Is my MIL highly intuitive or listening in somehow?

[Anonymous]

New poster here. My ex MIL found my username at mothering.com AND a private spin off forum (trolls with wooden spoons) and developed this whole story from these very vague posts I made that I was a horrible person and went to the ER with an anxiety attack.


So yeah I believe OPs MIL could have bugged her house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my family members discovered her mom was checking in on them through their baby video monitor. She had been given access when she babysat once. I think it was just innocent and she wanted to see her grandchild, but it was definitely crossing boundaries, because you can hear all the audio too.

How did they discover this?!!

This is pretty common. Our ILs asked for the ring cam longings to the whole security system. Then my spouse didn’t have the guts to take their phones and log out. Same with our Netflix and Disney logins. He gives them out to family to look like a nice generous, successful guy . Meanwhile MiL is spying on all 6 cameras and I can’t download a movie for a flight since “too many devices have downloaded things recently.”

So I had to reset all the PWs myself and look like the bad guy.

[Anonymous]

This is fascinating. But I do have to point out that grandmas are not well known for their tech savy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is possible. With technology like phone bugs and nanny cams, it is absolutely possible.

I wouldn’t do the “let’s go to Mexico” thing, because that’s outlandish. Think of something else, like “Don’t tell grandma, but we won’t be doing Christmas with her anymore because she was rude to me.”

It’s harmless if she’s not listening, and it’s helpful if she is. Set a trap. Write an email to yourself and DD and send it ahead of time so there is a time stamp: “On August 1, Carla and Larla decided to play a prank on Mary to see if she’s listening to our conversations.” Describe in detail what you will do and send the email to yourselves so there is a time stamp.

What? And cause unnecessary family drama? Poor advice.

It's not "unnecessary" anything if she is digitally eavesdropping. Imagine defending behavior like that. Wow. And if she isn't, she won't hear it, so drama free!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is fascinating. But I do have to point out that grandmas are not well known for their tech savy.

Really, huh? This Grandma is. What a stupid comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is fascinating. But I do have to point out that grandmas are not well known for their tech savy.

Really, huh? This Grandma is. What a stupid comment.

Has this been established? Did OP attest to this particular grandma being a technology wiz?

Or are you just saying you, yourself, are a grandma and would definitely know how to bug a house and monitor effectively?

My dad was a computer scientist in the '80s but can't wrap his head around a flash drive now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually intuitive people have a history. Has your husband ever mentioned that his mother was particularly perceptive when he was growing up? It’s not like this…ability…would come out of nowhere all of a sudden.

Ugh. How old are you? Baseless woo created by people to feel more important than they really are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is fascinating. But I do have to point out that grandmas are not well known for their tech savy.

Really, huh? This Grandma is. What a stupid comment.

Slow clap. We know you’re a tech wiz: you use emojis in every text.

[Anonymous]

Most likely she is listening. She didn’t set it up herself either. It was professionally done.
Go to that room where you talked about Nike shoes and look there. It could be installed on electronic devices. Maybe hire a person to help you debug the house?

[Anonymous]

Can you give more examples? The shoe example could totally be that you're getting common ads because Google connected you by having been on the same wifi, other common interests, etc.

Anything more specific?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is fascinating. But I do have to point out that grandmas are not well known for their tech savy.

Maybe in 1988, but today this statement is ageist and perpetuates a false narrative.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe I'm even joining this conversation, but my 80 year old mother is HOPELESS with technology. She can't open PDFs. She can't operate a gas pump credit card machine. She mails all her bills in by hand, and when she travels I have to do it for her.

Thankfully "turn it off and back on again" fixes her problems 80% of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe I'm even joining this conversation, but my 80 year old mother is HOPELESS with technology. She can't open PDFs. She can't operate a gas pump credit card machine. She mails all her bills in by hand, and when she travels I have to do it for her.

Thankfully "turn it off and back on again" fixes her problems 80% of the time.

You do know that a number of grandmas now are 55-65 and can probably figure out how to hack your baby monitor or whatever.

[Anonymous]

My mother (77) lives with us and she LOVES the ring cameras, and the Find My app. She knows where everyone is (my family and my sister’s) and everything going on in our neighborhood. She loves to tell me all about it. She would bug somebody in a heartbeat if she knew how.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to guess that you have some kind of unknown shared account. Like you are somehow signed in on one of her devises so it impacts the things she sees. Did you check your email or sign in to social media on one of her devises and forget to sign out? Or maybe she did on one of yours?