’s not terrible.

If it’s a no for financial reasons, I’d offer to contribute part and kid can make up the rest.

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Anonymous wrote:Cost per wear OP.

Buying teen clothes at TJ Maxx is ok, but not so much Costco. Labels, brands, all of that are very important during the teenage years to many kids and allows them to fit in.

One $80 hoodie in this expensive area is fine.

My middle school and HS kids wear hand-down clothes and they are perfectly fine and proud of it. They have no issues fit in with their friends. The HS kid is a starting quarterback at his school, and the MS is the top soccer player on a travel team. the HS kid went to homecoming with the hand-down suit from one of his cousins, and he told his date about the hand-down suit.

I am not going to pay $80 hoodie for a teenager but others might and it is perfectly ok. YMMV.

Apparently, one must be the starting quarterback or the top soccer player on a travel team to wear second-hand attire. And for good measure, humble rag about it.

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Anonymous wrote:May be I should adjust my view on buying clothes- most of our regular day clothes are from stores like TJmax or Costco.

But what I am not happy to hear is “Does it matter?!” When I ask DC what’s you like the shirt most, since it’s a $80+ hoodie.

Is it just a phase?

I went to buy a college hoodie from my alma matter at my kid's request. It cost $80. I was shocked. So yeah I think some hoodies cost more and if the kid can wear if it for a few years why not?

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Halfsies or Christmas/bday present. That's it.

If I can find it on Postmark, that's fine too.