My teen wants a $80+ hoodie

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Anonymous wrote:Make it a Christmas present. Or birthday if that comes first. I wouldn’t just buy it.

+1 My teen wanted a $180 shoes last xmas. He is still growing. I bought him a $80 cheaper version. He complained about it, nicely.

I told him he can buy himself such expensive shoes that he will probably outgrow in a year, and see how he feels about wasting that much money on something he can't keep for more than a year.

He shut up after that.

I told him I don't mind paying for that for his bday/xmas if that's what he wants, but only after he's stopped growing.

That’s so lame. He won’t stop growing until he’s in college probably.

are you 15?

Even if he grows to college, his feet will stop way before then.

I’m an adult and my running shoes are $130-180 per pair. I go through 3-4 pairs a year. I think the PPs point was that if shoes are outgrown in a year, what does it matter if they would have also worn out in a year?

Is it just because they are “fashion” sneakers? If he ran cross country or track, wouldn’t you buy the shoes he needed for his sport? If he wears through 3 pairs of cheaper $65 shoes, does it make you feel better than if he took care of one pair of $180 shoes?

Nothing lame about not wasting money. You sound very immature.

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Anonymous wrote:Cost per wear OP.

Buying teen clothes at TJ Maxx is ok, but not so much Costco. Labels, brands, all of that are very important during the teenage years to many kids and allows them to fit in.

One $80 hoodie in this expensive area is fine.

Costco sells Adidas. There is nothing wrong with that. TJMaxx also sells name brand stuff.

And now we see why people are so materialistic and make fun of others who don't wear the "right" clothing.

Any yet your defending Costco clothes by showing us they have the “right” brands.

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This is what they cost

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Anonymous wrote:Cost per wear OP.

Buying teen clothes at TJ Maxx is ok, but not so much Costco. Labels, brands, all of that are very important during the teenage years to many kids and allows them to fit in.

One $80 hoodie in this expensive area is fine.

Costco sells Adidas. There is nothing wrong with that. TJMaxx also sells name brand stuff.

And now we see why people are so materialistic and make fun of others who don't wear the "right" clothing.

Any yet your defending Costco clothes by showing us they have the “right” brands.

? I'm just stating that Costco has brands like Adidas. You can go to a sporting good store and buy Adidas, or you can go to Costco and buy Adidas. shrug.

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Anonymous wrote:Make it a Christmas present. Or birthday if that comes first. I wouldn’t just buy it.

+1 My teen wanted a $180 shoes last xmas. He is still growing. I bought him a $80 cheaper version. He complained about it, nicely.

I told him he can buy himself such expensive shoes that he will probably outgrow in a year, and see how he feels about wasting that much money on something he can't keep for more than a year.

He shut up after that.

I told him I don't mind paying for that for his bday/xmas if that's what he wants, but only after he's stopped growing.

That’s so lame. He won’t stop growing until he’s in college probably.

are you 15?

Even if he grows to college, his feet will stop way before then.

Nothing lame about not wasting money. You sound very immature.

No I’m not 15, but I think it’s lame that you won’t get him the shoes he wants that you can obviously afford just because he’s still growing. Daily wear shoes don’t last much longer than a year anyway.

If the shoes doesn't last long that, why on earth would you pay $180 for it. Some consumers are seriously stupid.

That’s fine, but why would it matter then if they’ve stopped growing or not? The inconsistency is not logical and indicates control issues.

The logic is sound. You're just a name brand fool.

Spending $180 on shoes that the kid will wear for 1 yr is dumb - doesn't matter if the shoes only lasts a year, or that they outgrow it within a year. The point is that they would wear it for only a year. It's stupid.

When they stop growing, sure, spend $180 on quality, name brand shoes since they can wear it for many years.

Yes, I like to control my money. That's how I'm able to save for retirement and to pay for DCs college, without a loan that I expect taxpayers to pay for.

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DS is 14 and asked for a $130 sweatshirt. He is a good kid and never asks for anything, truly. So we are getting it. But if this is the start of him wanting a collection of fancy clothes, we will have to think about it.

I generally do struggle with this. I buy my clothes from high end shops. Should I buy my kids’ clothes from cheaper places just to prove a point? He didn’t care until now so we have not spent a lot. But if he does…? Feels wrong for someone who hasn’t worked for it to get luxury goods.

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Anonymous wrote:DS is 14 and asked for a $130 sweatshirt. He is a good kid and never asks for anything, truly. So we are getting it. But if this is the start of him wanting a collection of fancy clothes, we will have to think about it.

I generally do struggle with this. I buy my clothes from high end shops. Should I buy my kids’ clothes from cheaper places just to prove a point? He didn’t care until now so we have not spent a lot. But if he does…? Feels wrong for someone who hasn’t worked for it to get luxury goods.

I think it is fine to be them a couple pieces of higher end items they want if the value is there. Just like my own wardrobe, I splurge on luxury items and high quality items that are staples I will get a lot of wear out of and of a classic style. I would be ok helping my teen navigate the same philosophy it a lesser extent (not getting them golden goose sneakers or a CG puffer coat)

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Out of curiosity, what brand hoodies are the teens wearing that are $80 and $130? My 16 year old is wearing a danskin hoodie we got at Costco that she loves because it is super soft and my son is wearing a hooodie that I’m not sure where we bought but it may have been Costco. They might be social outcasts?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DS is 14 and asked for a $130 sweatshirt. He is a good kid and never asks for anything, truly. So we are getting it. But if this is the start of him wanting a collection of fancy clothes, we will have to think about it.

I generally do struggle with this. I buy my clothes from high end shops. Should I buy my kids’ clothes from cheaper places just to prove a point? He didn’t care until now so we have not spent a lot. But if he does…? Feels wrong for someone who hasn’t worked for it to get luxury goods.

I think it is fine to be them a couple pieces of higher end items they want if the value is there. Just like my own wardrobe, I splurge on luxury items and high quality items that are staples I will get a lot of wear out of and of a classic style. I would be ok helping my teen navigate the same philosophy it a lesser extent (not getting them golden goose sneakers or a CG puffer coat)

The difference, IMO, is that you will probably wear the high end item for a few years. If your teen is growing, they will more than likely only wear it for a year, maybe two. Also, they didn't work for it. I can kind of understand buying it for them as a present, but even then, it's an expensive present they'd only wear for a year.

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Anonymous wrote:Out of curiosity, what brand hoodies are the teens wearing that are $80 and $130? My 16 year old is wearing a danskin hoodie we got at Costco that she loves because it is super soft and my son is wearing a hooodie that I’m not sure where we bought but it may have been Costco. They might be social outcasts?

your kid is fine. My kids wear hoodies they got at H&M, and they love how soft it is. If your kid is a social outcast for not wearing name brand clothing, then the problem is the social circle.

My kids and their friends also go to the Goodwill to find deals. They have learned to be frugal and understand the value of money. The older one has a job, and we've given both kids allowances to teach them to budget and manage money.

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I make my child to have skin in the game. I'll buy expensive items for DC every months if DC makes varsity team at Langley HS during fall and spring seasons. Otherwise, it will be cheap clothes from GAP.

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Anonymous wrote:I make my child to have skin in the game. I'll buy expensive items for DC every months if DC makes varsity team at Langley HS during fall and spring seasons. Otherwise, it will be cheap clothes from GAP.

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I'm frugal with the kids's clothes (trying to get a few years of wear out of something, etc) but with the frequency that my DS wears hoodies I would think about getting the hoodie if it was a newutral color/good quality/looked like it would launder well. DS is also careful to not loose clothing. so I don't have to worry about that. It might be only $80 hoodie he has, but I view these few more expensive things as a condiment that spices up his regular wardrobe.

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I would not personally spend $80 on a thin, trendy hoody but I do spend that on a high quality hoody (think rei, ll bean, etc) with lining because my teen wears it every day in cool and cold weather. $80 is pretty cheap for a winter coat i think.